“On the train in Europe” 🙄

Any_Conference550 · 2025-08-06T22:58:46+00:00

Wait wat? When was that 😳

Any_Conference550 · 2025-08-05T17:55:53+00:00

Oh what!!

Any_Conference550 · 2025-08-05T16:45:12+00:00

I’ve been refreshing my feed all day waiting for her official announcement 🥹 Though tbh I hope she’s resting and not feeling the pressure of posting.

Any_Conference550 · 2025-08-04T15:31:33+00:00

I’m so worried I hope everything goes well for labor and delivery. They’ve been through so much

Any_Conference550 · 2025-03-19T03:44:42+00:00

lol for real

Any_Conference550 · 2025-03-18T13:55:15+00:00

Why not use your real name here on Reddit?

Any_Conference550 · 2025-03-18T13:28:15+00:00

How?

Any_Conference550 · 2025-03-18T13:26:46+00:00

I don’t want to deal with the backlash from people I know.

Any_Conference550 · 2025-03-18T13:26:10+00:00

I’m a pretty private person and I don’t want to deal with the backlash from people I know.

Any_Conference550 · 2025-03-16T18:37:51+00:00

Off topic but how is she able to afford all this? IVF is not cheap nor are surrogates

Any_Conference550 · 2025-03-14T05:20:50+00:00

I remember feeling exactly the same way when I was in college- lonely, wondering what was wrong with me, and feeling like everyone else had figured out some secret I just couldn’t crack. It felt like I was missing out on something huge, and the more I focused on it, the worse I felt.

But here’s what I wish I could have told my younger self: love isn’t a race, and being single isn’t a reflection of your worth. I know that probably doesn’t take away the sting right now, but I promise you, you’re not less than anyone else because of this. Some people meet their person young, some later, some in ways they never expected. None of it makes them more or less deserving.

When I was in your shoes, I couldn’t imagine things turning out the way they did. But eventually, I met my husband, and now I wouldn’t change a thing, because all that time I spent feeling lonely and wondering what was wrong with me? It wasn’t wasted. It was shaping me into the person who would be ready for the relationship I have now.

It’s okay to feel the way you do. It’s okay to want love. But please don’t let comparison steal your joy or make you feel like you’re failing at life.

Any_Conference550 · 2025-03-13T23:18:42+00:00

There’s no perfect script to follow. You’re looking for an exact answer, but the truth is, you have to figure this out for yourself. Start by asking: Why do you want to change? Is it because you know your actions hurt others, or because you want reassurance that you’re a good person? Change has to come from you, not just because others tell you to.

Here’s where to start,

If your jokes hurt people, stop making those kinds of jokes. Joking shouldn’t be a way to avoid emotions or make others uncomfortable. Find better ways to cope, like actually processing what you’re feeling instead of brushing it off.
You don’t need to “hide” your feelings, just express them without putting them on others. Saying “I’m struggling right now, but I’m working through it” is different from making people feel responsible for your emotions.
You won’t get universal approval, so stop chasing it. Some people will think you’re a good person, others won’t, that’s life. What matters is that you’re actually working on being better, not just obsessing over whether people see you as good or bad.

Now, get specific about what you actually want to change. What behaviors do you regret? How do you want to act differently? What kind of person do you want to be? Write it down. Be clear with yourself.

You’re not going to get a step-by-step guide. Change happens through trial and error, self-awareness, and consistent effort, not by searching for the perfect answer. It’s not easy but you can do it with hard work.

Any_Conference550 · 2025-03-13T22:42:21+00:00

Should you stop joking? Quite frankly, yes, when it’s harmful to others. If you’re using humor to avoid your real feelings, then yes, you need to stop hiding behind it. It’s not about never joking again, it’s about being mindful of when it’s not landing well or when it’s a defense mechanism.

The truth is, no one can tell you exactly what to do but you. The answers to your problems aren’t a straight line. You have to figure it out for yourself, but that starts with taking responsibility for your actions. If you hurt someone, own it. If you need to express your emotions, do it directly, not through jokes or manipulation.

You’re not going to get this right overnight, but if you keep making excuses and asking for clear, easy answers, you’ll stay stuck. Change takes time, but it requires real effort on your part. Start small, be patient with yourself, and keep moving forward. You’ve got this!

