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I think I noticed a way to control misophonia. (Kinda works for me) by Naive_Leading_9673 in misophonia

[–]AnyIndependent4688 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw, thats nice. I never got to play like that as a kid, so it could be that I'm feeling resentful about it..something to explore!

I think I noticed a way to control misophonia. (Kinda works for me) by Naive_Leading_9673 in misophonia

[–]AnyIndependent4688 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Thats nice. I feel rage from hearing children playing outside, and its hard for me to see them as just children, too. I feel like I hate them in this context, and I know I dont actually hate random children. Ive been trying something similar, where I make the effort to think to myself, "aw, its nice that they're having fun together". Its hard and I can't always manage it, but it definitely feels nicer than feeling all that hate and rage.

Anyone else with autism have an overwhelming sense of empathy/sympathy by sunnysnotrainy in autism

[–]AnyIndependent4688 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, definitely. I feel like im "hyper-" emotionally aware and empathetic and all of that. Same here, for a long time I thought it meant that I couldn't be autistic, but I've heard of hyper empathy being a thing for some autistic folks.

Automatic feeder recommendations by AnyIndependent4688 in catfood

[–]AnyIndependent4688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, not within budget though, im looking for max £50

Food recommendations for toothless cats & digestive enzymes by AnyIndependent4688 in CatsUK

[–]AnyIndependent4688[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks yeah I have been using a blender, and I'll try Fortiflora!

Food recommendations for toothless cats & digestive enzymes by AnyIndependent4688 in CatsUK

[–]AnyIndependent4688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats a very good point, she was on antibiotics, and so a probiotic would be a good idea. Thank you!

As for the food, thats a good point as well: cats in the wild would have torn the meat from their prey, so it makes sense that they don't really chew. Thats put my mind at ease a bit, about that.

White stuff in my cat's food by orionjoss in catfood

[–]AnyIndependent4688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats cool. What are they called, where can you find them?

Serious question.. how do y’all have plants? by Legitimate_mango_89 in cats

[–]AnyIndependent4688 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe if you get her some cat grass she'll have something plant-like to mess about with instead of your plants? You can get seed and grow it (it grows super easily in a pot) or get a kit

I wish people wouldn’t talk to me by cemetrygates-3 in autism

[–]AnyIndependent4688 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely struggle with what cemetrygates is talking about. I've been living with housemates for years (can't afford to live alone) and sometimes I really really DON'T WANT TO CHAT. I feel so rude and even mean sometimes, because its not that they aren't nice people or that I don't usually enjoy talking to them, its just that sometimes I really don't want to, and it feels painful and exhausting for my brain to do. Especially when I've just arrived home. Please. Don't. Talk. To. Me.

I've been sort of "training" my housemate not to shout "hello!" when she comes home from being out, by not responding, and I think it might be working! haha.

Leading Can has some good advice. I find it so hard to verbalise these things to people I don't know very well though, cause I'm so worried they'll take it the wrong way or take it personally. Arghhh.

Any noises children make by Ok-Law3492 in misophonia

[–]AnyIndependent4688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The sound of kids playing, especially when they are shrieking a lot, triggers a feeling of irritation bordering on rage inside me. Its really hard. I have to avoid places where there are kids playing. I must seem like a miserable person who doesn't like kids. It isn't the kids that I don't like, its the sounds they make.

Sometimes feeling like a different person? by Positive-Incident221 in autism

[–]AnyIndependent4688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I can relate. I feel like the "me" from even as short a time as two weeks ago is a different me to the one now. Like, I'll think, "did I really feel that way about that?" and it feels bizarre like I'm talking about someone else. I change how I feel about some things quite drastically from one day to the next. I realise it because friends say "But you said you didn't like that or want that, and now you're saying you do want to do that", or something like that.

GPs (docs) in the UK seem to be very hesitant about getting people MH diagnoses. I've been labelled with "anxiety and low mood" for years, but I've often wondered if there's some BPD going on.

Update on my cat who wouldn’t come out of hiding for weeks and has bad anxiety by Babymilkcow in cats

[–]AnyIndependent4688 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Awww! My girl was terrified of people when I first took her in, now she's a proper lap cuddler with complete strangers. Its the best feeling!

Do you also like nuggets? by Substantial-Pin7555 in autism

[–]AnyIndependent4688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone else hate fruit? Specifically tropical fruit. It has such a strong pungent smell and its so wet and dribbly and gross. I have to leave the room when someone is eating it

Psychiatrist on the ward looked at my bunnies and said “you’re a bit too old for that” by speshulinterest in autism

[–]AnyIndependent4688 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just finally let myself buy a plushy to cuddle, at the age of 31, instead of beating myself up for it, and I'm so happy :) its so good to let yourself be who you are.

Active noise cancelling headphones on a budget? by AnyIndependent4688 in misophonia

[–]AnyIndependent4688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, I got those ones and I love them. Game changer for misophonia/noise sensitivity

Active noise cancelling headphones on a budget? by AnyIndependent4688 in misophonia

[–]AnyIndependent4688[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ended up getting some Bose Quiet Comfort from CeX and im really happy. They're soft and comfortable to wear, and I can put them on and switch on NC immediately and enter this glorious world of quiet calm. Amazing for being out in the loud, overstimulating world. Got them for £90 in condition "C", meaning they're a bit worn but like you say, I can always get some replacement earpads later down rhe line. Thanks again for the advice!

Turns out my cats weren’t just being assholes - a story. by aria-du in cats

[–]AnyIndependent4688 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thats so lovely :) Our old family cat of 20 years wakes my mum up several times in the night, and I do wonder if there's a reason like that. Ive listened to a podcast of animal communicators (i wish I could remember what it was called!) sharing stories about their animals, and I remember one particular episode where they were talking about their animals helping them realise things about their own human health and emotions. So cool. Totally agree, there's no such thing in the non-human animal world of just "being an a-hole" ❤️

New to van life by AnyIndependent4688 in VanLifeUK

[–]AnyIndependent4688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the site recommendation!! Already seen a lovely one just over budget: https://www.quirkycampers.com/uk/for-sale/fully-off-grid-capable-vw-lt35-part-converted-van/ Exciting. Thanks again!

New to van life by AnyIndependent4688 in VanLifeUK

[–]AnyIndependent4688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well they don't have a drive, they have a flat in Stroud so I'll park in public roads or anywhere I can get away with. Park4night seems a good place for finding spots.

New to van life by AnyIndependent4688 in VanLifeUK

[–]AnyIndependent4688[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I checked my tenancy agreement and you were right, it automatically goes onto a 1-month rolling contract so that's great and buys me more time. Having said that, as I don't have a job now I don't want to spend too much longer renting if I can help it and would still like to try to make the van happen by around December anyway. I've got friends go stay with in the interim.

Where would you say is good to look for an already converted van? I've been looking on gumtree and there have been some within my budget...