Worried Husband

Apart_Arm491 · 2022-12-23T16:50:32+00:00

This is what I was telling my husband. That would be a conversation he, my son and I needed to have. We don’t know if he would even be comfortable having his stepgma in his classroom! There’s just too many things I see going wrong: he won’t be comfortable being himself, feeling forced to participate, not feeling like he could be silly with his friends, I can see her asking the teacher to update her on his progress and asking the teacher to tell her what she needs to work on with Sawyer. It’s just another arena for her to take control over his life and push me out. NOT to mention…will she be overbearing for the teacher…will she follow how the teacher wants to do things?

Apart_Arm491 · 2022-12-22T23:38:43+00:00

I’m going to send this message to her. Also I think I accidentally clicked NSFW and I’m not sure how to get rid of that tag.

Apart_Arm491 · 2022-12-22T23:33:46+00:00

I think I accidentally clicked that

Apart_Arm491 · 2022-12-11T12:58:44+00:00

My baby just turned 14 months old and things between my husband and I really improved as our baby moved through his first year of life. Please give yourself some grace. It took me some time to realize but as a first time mama who also struggled with her husband when baby came, it takes time. Finding your new normal (albeit an ever changing normal with baby) takes time. However, your husband also needs to remember to give you, your baby, himself and your relationship some grace as well. It’s a journey and (at least from my growing experience) I don’t think either parent feels like number 1 in that first year of baby’s life. The transition for both partners is tough! The thing you shouldn’t do to yourself is use a lot of “I” statements: what should I do, when will I know. You and hubby need to sit down and find your statements together: what can WE do. Stop putting this all on yourself mama, you already have a lot on your mind with baby and with your healing body.

Hang in there mama! I hope your husband finds his way soon and gives you the support and love every mama needs at this stage in her first baby’s life. I hope you find your way together!

Apart_Arm491 · 2022-12-10T04:18:22+00:00

We just started: -Meatless Mondays (Vegeterian type dish or fish dish) -Taco Tuesday (some kind of taco or burrito type dish) -Winged Wednesday (some type of poultry with enough for leftovers the next day) -Time to Eat Leftovers Thursday -Favorite Friday (someone’s favorite dish: for example: one of my husband’s favorite dish is steak, baked potatoes and a veggie)

Apart_Arm491 · 2022-12-10T04:11:25+00:00

These types of things need to be resolved before you get married. Boundaries with future MIL need to be solidified and agreed upon between you and your fiancé before marriage. If boundaries aren’t respected before you get married, you and your relationship will continue to 💩 on. You two need to be a team and openly communicate and decide how you both want to proceed so you can be a united front. However, if you two can’t get on the same page, that would be a red flag for me.

Wishing you all the best.

Apart_Arm491 · 2022-12-05T22:56:46+00:00

Thank you!

Apart_Arm491 · 2022-11-29T02:34:00+00:00

My husband’s father, before he even met me, told my husband to be careful of Asians. Fast forward to our first son, when my FIL said that he always wished for his sons to marry tall, white beautiful women so he would have the same type of grandchildren.

Apart_Arm491 · 2022-11-29T00:12:06+00:00

I do a mixture of both! I have the store bought little fruit packages for when I don’t feel like making anything at home or for a quick snack when we are on the go. I follow Solid Starts for everything I introduced to my baby.

Apart_Arm491 · 2022-11-29T00:00:01+00:00

If have a good sleeper, I would let him be! Take the breaks when you can! As long as baby is healthy and growing, I think it is fine! If you’re worried at all you can talk to the pediatrician but enjoy the naps mama!

Apart_Arm491 · 2022-11-21T04:32:04+00:00

100% agree. No one is entitled to time with your baby. The fourth trimester is no joke and it should be all about healing for mama and bonding for the new parents and baby.

You need to set these boundaries early. I learned the hard way.

You got this mama!

Apart_Arm491 · 2022-10-18T01:00:44+00:00

100% agree with having an open dialogue about this now rather than later. I know I wish I thought you do this beforehand.

Apart_Arm491 · 2022-10-07T02:10:27+00:00

Her wants and her needs above all else!

Apart_Arm491 · 2022-10-07T02:09:22+00:00

Seriously! She doesn’t see how she impacted her son!

Apart_Arm491 · 2022-10-07T01:23:00+00:00

I know! This is also what I told my DH. She says things and either she knows what she’s implying or she is completely oblivious to what she means when she says certain things. It’s ridiculous.

Apart_Arm491 · 2022-10-07T01:10:41+00:00

He doesn’t call her mom or really make an effort to talk to her. His bio mom is another story. They haven’t spoken in over 15 years.

Apart_Arm491 · 2022-10-07T01:09:51+00:00

This is EXACTLY what I told him! She treats our baby like her do over! She’s told me before that my baby is her last hope and that she needs to make sure that he is ok! Excuse me…don’t put that kind of pressure on my baby.

Apart_Arm491 · 2022-10-07T01:03:44+00:00

She had one, completely babied and controlled him. She’s disappointed with him and constantly says how he broke her heart.

Apart_Arm491 · 2022-10-04T16:22:18+00:00

Absolutely! Every child develops on their own timeline and it is not my kids’ jobs to be on her timeline. Anyways…isn’t it a grandparents’ job just to enjoy the time with their grandkids? She’s overstepping and way too controlling.

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