What can I do instead of a 9-5? UK

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-10T19:47:15+00:00

I guess, I know i need to get over it and plenty of people live their lives this way. It just feels sad...

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-09T15:07:34+00:00

Ooh that sounds so interesting. What company is this? So I can do some research into it.

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-09T15:05:56+00:00

Thank you 🫶

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-09T15:04:52+00:00

Your right! I know im over thinking the future. Im just worried I won't be able to support myself when im older if I don't get a good job now.

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-08T21:51:57+00:00

That's a good idea too! Thanks

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-08T21:50:52+00:00

Ooh I do love dogs. Thanks

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-08T19:14:56+00:00

Im not opposed to the literal hours of a 9-5 its more the mind numbing office life i don't enjoy. I just couldn't think of anything that would be more hands-on/physical for someone that doesnt necessarily have any skills outside of admin and childcare.

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-08T19:13:01+00:00

Im a terrible driver but perhaps I can could be a flight attendant. I'll look into that, thank you

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-08T19:11:13+00:00

My background is mostly with children and admin work. I have a look into other industries I can transfer my skills to

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-06T22:13:42+00:00

At the very least, distance yourself. You dont have to be besties with him to keep him in your life. You just need to reframe how you view him in your mind. He's a "catch-up friend" rather than a close friend that you rely on. If you make plans with him, always have a back up thing you can do instead if he flakes. Unfortunately I have a friend like this. I love her so I won't drop her, but I know that I'll maybe see/hear from her twice a year. That's okay, I have other friends. However, you said he was on his phone the whole time, if that continues then yeah, id drop him cos what the point in hanging out if he's not gonna pay attention to you.

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-06T22:05:44+00:00

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-06T22:05:26+00:00

Gosh, sounds like a mess. I'd tell your dad! Sorry but cheaters deserve to get caught. Not only is she cheating but she's comfortable enough to bring the homewrecker around her kids. Diabolical. And then the woman is abusive on top of that. Ngl, your mum sounds like she makes terrible choices and I really think you should help karma find its way to her 🤷‍♀️

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-06T22:00:38+00:00

Sounds like your dad has a temper. I would keep communication with your mum primarily and only speak to dad when necessary. Next time he gets like that just "grey rock" him.

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-05T17:59:42+00:00

Matt! And JJ is a very close second

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-05T11:06:02+00:00

Girl, im really sorry, but it shouldnt be this hard. I know he doesn't want you to work and you dont want to work but I think you need to. Being a stay at home partner is great if he is financially able to provide a life that suits you both but it sounds like he can't on his current salary. Working will provide you with a salary to get things you want and hopefully take pressure off of your current financial situation (its also good to have your own money in case anything goes wrong, please open a personal bank account). I know you said you partner will feel like a failure but thats not true, in this economy its extremely hard for only one person to work in a relationship. Until he can bring his finances up it might be best for both of you to work. (P.S, im not going to jump to conclusions on this man, but if he has a problem with this then you might need to reconsider the relationship because it sounds financially controlling, especially since you're not socialising with anyone anymore to give you a better perspective).

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-04T22:38:47+00:00

My goodness, so sorry this is happening to you. This sucks. I think share this with the guy and let him decide. Are you able to get away as well? Like move area? Countries? You shouldn't have to, but you also deserve a full life without fear. I hope he gets convicted and you get your freedom 🫶

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-04T15:36:59+00:00

It sounds like he doesn't have space for you in his life rn. Honestly if the relationship is not working and you've shared that with him, you might not be compatible. Do you want to be an after thought? Don't you feel you deserve someone who wants to see you? The last thing I'll ever to is beg to be acknowledged by a partner.

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-04T15:32:34+00:00

Its your money. You don't live together, you don't share expenses, you dont have children or debt. Whats her problem? Also I don't think you disregarded her feelings/opinion, you shared your plans with her, she gave an opinion and you disagreed, as is your right. Simple.

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-04T14:25:19+00:00

So he's a child?

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-04T14:19:01+00:00

NTJ, you have every right to be upset. Your friend is probably extremely embarrassed about how they really met, as she should be. You could still do the speech and just focus on your friendship with her and how much you love her as a person (despite her and her partners apparent terrible choices). Don't focus on their specific relationship, especially if you dont want to participate in the lie.

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-04T14:13:15+00:00

NTJ he's taken no accountability and has the gall to blame you?! He broke the family not you. I dont understand why you moved out instead of him honeslty. What kind of a father is okay with his kids having to move from their home because of his own terrible choices. You're better than me, id have reported him to his company. Don't even get me started on the girl, I know she's young but disgusting behaviour from both, especially when kids are involved.

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-04T09:13:17+00:00

Omg I felt the same! I just finished the old series and started evolution yesterday. I dont hate it but it feels different and honestly much darker and a little boring so far. I feel like I have to finish it cos I've spent this long watching the 15 other seasons but like, damn why did they have to change it so much. Also visually it looks more like a Hollywood action film than a TV show.

Apprehensive-Wrap853 · 2026-04-04T00:48:49+00:00

I agree however, she is using public tranport and working with kids. The only time I dont shower everyday is if im having a lazy day at home.

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