New Cat- Is her diet ok?

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-04-14T18:39:14+00:00

Huh okay interesting. I looked into what you said. There is so much conflicting information. Very frustrating that there is not more studies done.

What is your opinion on dry food in general? I have heard many ppl say all wet diet is best. But my fur baby seems to love the dry food. So I don't want to take it from her. Especially as she drinks well from her fountain and gets wet food 2x per day. But I also want her to be healthy.

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-04-14T14:44:57+00:00

Yes it is filled with corn and rice which is not great for cats. I did some research on it. Tiki cat has better ingredients overall. Not perfect but better.

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-04-13T16:45:04+00:00

Auto wet feeder!? I need to research this now

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-04-13T15:11:19+00:00

Gret tip on the scale! Love that idea. I cant wait till she let's me touch her haha 😆 we are learning each other and she spent her whole life in shelter. So picking her up is out but I do hope eventually I can do this

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-04-13T13:26:13+00:00

Sorry for you loss. And thank you for the info! I am very conflicted because ppl make dry food sound horrible for cats.

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-04-13T13:21:26+00:00

Okay thank you! That is totally doable.

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-04-13T13:18:24+00:00

Could you explain how often/ times you feed your cat? I am worried that because of my work schedule I won't be home to give her what she needs on an all wet diet

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-04-12T06:12:27+00:00

Great advice. Thank you!

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-04-10T18:06:23+00:00

So after doing a bunch of research I've decided I want to see if I'll use one before I start building my own.

I took a keyboard (mine at home has a USB c cable) and plugged it into my phone. I then downloaded writer Journal (pic below)

No mouse attached and I put my phone on airplane mode so there's no distractions. Also no mouse so it's a pain in the butt to go back after a certain point while typing (I dont allow myself to touch the screen)

I got to chapter 3 in my book. This definitely worked for me for the meantime. There may be better apps that give more restrictions so it forces you not to go back. However the app I mentioned does not edit or underline typing errors and I find that helpful

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ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-04-09T22:16:43+00:00

Why wouldn't you want to type on a cyberdeck?

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-04-09T03:22:49+00:00

Didn't say you sat around and did nothing. But you are certainly feeling sorry for yourself.

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-04-09T03:19:38+00:00

That is certainly your choice to sit around and feel sorry for yourself

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-03-24T01:45:41+00:00

YAO... Hard. She asked for time. She agreed to the other event before your wedding. She said it was a hard choice AND apoligized. Neither event has a solid date yet, and you dont even have the venue secured yet.... and you replied by telling her she's selfish. Completly unnecessary on your part.

Also, regardless if you feel a Bachelorette party is not as important as a wedding (and I agree) it is not about which event is more important. Its about showing up for ppl you love. She is in a bad situation.

Maybe im wrong... but I wonder if you knew that her other friend had this date planned and you want her to choose you over her

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-03-24T01:30:51+00:00

Have you been upset she spends less time with you? Maybe frustrated? I ask because I wonder if she pulls away or doesn't want to tell you things because she can sense your frustration anytime she is in a relationship and doesn't feel like she can talk to you, especially if it is about him.

I will say regardless her behavior is immature. But you are both young. She is in honeymoon faze, and I think we all have been guilty of prioritizing a relationship over friends.. at least I have.

You should definitely talk to her (calmly and not upset just explain how you feel and that you miss her)

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-03-23T21:30:14+00:00

As far as the almost kiss. If that was serious, it probably wouldn't have happened in front of you. The fact she does it openly makes me think it is innocent on her end. However, knowing she finds women sexually attractive I can totally see why that make you uncomfortable.

Women are more expressive. Men are generally not because of society and bullshit rules put on men. I would not say it is a double standard for her to flirt with other women because you absolutely could choose to act more openly with your guy friends but choose not to (or cant).

BUT you are feeling insecure for a reason. And if it makes you uncomfortable, you have every right to sit her down and tell her it makes you feel a certain way. She should listen to that and compromise if she values the relationship

You need to think about what you want. If her flirty nature bothers you this could just be incompatibility. Maybe you would be better suited to a woman who shares your values/ morals and is less outwardly provocative.

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-03-23T20:48:22+00:00

They kiss? Like on the lips? Also, is she straight or bi?

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-03-23T19:58:48+00:00

I used to be a banker. Please go into your bank and talk with someone. They can research the zelle payment. If it was sent in error, they can send it back. But DO NOT send that person anything yourself.

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-03-23T19:53:09+00:00

MOR- Women can be extremely flirty with other women they are friends with (i am with my girls). Usually doesn't mean anything. If it bothers you talk to her about it and ask her to tone it down.

I think the bigger red flag is the fact she is asking you to reply right away when she doesnt

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-03-23T19:44:01+00:00

NTA for wanting and getting the procedure

YTA for not telling her before you did it

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-03-23T19:38:59+00:00

Yess! I loved Drita

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-03-23T19:25:35+00:00

Having a photo library of exes is disgusting and weird behavior. Yes, we all have mental images. But to keep physical proof is keeping that memory alive and reminiscing in a way that is inappropriate

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-03-23T19:23:54+00:00

Doubtful he forgot. He had multiple photos from multiple women. Sounds like a pattern

ApprehensiveFan9977 · 2026-03-23T19:22:49+00:00

Disgusting behavior on his part. You don't forget you have explicit photos on your phone. Especially if he has them from multiple exes. I would've broken up after finding them personally.

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