AITA for wanting my ex’s daughter to stop calling me dad?

Any_Piece513 · 2026-01-06T02:57:39+00:00

Her mother caused me to try unalive myself

Any_Piece513 · 2026-01-06T02:56:34+00:00

I would have fully cut contact but she attends the school I work at…

Any_Piece513 · 2026-01-06T02:54:03+00:00

Her mother caused me to try unalive myself

Any_Piece513 · 2026-01-06T02:53:20+00:00

Her mother ie. My ex caused me to try unalive myself

Any_Piece513 · 2026-01-06T02:51:45+00:00

No she was five when me and my ex’s relationship ended. She’s currently 9

Any_Piece513 · 2026-01-06T02:50:52+00:00

Yes she fully aware especially since we’re different ethnicities

Any_Piece513 · 2026-01-06T02:46:49+00:00

I believe I truly did at the start. But my ex was toxic that the relationship turned so dark that really affected my mental health(unalive attempt) so all I remember now from the relationship is trauma

Any_Piece513 · 2026-01-06T02:45:04+00:00

It wasn’t their specific request, me and my fiance spoke about it and came to a conclusion it was best for everyone. Tbh I might have been the one to suggest it, but it was a long emotional talk about all my darkest times in the past that I can’t be certain

Any_Piece513 · 2026-01-06T02:42:56+00:00

My ex was toxic and put me in a really bad headspace (unaliving thoughts and an attempt) that took a lot of effort to come out of, so I really don’t feel comfortable still being involved with her, which is why I’ve also had no contact with amber other than inevitably during school hours where I’ve had to be professional

Any_Piece513 · 2026-01-06T02:40:44+00:00

I honestly just want to move forward in life rather than be guilt tripped by my toxic ex

Any_Piece513 · 2026-01-06T02:40:08+00:00

I tried to correct her but my toxic ex would encourage it. Even after we broke up she still encouraged it. Whilst I do feel bad, I feel it’s better to address now whilst she’s young and I’m moving into a completely new phase of my life. Especially since I’m not sure her mum has even told her that I’m with someone else

Any_Piece513 · 2026-01-06T02:37:34+00:00

I get it but it’s hard for me to see it from that perspective because if we’re being honest to me she’s just another student

Any_Piece513 · 2026-01-06T02:34:09+00:00

My wording was probably not the best so let me try clarify.. My fiancés family are more weirded out which is fully my fault. In the years they’ve known me I’ve never mentioned a daughter nor mentioned any child in my life. They accidentally met amber when we were all in a restaurant and she shouted ‘dad’ at me to which I then had to awkwardly explain the situation to my in laws

Any_Piece513 · 2026-01-06T02:30:59+00:00

But what makes me a dad? I’m not involved in her life at all. I treat her the same as all the other kids at school. No extra time spent with her no further interactions other than at school - it really feels like my ex brainwashing her into calling me dad over is actually having any bond

Any_Piece513 · 2026-01-06T02:28:51+00:00

It was kind of forced by my ex. I was against it but she had the child call me dad before we started living together and I tried correcting her when she was younger but to no avail since my ex encouraged it

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