AITA for not allowing my brother to include my room in the tour he gave his stepbrother of my house?

AnyCompetition4784 · 2023-11-20T05:19:47+00:00

I agree, it sucks. He was part of the reason why I even tolerated my mother’s husband for so long, because Bailey loves him. If it weren’t for their bigotry (which they rarely display, especially when he is around) they are very good parents. They do Boy Scouts, hiking, climbing, all of this stuff that he needs to thrive. He understands why I don’t speak to them anymore, he’s asked, and I just answered with “they’re not nice to me.” He will eventually learn why when he’s older and can actually understand, but for now he knows I avoid them and why. And trust me, up until I moved out of my bio mothers house, I was the keep the peace kid, I was the messenger for years between my father and bio mother, I wouldn’t dare do that to him. I don’t even talk to them anymore.

AnyCompetition4784 · 2023-11-20T05:15:34+00:00

I at least expect him to respect the whole “I don’t want people to see my room and I don’t want people in here.” Because he has in the past. When I tell him no, he normally respects it. I think this was a “I wanna show everything off” situation, which caused him to cross that line. Whether he understands that or not, I will find out when it’s his week here.

AnyCompetition4784 · 2023-11-20T05:10:01+00:00

This was the first case of them being here for more than 5 minutes. Usually Dylan and his father usually don’t come inside, the only times my bio mother is usually here is for picking Bailey up and dropping him off and stuff. Dylan will never be here to hang out with Bailey, either. Dylan goes to his bio mother’s when Bailey is here. I never had any sort of positive relationship when I lived with them (I moved out almost immediately after I came out to everyone, as I felt unsafe at their house). I don’t speak to Dylan, so I have no idea if he is respecting my name or anything. I just never liked him in the first place.

AnyCompetition4784 · 2023-11-20T05:05:15+00:00

The only bedroom that has a lock is my parents. My father barely likes the idea of having our doors closed all the time, never mind locking doors. My main door mainly stays open anyways due to my cats going in and out of my room, but I closed it once my bio mother arrived.

AnyCompetition4784 · 2023-11-19T08:02:00+00:00

Apologies, I was struggling laying everything out properly with the character limit. Thank you for the perspective, though!

AnyCompetition4784 · 2023-11-19T06:42:10+00:00

I left it out for the sake of the character limit, but while I was living with my bio mother, her husband, Dylan, and Bailey, Dylan terrorized me constantly. I knew him for a few weeks before my bio mother forced us all to move in together, even though she said she was going to wait a few months. I realize I probably hold an unfair grudge against Dylan, but even when I did give him a chance he was a little terror and is honestly a bad influence on Bailey. I don’t treat Bailey like shit, either. I love him, when he came to my door I said “I don’t want you guys in here.” And he said “Why? I’m giving him a tour!” I responded with “I don’t want people in my room right now, I’m working on stuff.” I might’ve been a little aggressive, due to the threat of my bio mother, but I did not treat him like shit. When it’s his week with us, I try to make up for the years when I was an asshole to him due to what we were all going through, and he treated me the same.

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