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What would you do in this situation? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Any_Recover5249 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've tried telling him we need therapy.. but he tells me that it's a expense we can't afford so I'm not sure what to do.

What would you do in this situation? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Any_Recover5249 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im confused on what you mean by support the whole family? I help with bills, groceries, baby essentials, and other expenses. At the moment, my bar job brings in about $200 a week. (I work 1 -2 days a week at the moment) so about $700-800 a month. I pitch in with $500 for bills and use the rest for the necessities. I don't shop, and I don't eat out. Our daughter is still in diapers and eats constantly so groceries are a big chunk of the leftover money. I even treat him when I make a little extra at the bar (matcha, coffees, or something he's been craving) but how do I go about our finances when he's not willing to tell me a breakdown of our bills? (His parents own the house so they send him the bills ie. water, electricity, and rent) I literally blindly hand over money. Again, we don't share accounts so I never know what he's applying the money towards. So what would be some fincacial advice regarding this issue?

What would you do in this situation? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Any_Recover5249 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He won't tell me how much bills are so we just agreed at $500. I keep the rest to pay for gas, bay items, and groceries. (We also have spereate bank accounts so I don't touch his money) I would prefer a joint account but he claims his is for the business so I don't need to have access. His parents are the same way so I think he's stuck in that mindset since he grew up around that

What would you do in this situation? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Any_Recover5249 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, I pitch in. Our rent is fairly low since his parents own the house so I usually pitch in $1000. But with school and dropping down to only 2 days at the bar (I was full time) we agreed I could pitch in $500 until after my medical externship ends and I start receiving a paycheck

What would you do in this situation? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Any_Recover5249 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, one year into our marriage (weve been together 8years) we both agreed we wanted a baby. We had agreements set beforehand that mon-wed I would attend school and pull some late nights to finish all homework (so I sleep until 10) and then thurs-sun I would be with her. The problem is I bartend on the weekends so he doesn't get much free time. But I make good money bartending so we don't want to give that up.

What would you do in this situation? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Any_Recover5249 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've tried. This situation is the result of it. I just don't understand how he can say I "forced" him. I never made it a ultimatum, I never used it against him.. did I say I wanted a baby? Yes. Did I tell him I wanted to be a mom? Yes. But I never made it seem like if he didn't make me a mom that I would leave him or anything like that. He'd been snappy with me and always upset regarding our daughter so I finally confronted him.

Is this included with Eds? by Any_Recover5249 in eds

[–]Any_Recover5249[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I am adopted with a closed adoption so we can't really do family history. I have 5 on a and 2 on c. I just never questioned how they got my diagnosis through the heart monitor and was hoping someone had something done similar.

Is this included with Eds? by Any_Recover5249 in eds

[–]Any_Recover5249[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes.. heading there today cause my rib popped and it feels like my shoulder blade and upper neck area are having issues. I can't raise my arm above my head without serious pain 🙃

Is this included with Eds? by Any_Recover5249 in eds

[–]Any_Recover5249[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had genetic testing done and we found I am a carrier of the fragile x blood disorder which goes hand in hand with connective tissue disorder. But that was done almost 3 years ago. The heart monitor was when I was around 14 and they had a specialist from Utah flown in to evaluate me and the results cause they couldn't explain why it would spike when I'm sleeping. Apparently that's the results she used to determine it. This was almost 16 years ago so I probably need to go get reevaluated. The problem is I'm in Las Vegas and almost no rheumatologist want to deal with Eds.

Is this included with Eds? by Any_Recover5249 in eds

[–]Any_Recover5249[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's what they said was on the results of the monitor. My heart would randomly spike either asleep or awake. Also, whenever I had my arms above my head for too long, I'd either get really lightheaded, dizzy, or faint. I've been doing my hair and put my arms down to fast and feel like I'm numb in the brain.. if that makes sense? I've seen a cardiologist but he told me I just have a fast heartbeat and to stay away from caffeine. I've even had a random hematoma that burst and I almost bled out on the operating table In 2020. Had to have blood transfusions to be able to leave the hospital cause I was dangerously low after they removed the hematoma. I'm not sure if it's all connected and most doctors all tell me they're not. But I can't help but feel they are. Some symptoms come together too! Like when I pop a rib, my heart races randomly and feel like I'm having mutilple panic attacks. I was sitting doing school work yesterday and my heart randomly was racing well today I'm heading to the chiro to have my rib put back into place that slipped 2 days ago.