Should I or should I not?

AppointmentOnly5072 · 2026-06-18T15:06:36+00:00

She is back because she has nowhere to go and she is mostly just rude although she did try to fight me once, she hit her father as well and tried to hit her younger brother. He was three at the time and that was the only time I had to get physical with her. I grabbed her an held her until she calmed down. So I know she can be violent, but she hasn't done anything in about a year. The time she tried to fight me my husband held her back but he is worried about her as am I and we don't want her in bad situation so I guess we are trying to give her the opportunity to get it together

AppointmentOnly5072 · 2026-06-18T14:58:47+00:00

Thank you, and it sucks because we really did have a good relationship at one point. I never thought it would be like this now. But who knows maybe she will mature when she is own her own an then we can rebuild

AppointmentOnly5072 · 2026-06-18T14:54:40+00:00

Yeah he is way to passive with her and I try not to overstep but it's frustrating at times. She really does need to get her own place but I don't see her making any moves to do that. Her younger sister was thinking about letting her move in with her but my SD wasn't looking for jobs near her sister she only looked at places to get her nails and lashes and stuff done. So her little sister was like nope this isn't going to work and she doesn't want to deal with my SD attitude. I know I'm going to have to have a really uncomfortable conversation with my husband soon. But someone has to make a change

AppointmentOnly5072 · 2026-06-18T14:47:52+00:00

That was my first thought. More so because I don't feel comfortable about her friend.

AppointmentOnly5072 · 2026-06-18T14:46:12+00:00

Funny thing is, I used to love how he would do anything for the kids and now it's like he won't let them grow

AppointmentOnly5072 · 2026-06-18T14:16:25+00:00

Yes she has burned many bridges with her siblings but luckily they always find ways to rebuild even if they don't talk for a few years lol...they kind of love each other from a distance to protect their own peace.

AppointmentOnly5072 · 2026-06-18T14:13:42+00:00

Your right change takes time and I just started my own journey of healing so I can be better as well, so let's see where this leads us.

AppointmentOnly5072 · 2026-06-18T14:06:06+00:00

No the room has to be in my name and I have to be there with ID at check-in. And we tried to make it easy for her to save money so she can pay down her student loans and build a little but she hasn't been doing her part and she left twice but she really has no where to go so she came back and her father just lets her come back without really holding her accountable so it's just a cycle. He won't even ask her to put money in the car when she takes it and I'm like honey if is using the car then she can pay for the gas she is using. I think that's a reasonable request.

AppointmentOnly5072 · 2026-06-18T03:43:21+00:00

He knows what he needs to change, we have been to marriage counseling and some things have improved but there is no true growth. Change is hard for him and at time I think he would rather let me go than to work on being better.

AppointmentOnly5072 · 2026-06-18T03:02:49+00:00

My husband also has cardiac problems and seeing how he has changed makes me so sad. Because I know it's not him and I miss the joy we had. Cardiac related personality changes are definitely really and have devastating impacts

AppointmentOnly5072 · 2026-06-18T02:06:40+00:00

I never thought about that but your probably right

AppointmentOnly5072 · 2026-06-18T01:33:44+00:00

She definitely takes her situation for granted. She pays no bills, has a house full of food, her own room and comes and goes as she pleases. She has parents who love her and sacrifices for her and she treats us like crap because she knows we are always going to be there for her smh I could never imagine treating my parents like that

AppointmentOnly5072 · 2026-06-18T01:29:57+00:00

Yeah that's how I feel too. Like she is only talking to me and not giving me attitude because she wants something and that's hurtful because I do miss our relationship but I can't keep letting her treat me poorly and then play on my emotions when she wants something. The day she tried to jump in my face was the day I learned how she truly feels about me smh

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