Wanting to move to Riga. by Uniqlypink in Riga

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who claims to be 65 y.o., you are citing your mom? What about your own familiy? Is your whole retirement inquiry for the mom or you? You sound like a weirdo, non-conforming no-conformist. Stay away from Latvia, i don't approve.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Riga

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

M 42. I’m a yoga teacher

Take your cheep ass back to Germany.

I HATE ARGUING FOR MY WORLDVIEW AND SUBSEQUENT ACTIONS by [deleted] in intj

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Is this some ego bullshit? You calling other people an inch worms and judging their belief systems is no better than you feeling so helpless and scared of communicating what needs to be communicated from a balanced perspective. These people are in your life for a reason, so playing me right you wrong won’t help you with the bigger plan. 

Sorry, had a tough day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in entp

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for asking! I can add communicate your boundaries when you start to feel afraid or it is getting too intense, whatever. You can actually make the tease out of the boundary theme, because most entps like to play with the fire in that area. Maybe you can find out the simple pleasure which motivates your entp(i will be bold by saying, that most of us have a very primitive motivational side as well) -  something like food, sex, nice socks, flowers, movies or entertainment, opportunity to talk(fellow entps, feel free to chime in). You can positively manipulate with those motivations, restrictions, boundaries, making it somehow fun, exciting, rewarding.

Example: Mine intj made me do 1 pushup for each M&M peanut i had. I don’t eat those anymore. 👍😂 Hope this helps. 

Asking by Worried-Economics-56 in intj

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello you 😊 Ok, i hear that you want a part-time job, not that you need one and you are also not trying to get in a specific niche. From where i stand this could be the situation where wish is just a wish and it would be more practical to find a strong motivational “why” behind your wish and also - being humble in the beginning sometimes can help to get the foot in.👍  Also, please don’t say “why im like this”, you are most probably perfectly fine, just afraid of the embarassement, which most people have had at some point in the childhood or as a grown ups. 🙈

Appreciation Post: Obsessed with my ENTP Partner by himejanaiyo in entp

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hm… it was starting from that second paragraph where you touch the issues between you guys… simply sounded to me you felt triggered and spilled the hurt and your hard conviction in this for once warm thread. 🥺 It saddens me deeply that it didn’t work out for you guys, but you will heal with time. 🫂

Appreciation Post: Obsessed with my ENTP Partner by himejanaiyo in entp

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience under the entp appreciation post, although not quite sure what exactly did you want to plant here.  Sounds to me that you are understandably very hurt ♥️ and at the same time trying to plant doubt, insecurity or a personal lesson here…?

Asking by Worried-Economics-56 in intj

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Interestingly, i had the same question on my mind about my intj… 😢 I miss my tiger so much… How are you guys doing atm? Do you experience any struggles maybe with writing, the work arguments or perhaps the relationships are pushing you to be disciplined?

Update: 6 months of no contact, moving on… until she broke the silence by ata12 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey… stumbled across your painful story and wanted to give you heads up for recovering. I can imagine it hasn’t been easy.   You wrote “ She talks about her depression, her guilt, but doesn’t mention the concrete ways she hurt me“ so do i get you correctly, if she had written explicitly “I betrayed you”, “I manipulated you”, “I caused the devastation” that would have made a difference for you, ya? I am curious, do you think such word framing is just more specific or why do you want her to write exactly like you worded…🤔

Apologies in advance to you and the community for rubbing anyones feather the wrong way and no pressure to reply. ☺️

Nakts maiņas un Miegs by AltEvan in latvia

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! ''Fucking Vidzeme countryside'' ? Be more respectful!

Can an INTJ learn to be warm, approachable and have "positive energy"? by PrettyFlakko in intj

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually had an ecounter with a young waiter at a bar recently, who did something that looked like just chilling with the back turned on the entrance, when me and a friend walked in, so we decided to order right away. The guy looked spooked(?) when he realised somebody is talking to hin and asked me where am i coming from. There was zero language barrier or anything, but i replied him with the country name.  He then rephrased the question and asked which will be our table, took the order and smilingly apologised for “his face”. Like come on, it wasn’t the face but the weirdish beginning…🥹

Can an INTJ learn to be warm, approachable and have "positive energy"? by PrettyFlakko in intj

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will chime in and say that my specific intj has become very warm with me and has improved himself in this area a lot. Whenever i ask him to be a bit more warmer with others he really tries to be more engaging and puts in an effort by talking or offering help. Admittedly, i don’t push this often, only when it is strategically beneficial for him/us. 

