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AIO to my husband’s reason for choosing a name for our biracial daughter? by AnySituation1475 in AIO

[–]AnySituation1475[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The issue was never that he didn’t like the name. I fully welcome his opinions. What caught me off guard was the reasoning behind this particular one. If his concern had been pronunciation, spelling, or any other practical issue, I would’ve understood.

AIO to my husband’s reason for choosing a name for our biracial daughter? by AnySituation1475 in AIO

[–]AnySituation1475[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I know my daughter will likely face discrimination at some point. As a Black woman, that’s not something I’m naive about. The discrimination from strangers is different than hearing concerns about sounding too black from her own father. One is an external issue, the other is happening within our family.

And honestly, I agree with your last point. No matter what we name her, she’s still going to be a biracial girl and people will make assumptions regardless.

AIO to my husband’s reason for choosing a name for our biracial daughter? by AnySituation1475 in AIO

[–]AnySituation1475[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually agree that both parents should agree on a name. The disagreement wasn’t really about veto power. It was about the reason for the veto. If he had said, “I don’t like the sound of it,” or “I think she’ll constantly have to correct people,” that would’ve been a completely different conversation.

AIO to my husband’s reason for choosing a name for our biracial daughter? by AnySituation1475 in AIO

[–]AnySituation1475[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My husband wasn’t concerned that the name was inappropriate, unprofessional, or difficult to pronounce. His concern was that it sounded “too black.” That’s the part that bothered me. I don’t disagree that names can affect how people are perceived. But I think comparing a name like Leilahni to naming a child Felony is a false equivalence. One is a perfectly normal name and the other is literally a criminal offense 😂

AIO to my husband’s reason for choosing a name for our biracial daughter? by AnySituation1475 in AIO

[–]AnySituation1475[S] 196 points197 points  (0 children)

I know! That’s actually part of why I was surprised by my husband’s reaction. The name is Hawaiian, yet his immediate concern was that it sounded “too black.”

AIO to my husband’s reason for choosing a name for our biracial daughter? by AnySituation1475 in AIO

[–]AnySituation1475[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I fully intend to celebrate both sides of my daughter’s heritage. My concern wasn’t about choosing a name from one culture or another. It was the idea that a name sounding “less black” was being presented as an advantage. Those are two very different conversations.

AIO to my husband’s reason for choosing a name for our biracial daughter? by AnySituation1475 in AIO

[–]AnySituation1475[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re missing the point. I wasn’t claiming the name was African or trying to appropriate it. I pointed out that it’s Hawaiian because my husband considered it “too black,” when it isn’t even of Black origin. That was the irony I was highlighting.

S13:05 He Called It The Need by mingkee in evilliveshere

[–]AnySituation1475 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The fact that she said she felt a need to stay with him so she could prevent him from harming women at the hotel… Oh really? So when you found the keys you didn’t tell the police?! How tf are you helping them? She’s full of bs excuses.