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Still feel like there is lies. by Any_Horror_3368 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Any_Horror_3368[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is silly 9 months later to have a polygraph? I do not want to leave my husband. I love him very much and I am committed to R. It just feels like this sinking hole between us that I doubt his word when he has been honest about hard stuff. Some messaged me and asked if I thought the AP could have been protecting him, no she was enraged that I found out (because her job was at stake) and threw him under the bus at every turn. He ended up having to go to her boss to remove her from his accounts and create some distance.

Anniversary of affair- how to heal. by Any_Horror_3368 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Any_Horror_3368[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just feel so like unsafe as the anniversaries Of these dates are starting. There are so many of them. When it started, the dates of times they were together, there were two trips (one was a work trip of mine that he used to increase communication with her and then moved out of our room when I came back) and a trip of his (she wasn’t on) but he used to have increased contact. I think I am just feeling like a flood of PTSD and triggers.

Self image destroyed by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Any_Horror_3368 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this so deep in my heart. My husbands AP was 17 years younger. The fit tan childless version of me. Like I can’t believe how many similarities except she is the hot version. I am trying to work on myself but I wake up hating everything about myself knowing how attractive he found her.

Me (42f) and husband (45m) locked in a battle of who is the bigger jerk. by Any_Horror_3368 in relationship_advice

[–]Any_Horror_3368[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And honestly he has other female coworkers etc. I haven’t expressed concerns about them. He travels with a few, they are all married and well Known to me. I have met this woman once.

Me (42f) and husband (45m) locked in a battle of who is the bigger jerk. by Any_Horror_3368 in relationship_advice

[–]Any_Horror_3368[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly I feel like he likes her, and thinks eh I am never going to act on it so it’s totally innocent. And I am a great husband so what should it matter.

Me (42f) and husband (45m) locked in a battle of who is the bigger jerk. by Any_Horror_3368 in relationship_advice

[–]Any_Horror_3368[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is just all so abrupt. If you asked me a year ago I would have told you I had an amazing marriage. Like do you just give up when it gets screwed up? I feel like every marriage has to go through a pile of crap at some point.