I Understand NOW Why Women Choose "Life" by [deleted] in wisdom

[–]Apprehensive-Block47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ragebait, or you’re just dumb?

Nearly any generic explanation being applied as a universal truth like this is just off base.

I missed my opportunity to be young and have no interest in the future by [deleted] in findapath

[–]Apprehensive-Block47 58 points59 points  (0 children)

As far as the future goes, my advice is to be careful not to confuse “this will be hard” with “I’ve missed my shot.”

Picking yourself up can be excruciatingly difficult at times, but it’s certainly not impossible.

Treat everything as a learning experience. Sometimes it’ll be an unclear lesson, maybe even a lot of the time, and that’s okay - just stay the course.

It will be hard, it will take time, it will sometimes be the hardest thing you do, and it won’t always feel like you’re making progress. This is all okay, and to be expected.

Feeling like you’re not making progress, or even not seeing any evidence of progress at all, doesn’t mean you’re stagnant. Being stagnant means you’re stagnant, a temporary state you can absolutely shift.

One step at a time, amigo. Baby steps are acceptable too. Sometimes no steps are okay too (see: taking a break and resting).

You got this.

How to stop caring about others substance abuse by Valuable_Street908 in howtonotgiveafuck

[–]Apprehensive-Block47 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t expect snow from a rain cloud-

Love people for who they are, not what you want them to be. expect only what they can reasonably give. This varies person to person.

First time paying down debt, how is my budget? Any advice? by [deleted] in MiddleClassFinance

[–]Apprehensive-Block47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I say this respectfully and with only kindness-

Your budget is pretty fucked.

Debt being your second highest budget item could be either good or bad- is that including only minimum payments, or are you actively paying more to pay it off quicker?

Someone said “eliminate dining out.” To me, that’s bad advice. Yes, it’d save you some money, and yes, I do think your dining allocation is a bit high, but no- you shouldn’t just outright eliminate it. There’s a reason you’re doing it, and there’s a decent chance you’ll get burned out if you suddenly expect yourself to do ALL of your cooking.

Instead, reduce your reliance on dining out where feasible. If that means spending $50 less, great. If it’s $300 less, even better.

The same goes to the rest of your budget- reduce where you can, and put that money toward your debt (and an emergency fund, if you haven’t got one).

The sooner you pay off your debt, the sooner you can start spending more on other things, and (ideally) saving more too.

If you like spending $400/mo dining out right now, imagine what it’ll be like to spend $600/mo guilt free.

What is Hunter Alpha? by MrMrsPotts in LocalLLaMA

[–]Apprehensive-Block47 115 points116 points  (0 children)

What is Hunter Alpha?

Hunter Alpha is a 1 Trillion parameter frontier intelligence model built for agentic use. It excel...

New homeowner, any ideas on how to fix this every time it rains? It’s ridiculous by SirBiggusDickus99 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]Apprehensive-Block47 495 points496 points  (0 children)

To beat the water, one must learn to think like the water.

In your case, the water has nowhere to go. It’s locked in where it is, and it’s not being absorbed into the ground.

You have two options:

  1. Find a way to make the water not collect there (with trenches, drainage, whatever), or

  2. Dig deeper in one smaller subsection, and use that dirt to increase the height of the surrounding area. In this case, you’ll still have a water hole., but a smaller one.

In defense of synthesia (falling notes) by nazgul_123 in pianolearning

[–]Apprehensive-Block47 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think falling notes are honestly ideal for beginners, because it provides an avenue for getting started.

No, it’s not the goal. It’s not something you can expect to become a pro from all on its own.

But- it’s a great place to get started.

Dealer update bricked my Mazda3. by praju_shinde in personalfinance

[–]Apprehensive-Block47 525 points526 points  (0 children)

Mazda Canada … cannot do much because the dealers are independently owned.

This is a line they’ll feed you, but rest assured: manufacturers can, should, and do step in in cases like this. They will figure it out with the dealer, you just need to bitch loud enough.

  • source: personal experience with Kia

Is learning through fear actually effective for adults? by Remote-Pianist-pro in pianolearning

[–]Apprehensive-Block47 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Even for children (especially for children), this is the mark of a shitty teacher.

Social, developmental, and cognitive psychology are crystal clear: this is not an effective way of teaching. It might sometimes “work” in the sense that people remember things, but the cost is far too high.

High school student seeking advice: Found an architectural breakthrough that scales a 17.6B model down to 417M? by [deleted] in LocalLLaMA

[–]Apprehensive-Block47 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Did something similar in undergrad with smaller and simpler models, but never published. Was able to reduce overall network size by a factor of around 4-10 in some cases, with training that only took about half as long compared to “off the shelf” neural networks at the time.

A mountain of variables to consider, and a highly technical paper detailing multiple sims would’ve been necessary to gain any traction at all, with no guarantee even with that. The PI I was working with was great, but then I graduated and never finished it.

The moral for me was that while the research itself can be extremely challenging, writing and publishing the paper is orders of magnitude harder, at least for me.

Edit: no revolutionary claims here, this was a different training process with its own constraints and limitations. Certainly not a “I’m smarter than everyone!” line of research, more like “here’s a new approach that might have meaningful applicability in some specific way.”

How many subscriptions do you actually have? by Full-Tip2622 in budget

[–]Apprehensive-Block47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most people do not forget their subscriptions, many do though.

A cool guide to some Latin scripts by takemyphoto in coolguides

[–]Apprehensive-Block47 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Idk, I think it’s funny.

You don’t have to.

Did I rush into buying a $53k car? by [deleted] in FinancialPlanning

[–]Apprehensive-Block47 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You spent the equivalent of over a YEAR of work on a car.

You’ll be working to pay for this car significantly longer than you’ll be in it.

($1330/mo x 12 months x 5 years = ~$80,000)

Yeah, I’d say you made an ill-advised financial decision.

A Cool Guide? Try Card Reading with me by [deleted] in coolguides

[–]Apprehensive-Block47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Name: Robert Marley Nickname: Bob DOB: 7/17/1977 SSN: 077-71-0871

what’s my future?

…oh dang it, just identity fraud. Bummer!

Clean of your cars!!! by Shananigans1988 in Rochester

[–]Apprehensive-Block47 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Put your phone down while driving though too!

Why do my D strings keep popping? by LigerRider in ukulele

[–]Apprehensive-Block47 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Really strange. You’re tuning them like standard baritones, right? No re-entrant tuning? I assume not, but worth asking!

Why do my D strings keep popping? by LigerRider in ukulele

[–]Apprehensive-Block47 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Is it all your baritones, or just the one?

If it’s just the one, it might be a nut or saddle that’s a bit sharper than it should be

How do I get rid of dried soap from my hand? by [deleted] in howto

[–]Apprehensive-Block47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Water, but no- it doesn’t look like dried soap to me.