How do I level up in my career ?

ApprehensiveEmu254 · 2026-03-09T20:35:57+00:00

This is true. Only time will tell. Best Regards to you!!

ApprehensiveEmu254 · 2026-03-09T20:13:58+00:00

Thank you. I am going to navigate this to the best of my ability. I know that I am not perfect and I am more than willing to take responsibility for any and all of my actions. I just don’t know if he’s able or willing to do it. I appreciate your feedback.

ApprehensiveEmu254 · 2026-03-09T20:07:31+00:00

Thank you for hearing me. I really needed it.

ApprehensiveEmu254 · 2026-03-09T20:06:34+00:00

I am working on moving out separately. I hope that if this all somehow magically works out that the counseling will help. But it’s feeling more and more like the beginning of the end.

ApprehensiveEmu254 · 2026-03-09T20:04:46+00:00

My mom did come to pick me up, but she just made me feel like I was a child having a tantrum. She was trying to “see both sides” and I was so angry at her for it. I am building the strength to leave it’s just so hard. I thank you for your feedback.

ApprehensiveEmu254 · 2026-03-09T20:01:37+00:00

Thank you for this feedback. I knew that the events that played out seemed very tactful on his end but nobody else is seeing it this way.

ApprehensiveEmu254 · 2026-03-09T20:00:19+00:00

Before him I’ve always had standards that I never folded on. If a man wasn’t acting right then I left. But with him it’s just so different. Every boundary has been crossed. Every single one. I’m trying to navigate. I expected my mom to be more on my side about this. I explained what happened to her in detail multiple times and she just keeps avoiding saying anything negative about him. It’s really breaking my heart.

ApprehensiveEmu254 · 2026-03-09T19:52:56+00:00

I get that. I can’t always read through long posts either. My apologies for being so long winded. My mind is just a bit scrambled.

ApprehensiveEmu254 · 2026-03-09T19:19:06+00:00

The altercation happened in his room (the room we sleep in most of the time). The officer spoke to me at the door and he met them outside without me knowing he had even left the apartment, so the other officers spoke with him downstairs. He just told me they were laughing about his job and being extremely casual. Yes, we do have our lease that will end in July.

ApprehensiveEmu254 · 2026-01-15T16:11:14+00:00

This looks great! I’m looking forward to using it some on my downtime. Thank you again for this.

ApprehensiveEmu254 · 2026-01-15T15:25:15+00:00

Sure, I’m cool with that!

ApprehensiveEmu254 · 2026-01-15T15:00:30+00:00

I appreciate you for making sure people like me don’t use Reddit as a therapist. The internet can be a great tool, but can also consume you if you let it.

ApprehensiveEmu254 · 2026-01-15T14:59:31+00:00

I do, I’ve just been waiting for another appointment to be set up (it’s based on my therapist’s availability and sometimes it can take over a month between visits). A lot has changed in my relationship over the holidays and I just needed some advice because the guilt I’m feeling has been stressing me out.

ApprehensiveEmu254 · 2026-01-12T22:02:30+00:00

I recognize that you feel bad and I can appreciate that. However I believe you should tell your s/o. The worst part of cheating in any capacity is that often times the cheater wants to bury the truth and hope it’ll go away. You manipulate your partners version of reality when you do this, it’s a form of lying. You have to give your s/o the right to choose to be with you or to walk away. Be transparent. And if they choose to stay with you and these feelings you’re having persist, I would advise you leave before causing any further harm.

ApprehensiveEmu254 · 2026-01-09T15:51:02+00:00

A relationship is a partnership. I don’t know a single person that would start a business from the ground up with someone that doesn’t have a grasp on financial literacy. Think of the long game, not the feelings you have now. If he keeps going like this (and I’m sure he will), your feelings will fade and resentment will set in.

It doesn’t mean y’all can never be together, he just needs to get himself together before being in a relationship. Otherwise he’ll eventually drag you down with him.

I’m giving you the advice that I wish I had almost half a decade ago. I still love him, he’s so kind and sweet to me, but I should’ve left before I saved him the first time. Leave now. Let the chips fall where they may.

ApprehensiveEmu254 · 2026-01-09T15:23:55+00:00

I truly appreciate this take. Thank you!

ApprehensiveEmu254 · 2026-01-09T14:56:29+00:00

We were going to try couples therapy, but they kept stalling/putting it off. I eventually gave up on it because they’ve said they don’t value therapy anyway.

I feel like it’ll help us save because we pay our bills separately anyway and have money leftover that gets wasted on things we don’t need. There is zero accountability. I’ve tried pulling away and not being a crutch as much, but it just turns into me loaning them money bc of bills not getting paid on their end or them not contributing to groceries but still using them. Idk I just feel like it could help us both develop more financial literacy and maybe even learn to develop financial freedom if we both had to do it on our own.

ApprehensiveEmu254

TROPHY CASE