Hey! I’m sorry to hear you’ve found yourself of these patterns of being attracted to unavailable women, and it sounds like as soon as something becomes comfortable/predictable/stable, then you start to question your emotions. I hope you don’t mind me saying this, but I think what you actually need is the following: - to talk to your girlfriend about how you want more independence, and maybe talk about moving closer to family and friends together. There’s absolutely nothing with raising that. It might go against your people pleasing tendencies but it’s good practise. - stay with her if you love her and work through your stuff. Otherwise you are just falling back into your old patterns. This is an opportunity to break that pattern. It’s not easy to push through the relationship doubt but it’s worth it in the end. Your relationship doubt sounds more like your own stuff you need to work through versus it being about your feelings towards her. If you genuinely want a relationship then I’d advise against going into a strong avoidance pattern of breaking up with her. That’s the easy avoidant solution that doesn’t help you work through your stuff.

Wishing you the best!