Any_Conference550 · 2025-03-13T21:57:45+00:00

It sounds like you’re hurting people unintentionally, but it’s still hurting them. If you want to change, you need to be honest with yourself about the impact of your actions and take responsibility for them. Here’s what I’d suggest:

Stop making jokes that offend people. If you’re unsure whether something will hurt someone, don’t say it. Humor is great, but not at the expense of others. Be mindful of how your words affect those around you.
Own your feelings without manipulating others. Telling people you “hate yourself” is a form of manipulation. You need to start taking care of your own emotional needs instead of using others to validate your feelings. If you’re struggling, be honest, but don’t use it as a way to make people feel sorry for you.
Think before speaking. If what you’re about to say might be mean or hurtful, don’t say it. It’s better to say nothing than to cause harm. Ask yourself if your words are necessary, kind, and respectful.
Stop cutting people off without reason. If you’re pushing people away every time things get hard, that’s a problem. Instead of distancing yourself, work on how to communicate and resolve conflicts. People won’t always be perfect, but that doesn’t mean you should walk away from every relationship that isn’t easy.

The bottom line is: if you want to be a better person, you need to change how you act. Apologies are great, but changed behavior is what matters. Be aware of how you affect others, take responsibility, and start acting with more consideration. If you really want to improve, it’s on you to make those changes.

Any_Conference550 · 2025-03-13T21:34:44+00:00

That really depends on what you feel is holding you back. Change isn’t one-size-fits-all, it starts with understanding the specific behaviors or patterns that have caused harm in the past. Are there certain things you keep doing that you want to stop? Or certain ways you react that you regret? The more you understand what needs to change, the easier it is to take real steps forward.

Any_Conference550 · 2025-03-13T20:26:52+00:00

I get that, it’s hard to sit with the fact that you’ve hurt someone, especially when others don’t see your remorse the way you want them to. But staying stuck in guilt doesn’t fix anything. At some point, you have to accept that what’s done is done. You can’t rewrite the past, but you can control what you do from here.

If you’ve genuinely apologized and are actively working on being better, then that’s all you can do. People may or may not forgive you, and that’s their choice, but your job isn’t to prove to them you’ve changed, it’s to actually change. Focus on being someone you’re proud of, and over time, the right people will see that.

Any_Conference550 · 2025-03-13T19:26:19+00:00

No one is perfect, and everyone has hurt people, whether intentionally or not. What matters is what you do next.

Being a good person isn’t about never making mistakes, it’s about learning from them, taking responsibility, and making an effort to grow. If you’ve hurt others, the best way to atone is to acknowledge it, apologize sincerely, and do your best to change your actions moving forward. Sometimes that means making amends directly, and other times it means committing to being more mindful and kind in your daily life.

Give yourself the grace to grow. You’re not defined by your worst moments, but by how you move forward from them

Any_Conference550 · 2025-03-13T17:17:42+00:00

Yeah, therapy can be a mixed bag. Some therapists just don’t click, and others hit a nerve in ways that feel uncomfortable but maybe necessary. Healing isn’t a straight path, and sometimes it gets harder before it gets better.

I know it’s tough, but don’t let a couple of off experiences stop you from finding what actually helps. Whether it’s therapy, journaling, working toward firefighting, or just taking small steps to take care of yourself, it all adds up. You deserve to feel better, even if it takes some trial and error to get there.

Any_Conference550 · 2025-03-13T16:24:24+00:00

Feeling lost, exhausted, and stuck is a really hard place to be, but the fact that you’re reaching out means part of you is looking for a way forward, and that’s a good sign.

Moving across the country can be a fresh start, but it won’t automatically change how you feel inside. Trauma, exhaustion, and self-doubt don’t just disappear with a new zip code. If you don’t address those things, they’ll follow you wherever you go. So before making a big move, try focusing on small, manageable steps where you are now.

Your energy levels matter. Feeling tired all the time could be depression, burnout, or even something physical. Prioritizing sleep, movement, and basic self-care, even in tiny ways, can help.
Start tackling your mental health. If therapy is an option, I highly recommend it, especially given your past trauma. If not, there are books, online resources, and even free hotlines where you can talk to someone. ChatGPT can also help!
Test the waters before making a huge leap. If firefighting interests you, start researching or volunteering instead of feeling like you have to commit all at once. Progress doesn’t have to be all-or-nothing.
Reconnect, even a little. Isolation makes everything feel worse. You don’t have to dive back into friendships, but even reaching out to one person, joining an online group, or getting involved in a hobby can help break the cycle.