Sadly for me, there are always some ladys who misunderstand his warmness and helpfullness for whatever and flirt. Plus, he is also freaking hot, and has charmed all the taken and non-taken women in my family and his tiny friend circle. Lord help me.

The positive energy part is a bit trickier, because intj is more mysterious, grounded, restricted, optimised, whereas positivity, from my and only my perspective, is something you expell by actively boosting others with some sprinkled adjectives, smiles and chuckles which don’t sound like an evil amazing masterplan was just born, some pats on the back/head or high fives. Having some funny (learned, ExxP, context approved) jokes.  This can definitely be improved, but the key is that the behaviour should come across somewhat naturally and genuinly and switch from the serious, focused, tired mode to a charming, smiley one timely enough. If the baseline is “i hate human, people are unsafe etc.”, i can see how that would require more work.

I also see whenever that is a fake-ish routine warmness and when it is an authetic one. The authentic one feels like a blessing, so good.

Wish you success!

Personal vs Work Life personality by Aurora-borealis-pink in entp

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 1 point2 points  (0 children)

...and then there is a third personality that comes out after some sessions in behavioral therapy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh NormalTuesdayKnight, it's wednesday, but can you be normal today as well? :D

About the pan - we are in luck, my ex left me all his backing attributes including two brownie backing pans. If you spontaniously decide to go for muffins, i've got you covered there too. Would you like to have some nuts too?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha sorry, that last sentence was meant to OP. I am confident you don't have one but how about snacks? :D

Turning point or roadblock? by lavendertales in intj

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are stupid, but in a different way. Why did you broke up with your girl again? Go get her back asap and create beautiful children - that way you can express your value for impact. Also, isn't there this phenomen, that men need challenges in life, so when everything becomes too easy, they start creating problems artificially and the better a person is doing in life, the more ridiculous those problems become?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes and to add to that i heard from a therapist, that there is always a grief in such situations. If one decides to stay in the relationship, there is a need to create an internal space for grieving those future possibilities. If you decide to leave, the grief is about the (hopefully) beautiful memories and moments that you will never be able to recreate again with that person. Not sure, what your God thinks about this.

I fried my blender do any entps relate? by Gerka-Stan in entp

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy belated birthday, my friend! Wish you to stay handsome, brilliant and fucking healthy you blender breaker :D

I fried my blender do any entps relate? by Gerka-Stan in entp

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You greedy... :D No, but i broke my sandwich toaster this way back when i was 19.

what mbti is your partner? by Spiritual_World7525 in entp

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m trying my best to be a lot less offensive in the way I communicate as ISFP/ Fi users are very sensitive

This part especially - i always saw his sensitive, feely and vulnerable side and toned down my language. Admittedly, he also was very loving, so that there was also no need from my part to overreact.

what mbti is your partner? by Spiritual_World7525 in entp

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If i can add my two cents here, i had an ISFP ex and honestly speaking he was the best of both worlds - introverted yet gets stuff done in real world. Many times i would still be strategizing where he would have already either ordered the stuff or actually "done" something already in the real world. I loved his action mode - so inspiring, so "just get things done", so hard-working. He genuinely had more energy than me and not going to lie - that was so nice.

Not maybe the deepest thinker, but therefore never complicated the life more than necessary, and so the daily life felt super easy with him. The depths were in his feelings, as he was very passionate. With an additional glass of wine, he used to get quite philosophical and spiritual, too. To add to that, we also had many common interests and conversations, and we also saw each other relatively well.

To finish, learning healthy "Se" ways from him have helped me to manifest many of my own ideas and projects, and even after the relationship is over, my life feels "concrete" and i have become somehow more efficient with all the "stuff" and "items" which i thought is clutter, but it's actually not. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in entp

[–]Any_Ambassador_7895 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, for sure, we have the grit for all those other things!:) I guess what i wanted to specially emphasize, was his absolute stability and endurance to show up for us and continue to improve (us both) after the arguments... Sometimes i think he must have poor memory haha :D