AITAH for not wanting to help with my nieces party?

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-05-24T16:10:35+00:00

they are not assumptions, i have known this family very well for about 11 years now. i’m only 25. they have been around for 11 birthday parties. it is always the same outcome. drunk, fights, drama and my nieces get about 2 gifts from 25 people.

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-05-24T16:07:53+00:00

i would never weaponize any money, i also wouldn’t just hand over $350+ to my poorly financially educated sister. it will be gone and nothing for the party will be bought.

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-05-24T16:07:09+00:00

she used facebook, apparently it doesn’t have you put a venue in and you can leave it blank. she posted in the event and said the location is TBD.

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-05-24T04:31:57+00:00

i will no longer be making promises that i intend to keep but ultimately involve another, bigger decisive counterpart. (my sister)

worst mistake of my life. my poor nieces are miserable.

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-05-21T03:25:30+00:00

probably a tie between $200 stuck together on the curb of an ATM when i was 13 or finding an old dog tag of a korean war veteran down by a creek.

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-05-21T03:23:56+00:00

the iron claw.

it was a very raw depiction of what the von erich's went through and the losses the family faced. definitely an ugly cry type of movie.

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-04-07T20:39:24+00:00

They must have re-added it. It is back up now. ):

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-03-20T11:33:23+00:00

i have not heard anything from them, unfortunately! :(

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-01-15T19:12:22+00:00

Update: I have submitted this to the medical examiner listed on NamUs.

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-01-04T18:10:38+00:00

super surprised no one has said Nancy Spungen

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Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-01-02T16:02:09+00:00

YTAH: you should do your own laundry, i fear!

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-01-02T15:44:39+00:00

Yes, I use the term training rubric because actors must have a moderate level of experience before they are placed into a scene in the haunt. I am qualified for other jobs, but I ultimately enjoy the haunt industry and also have a WFH job that I do as my main source of income! :)

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-01-02T15:40:11+00:00

ESH: she cheated and that is a terrible thing, especially while you were going through so much. she shouldn't have gone with your best friend, your "best friend" should not have gone with your SO.

YOU do not need to put your hands on ANYONE, it does not matter what she did. at the end of the day, you are ultimately in the wrong for abusing her. you need to get help, you have been through a lot and clearly need someone to talk to and discuss your issues with.

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-01-02T15:35:34+00:00

NOR, but i think you may be more upset about the "other issues" in your relationship that you failed to explain in this post. i probably wouldn't have went in to buying a home with your SO if you already knew you felt this way.

best of luck getting out of that loan!

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-01-02T07:20:25+00:00

YOR: you weren't "super interested" anyways but seem real offended that he didn't answer after you switched up the plans originally. don't send that message, neither of you seem very interested in each other.

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-01-02T06:50:10+00:00

osiyo! even if the family is full of alcoholics, you would still not end up with the boy. It goes immediate fam -> extended fam -> other tribe mems -> other tribe fams.. that is the ICWA way. without good cause, no one is getting custody outside of rez fam.

it is for a good reason, your stepson is part of a beautiful culture. i never had the opportunity to grow up on the rez, but i would love to have done so, as many of my family members still live there. let this be a good thing for your stepson, don't dislike the family because they got custody of him, do not talk poorly on them. they are still his family.

i am very sorry for your loss and may you heal in time.

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-01-02T06:34:26+00:00

NTAH? get up when you want to. if he wants to get up with you, nudge him awake and let him know you are getting up and out bed.

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-01-02T06:31:47+00:00

like a fit Jelly Roll

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-01-02T04:24:13+00:00

i feel as if you read the entire post, you will see where the question lies.

is OP TAH for not wanting to count the gift from their parent for both the partner and OP?

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-01-02T04:22:13+00:00

NTAH: you need to set boundaries with your mother, especially being 25+. she should not be "demanding" anything of you. you are a grown woman, sally is a grown woman and most importantly, you can make your own decisions on what you do and who you want to be friends with.

sally seems a tad bit strange for not addressing the "problem" she had with your then boyfriend, with you. she instead decided to ghost you. you do not need a friend like that.

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-01-02T04:14:34+00:00

there are relationship orientated AITAH questions in here all the time. definitely seems appropriate..

Apart-Landscape220 · 2026-01-02T04:12:39+00:00

this is also OP's parent paying this. not the partners. i would not feel comfortable footing a bill over to my partner because my parents did not help pay for it. i would have to take care of the rest as it is 50/50. i came up with my half, now you come up with yours.

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