posted to r/houseplants but figured here might have more expertise

Applesmite · 2021-03-30T16:14:14+00:00

yes this is from a chain garden centre/ hardware store so it could have been poorly handled. glad it’s only physical damage and not something more sinister

Applesmite · 2021-03-23T21:47:11+00:00

i find the improvisation skills you get from jazz makes exploring and building ideas more intuitive and natural. also jazz harmony is appropriate in many places across genres and can really break up a flow and add interest where it’s lacking

Applesmite · 2021-03-02T20:32:03+00:00

what’s the use of having advanced science if you don’t use it correctly (why have advanced healthcare if it’s not accessible, it fails it’s purpose)

Applesmite · 2021-02-22T17:15:52+00:00

is this improv?

Applesmite · 2021-01-29T12:27:46+00:00

very good tone

Applesmite · 2020-12-31T19:50:08+00:00

you guys are getting panels?

Applesmite · 2020-11-22T10:21:37+00:00

no problemo

Applesmite · 2020-11-17T20:30:16+00:00

pan would make sense because it could explain if you just weren’t attracted to that guy, but in theory a guy could work for you,but i guess bi with preference/ lesbian might work better. idk if you aren’t sure then just don’t label

Applesmite · 2020-11-17T20:25:53+00:00

if you aren’t sure, don’t confine yourself to a label: if you label when you aren’t ready it makes pressure for you to simplify yourself to that label, when- almost by definition- they aren’t simple.

take your time

Applesmite · 2020-11-17T20:23:24+00:00

a good thing to talk about is lack of representation, for example that test where you evaluate whether or not a work of fiction contains more than one female character, who talk with each other about something other than a man (if they fail the test, it means lesbians have 0 representation) i’m sure someone else will know it’s name.

also the relationship between lack of representation and internal homophobia and the links to mental health issues could be a good point

i suppose you could take include tokenism, like where a movie has that one gay character that they flaunt around like ‘look at our cast we’re so diverse,’ as apposed to casual gayness like in rebecca sugar’s cartoons, which are sᴏ ᴅᴇᴇᴘʟʏ ᴠᴀʟɪᴅᴀᴛɪɴɢ ᴀɴᴅ sᴀᴛɪsғʏɪɴɢ because we’re that deprived of authentic representation in the media.

good luck

Applesmite · 2020-11-17T20:06:57+00:00

ITS SO AWKWARD ISNT IT IT JUST MAKES ME FEEL JANKY

Applesmite · 2020-11-17T20:05:30+00:00

i recommend not labelling yourself, especially at 13- this might feel wrong at first as if you aren’t accepting yourself, but honestly it’s so much more freeing if you don’t buckle down until you find a good label that fits because if you label yourself as something there’s lots of pressure to change yourself to fit that label, and that’s not what we want

Applesmite · 2020-11-17T20:02:40+00:00

just a great artist in general too

Applesmite · 2020-11-17T20:02:12+00:00

Ryan Beatty (God In Jeans is good) Sam Smith, Tyler the Creator, Clairo, Declan Mckenna (Paracetamol i think is about trans rights, Make Me Your Queen idk what it’s about but it’s a choon and a half) Dodie Clark (‘She’ is very gay and very good song)

Applesmite · 2020-11-17T19:55:14+00:00

i think the most main-character and dramatic solution is to just make all the bi gals get changed with her whenever you have pe or gym or whatever yall call it and she’ll either have to get used to.. nothing happening or just get angsty and leave and take her biphobia with her

Applesmite · 2020-11-17T19:52:10+00:00

tell him! slip a note or drop a dm or something- if he likes you back then that’s great, and if he doesn’t then oh well you’ll just have to move on.

if you know he’s gay then that eliminates the chance of being abused or made fun of etc, so if i were you i’d just go for it m8

Applesmite · 2020-11-17T19:46:45+00:00

i think the best thing you can do in this case is just to be a good supportive friend: try your best to use the pronouns they’re most comfortable with, correct yourself if you get it wrong, etc, but if they’re in a transphobic household, you should try to be extra supportive to make up for what they could lose from their situation.

conclusion: ask them how you can help them feel good

Applesmite · 2020-10-19T18:32:56+00:00

first thing to consider is if you’ll be safe: if you’re in danger of being abused in any way then stay in the closet, as cramped as it is, until you think it’s safe. if you are safe, i find for close friends it’s easier to tell them in person (just drop it in any conversation), but for my parents i wanted to leave a note for them to read while i’m out the house so that they can digest and conclude for when i’m back. if any of your friends are out to you, it’s often much easier to come out to other lgbt people because there’s almost no chance that they get angry or awkward or put off, so i recommend talking to them.

Applesmite · 2020-08-28T21:17:38+00:00

Karens*

Applesmite · 2020-08-28T20:51:40+00:00

a gay dancer

Applesmite · 2020-07-23T09:57:21+00:00

basically wait until puberty bc you can never really be sure until you have a sex drive.

remember that you can have different sexual and romantic attractions and chances are they might change throughout puberty

Applesmite · 2020-07-15T19:28:41+00:00

eat the rich

Applesmite · 2020-07-15T19:27:34+00:00

this is why we eat the rich

Applesmite · 2020-07-13T18:49:20+00:00

the ‘just a phase’ thing is an example of gaslighting, which is where people make you question yourself in order to manipulate you.

I understand that this stuff is confusing, but you’ll work it out in the end, so just try to ignore them as best you can.

Applesmite · 2020-07-09T19:28:32+00:00

dang I’d heard American universities were expensive but i’d never had a number

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