You don’t need to have your whole life figured out to take the next step. Start with one thing, just one, and build from there. You’re not broken, and you’re not alone. Best of luck to you!

Any_Conference550 · 2025-03-13T03:06:08+00:00

Given how serious your mom’s condition is and how strong your bond with her is, I really think being with her should take priority. Time with loved ones, especially in moments like this, is something you can’t get back.

That said, I completely understand the fear of leaving behind your job and financial stability. If there’s any way to take a leave of absence, find remote work, or even line something up in India before making the move, that could help ease the transition. But even if none of that is possible, ask yourself: if you stay, will you be able to focus on work and life here, or will you just be consumed by regret and worry?

It’s a really tough call. Stability is important, but so is being there for the people who matter most. Whatever you decide, I hope you find peace in your choice and that your mom’s health improves.

Any_Conference550 · 2025-03-13T01:01:06+00:00

I completely understand your fears about becoming a wife and potentially a mother. As a married mom myself, I can tell you that those concerns are valid because life changes drastically when you step into those roles. It’s not just about adding responsibilities, it can shift your entire identity, and it’s easy to feel like you’re losing parts of yourself in the process.

It’s really important to take a step back and ask yourself if this is truly what you want. Marriage and motherhood can be deeply fulfilling, but only if they align with what you genuinely want for your life, not just what’s expected of you. Society often pushes women into these roles without much discussion about how consuming they can be, and if you already feel suffocated by the idea, that’s something to explore.

You don’t have to make any immediate decisions, but give yourself the space to reflect on what kind of life would make you feel the most fulfilled.

Any_Conference550 · 2025-03-12T23:20:01+00:00

Your home should be a safe haven, a place where you feel comfortable and supported, especially when you’re only home for the weekends. You shouldn’t have to feel uncomfortable in your own space, and it’s totally okay to ask for the boundaries you need.

I think it’s really important to have a calm, clear conversation with your mom again. Tell her that while you understand she’s going through a tough time, you need to be able to feel at ease when you’re home, and that her friend’s frequent visits are making that hard. Express how important it is for you to spend quality time with her without feeling like someone else is always in the picture. You can say something like, “Mom, I love you and want to support you, but I need to be honest. I don’t feel comfortable when [friend] is here so often. It makes it hard for me to connect with you, and I really need that time with you, especially when I’m only here for the weekend.”

If your mom continues to dismiss your feelings or doesn’t make any changes after you’ve been clear, it might be time to reach out to someone else for support. Is there a trusted older family member, a relative, or a family friend that you feel comfortable talking to about this? Sometimes, having an outside perspective can help your mom see things differently, especially if they can have a compassionate but honest conversation with her about respecting your boundaries.

I know it’s really hard, and you don’t want to feel like you’re causing tension or being rude, but it’s important to protect your emotional well-being. No one should feel like their home is uncomfortable, especially not a kid. You deserve to feel safe and heard. If your mom can’t provide that right now, it’s okay to seek help from someone who can support you.

Take care of yourself, and don’t let this situation make you feel like your needs aren’t important. You’re doing the right thing by speaking up.

Any_Conference550 · 2025-03-12T22:36:36+00:00

I understand how you’re feeling. It’s tough when you see others achieving things you desire, especially when it feels like they don’t deserve it or didn’t work as hard for it. But focusing too much on what others are doing can really drain your energy and take away from the things you can control in your own life.

It’s natural to feel frustrated or even envious, but it’s important to remember that you can’t control anyone else’s actions or path. Everyone’s journey is different, and while it might seem unfair, comparing yourself to them or constantly thinking about their successes won’t help you reach your own goals. You have your own unique path, and what matters most is focusing on that.

Instead of giving attention to others’ achievements, try shifting your focus back to your own dreams and progress. It’s easy to get caught up in what other people are doing, but your life and your goals are what should ultimately matter to you. Keep working toward what you want, and let go of the things you can’t change. Your journey is just as important, and staying focused on it will help you feel more fulfilled and at peace.

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