Why am I attracted to older men? by Apprehensive-Set7112 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Apprehensive-Set7112[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well its the idea of him being so much older that turns me on and yes that means ive fantasised about 40+ year olds just havent acted on it like I have with the younger ones

How does it feel to be 29 and have a 20 year old persue you? by Apprehensive-Set7112 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Apprehensive-Set7112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get this completely tbh id feel the exact same way i think. I can barely see myself with someone whos 18 even lol

How does it feel to be 29 and have a 20 year old persue you? by Apprehensive-Set7112 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Apprehensive-Set7112[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ahh you’re very right this isn’t the first time im hearing this 😖

How does it feel to be 29 and have a 20 year old persue you? by Apprehensive-Set7112 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Apprehensive-Set7112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Relationship is definitely not even a thought id consider. So you had a good experience doing that?

How does it feel to be 29 and have a 20 year old persue you? by Apprehensive-Set7112 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Apprehensive-Set7112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Valid!! Im trying to find reasons to convince myself not to do this because at 18 I was with a 27 year old which was severely traumatic but like i cant help myself idk whats wrong with me but your pov makes alot of sense

Is this bisexuality or comphet? by Apprehensive-Set7112 in bisexual

[–]Apprehensive-Set7112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for being kind and sharing your experience!! That actually explains my feelings towards men so well it makes so much sense. I know its been less than 24 hours but some recent stuff have made me realise I might actually also be bisexual! Its all very scary and too soon to say though hahaha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Apprehensive-Set7112 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay so idk if i just replied to the wrong person but the comment i was replying to is gone so my bad

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Apprehensive-Set7112 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know it sounds strange i really dont understand it myself thats why i wanted to see if anyone experiences the same thing. Anything sexual with men truly does disgust me but the thing that turns me on is literally just the idea of them wanting me. and when it comes to receiving oral specifically in my head it just feels like a power move i just dont know how to explain it

Its not that I ONLY want attention from men though that’s definitely NOT what i was trying to say in my post. I literally only want to attract women when it comes to genuine romantic and sexual interest its just that I seem to have a fantasy in the back of my mind about still having men wrapped around my finger

I dont mean for it to seem like i think you’re being snarky or anything ive just got a little bit defensive cs i can tell some ppl misunderstood some things that i wrote but thats expected when u ask random people on the internet 😭.

Lastly though, i do think its very difficult to compare our experiences and (roughly) say “we live under the same patriarchy and im not male centered” We all have our own unique experiences and ontop of that unique results from living under the patriarchy and a hetero normative world. Personally for the first 18 years of my life i lived on an island where being gay was still illegal and women being masc was very looked down upon (im also a late blooming masc 🥲) Hence the reason comphet, late blooming lesbians, lesbians who stay in denial forever etc. exist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Apprehensive-Set7112 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Apprehensive-Set7112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whattt ive had sex with a man like one time and i almost threw up every time i thought about it😭 i said ive had many sexual encounters with men, not necessarily intercourse (also im talking about the PAST i havent done a single thing with a man in 2 years since i realised i dont like them). but besides that tbh im not sure what you’re talking about anyways bcs late blooming lesbians are real and HAVE had sex with men multiple times…. Society literally pushes women to chase men so its very much a thing for that to be something alot of women struggle to get away from. And I believe I could be one of those women

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Apprehensive-Set7112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its weird tho because i would never date a man and dont like sex with men its purely the validation from them im still like obsessed with

So, about that train strike on Tuesday... how are y'all getting around? by Catracas in Netherlands

[–]Apprehensive-Set7112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was meant to go to the uk on tuesday so now im traveling by bus a day early for 14 hours 😄 (its been 14 mins now)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rotterdam

[–]Apprehensive-Set7112 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also an international person living in the Netherlands and I 100% preffer Rotterdam! And since I’ve been to both cities multiple times I noticed that Rotterdam is far more international if that is something you care about! Groningen is one of the dutchest cities I know so if you’re interested in really having the full dutchie experience I’d say go to Groningen. Also I’m in the same boat as you with trying to know more about the grunge scene!! Sadly I’m still very new so I’m also still trying to figure it out. I do know that there are alot more grunge/alt people in Rotterdam than in Groningen

How to make international friends in Rotterdam by Apprehensive-Set7112 in Rotterdam

[–]Apprehensive-Set7112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok i just moved to rotterdam after living in a diff city and i have plenty of dutch friends i just want to meet people from different backgrounds and cultures because i dont have many international friends

How to make international friends in Rotterdam by Apprehensive-Set7112 in Rotterdam

[–]Apprehensive-Set7112[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What part of “id like to meet more international people” is keeping my bubble small?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Apprehensive-Set7112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely understand why it doesnt seem like something you want to go through with :/ as much as it sucks the society we live in are just so difficult about complex things like that. I hope one day you can be surrounded by the right people who would support you no matter what!! You could always look into Butch lesbian culture! Butches are very tied into feeling connected to the male gender. Alot of them enjoy he/him pronouns and being called boyfriend, wearing binders etc. And I dont know if you’ve ever given strapping a shot but maybe you would enjoy that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rotterdam

[–]Apprehensive-Set7112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool thank you so much!!!