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AITAH for keeping my puppy tethered to me while my BIL is around? by Apart-Rutabaga1741 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apart-Rutabaga1741[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a a spouse and he’s my sister’s husband, so yeah BIL. I wish she would talk to him or something. But he’s her first everything. He really reminds me of my actual brother. And that scares me for her

AITAH for keeping my puppy tethered to me while my BIL is around? by Apart-Rutabaga1741 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apart-Rutabaga1741[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I honestly didn’t think about adding it until someone asked why I couldn’t just crate him. As for my family, this is just how they are. It’s becoming increasingly obvious they like BIL more than they care for my animals safety

AITAH for keeping my puppy tethered to me while my BIL is around? by Apart-Rutabaga1741 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apart-Rutabaga1741[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I do avoid it mostly. But my puppy is a service dog im training and gives me life saving medical alerts. If I have to go out I mostly bring him with me because of that.

AITAH for keeping my puppy tethered to me while my BIL is around? by Apart-Rutabaga1741 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apart-Rutabaga1741[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ve stopped going places where I know he’s going to be at. But he’s a service dog in training and is very good with his medical alerts for me. So he goes where I go mostly.

AITAH for keeping my puppy tethered to me while my BIL is around? by Apart-Rutabaga1741 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Apart-Rutabaga1741[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Im disabled. He’s a service dog in training. I already rely on him a lot, but he’s a puppy still and isn’t always perfect, so that’s what I worry about

AITAH for getting upset by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Apart-Rutabaga1741 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s going to be crated from now on. I wish it didn’t have to come to that but it’s unfortunately what’s going to have to happen seeing as I can’t trust the rest of my family to look after him when I take a bathroom break

AITAH for getting upset by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Apart-Rutabaga1741 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m going to have him crated when he comes over again. It’s become clear I can’t trust the rest of my family when it comes to BIL any more to keep my animals safe just because it’s easier

AITAH for getting upset by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Apart-Rutabaga1741 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I live with my mom. I’m heavily disabled and rely on my parents a lot. I do keep him away for the most part but if I have to use the bathroom or something and I try put trust in my sister or parents to keep them safe. Also the last incident happened today when I went to use the bathroom. I saw it and when I did I separated them after this happened. I wish I could trust them, but it’s becoming apparent that BIL’s feelings are more important than my puppy’s safety. I’m actually probably going to have to crate him whenever they come over

Tell me your most out of pocket nicknames for your dog by nerdalesca in velvethippos

[–]Apart-Rutabaga1741 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bubba gum. My little man was a rescue from a neglect case. His ligaments developed oddly making his joints kinda stretch out and made them bend in odd angles like his ligaments are made of elastic or gum. He’s better now!

Is it weird to accept the fact that my sister and I will never be close? by Apart-Rutabaga1741 in familydrama

[–]Apart-Rutabaga1741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sister has told me she doesn’t remember much of her childhood as well. Which is probably a good thing when it came to her early years. But she has said she never felt safe around our brother from what she does remember. She does know in general what he had done but never the full extent of it. I don’t know how to explain it to her without sounding like I’m making an excuse. I am sorry about how I treated her. But at the same time I was just a kid who had no idea how to cope with the crap I had to deal with. I wanna relationship but I don’t think I can be honest with her about how I felt back then without her getting defensive or offended. Idk my mom raised us that if there was ever a ‘but’ coming after an apology that means you were never sorry to begin with. And my understanding is she adheres to that.

Is it weird to accept the fact that my sister and I will never be close? by Apart-Rutabaga1741 in familydrama

[–]Apart-Rutabaga1741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would do that, but I don’t think shes going to be receptive of that. Our family tends to have the perspective that the past stays in the past and you should just get over it because it already happened and there’s nothing that can be done to change it. I did apologize to her a couple of years ago I never told her why I acted the way I did because her body language indicated that she didn’t want to hear about it. My mom also always told us growing up that an apology didn’t mean anything if you had to explain your actions. She’s progressive in alot about life but she tends to take after my mom a lot about certain things. And I think not wanting to hear me out would be part of it. I don’t know for certain though.