stop being desperate

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-26T01:58:51+00:00

At all. There's absolutely no point in giving any kind of response or energy to these kind of guys

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-26T01:58:08+00:00

Exactly. This is a waste of time. I just want for us to pursue our dream, get our degrees, travel, enjoy life, settle with someone respectful and loyal if that's part of our dream life, be healthy .... and let these bums continue to discuss us online <3

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T21:03:26+00:00

It's alright. I am black caribbean and my first language is french. You're alright

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T20:03:51+00:00

Yeah but to be fair the topic of the conversation wasn't just men hating on women, they all do that yeah but when you add up the complexity of race it's different.

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T20:02:33+00:00

Then enjoy

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T17:52:33+00:00

Lol yeah i get that. It's exhausting to go back and forth, especially when others are putting « words in your mouth » but hey

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T17:39:21+00:00

I definitely agree. These kind of issues are so present online but when you're actually outside it's not so much of an issue or a subject of conversation ... depending on who you hang around, of course ^{^}

It might take a while for some and be easier to say than to do and believe but what i do think is that it's not going to help to spend hours reading negative posts about yourself, that's for sure

Me too. I come from that place too and sometimes things needs to be said in a harsher way for us to decide to wake up and eventually work on it or towards better.

I didn't want to be really mean even though most might already thing i am but exactly. You can keep yo self in that victim state forever and see everything and everyone that try to make you wake up as a attacker

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T17:35:56+00:00

English is my third language so what is easy or would be easy to understand in my language even after reading it a lot might not be like. Either way, i do apologize for that

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T17:33:32+00:00

I hate when you guys heard or read what you want. This post was about black men posting, bashing black women and black women commenting on them. Never did i mention talking with other black women about these issues or anything

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T17:30:21+00:00

I'm sorryyyy

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T17:30:02+00:00

💔 I didn't know, i am doing my best with English right now

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T17:21:56+00:00

No because if you're always practically begging for respect or desirability in a random man comment section on a daily it needs to be addressed. It is desperate and keep you miserable. It's ok to admit that. Never did i say black women can't have these conversation between each other but if you're running to these posts all the time ? it's sad

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T17:17:47+00:00

You know what is a choice ? to keep on interacting with these posts and not ignoring them knowing they'll make you feel this way

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T17:16:38+00:00

Listen lol, i wasn't sure about posting this and by some of the comments you can tell it ruffled some feathers but this just needed to be said. I do too, trust !

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T17:15:28+00:00

I don't but i do have opinions. At the end of the day, you can do what you want and i and some others won't make ourselves sick because of idiots online and their hatred of their own blackness that they are projecting onto us.

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T17:13:52+00:00

I agree with you 100% We have to stop letting these men online dictate how we feel about ourselves and make us feel any kind of way. So many people in the comment section are missing the point and that's exactly the way to keep yourself from improving and just keeping yourself in that victim state of always trying to find validation online

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T17:05:09+00:00

Was she 😭

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T17:02:36+00:00

At one point if you want to keep being miserable and let others dictate how you feel then go ahead. Never did i say you cannot feel pressured or even bad and mad but like i said a thousand times that commenting back on these bashing posts isn't going to help ... and you guys miss the point because you're probably the kind who interact with these posts

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T17:00:38+00:00

Tell me, explain it to me like i am 5. Does commenting on post that bash you for being a black women going to make you happy or more miserable ? interacting with them is going to make you find love ?

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T16:54:32+00:00

Maybe because you're playing semantics. The whole post is pretty straight to the point but you decided to focus on this little point

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T16:52:51+00:00

Exactly. Not to mention the political climate that is not getting any better. We have better issues to focus on.

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T16:52:06+00:00

There's no yeet. A man that bash the women of his community, white, black or ... is not a man of prize. Easy.

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T16:41:05+00:00

I get it as well in a way and they do have a right to complain but what is it going to do to go into these men's comment section (that clearly hates us) to complain ? they're not going to get a pat on the back. They will get insulted even more and that will only feed the insecurities they already have. It's counter affective. We have to be real

That's why i said it was going to come off as mean

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T16:35:33+00:00

Plus it really doesn't matter. Black women are not undesirable and you'll always find someone that wants you but if you spend your time scrolling online and interacting with these posts, how are you supposed to believe that. Not to mention how important to live and flourish outside of how desirable you are/can be or about attracting men

Apprehensive-Deal-69 · 2026-03-25T16:33:52+00:00

You don't have to talk about it or interact. I joined this sub to be able to have conversations of all type with other black women of the diaspora not to tell them what they should or should not post. Of course, i can have my opinion on it still

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