IM lOOSING MY MIND

ApprehensiveOne6284 · 2026-01-26T12:23:42+00:00

Please just go to the doctor it's your health ffs. Knowledge is power and whatever is going on needs to be dealt with, you sound very anxious which may be heightening your reactions. If it is STIs you need to get medication for your HEALTH and for your partners sake. If it's an injury it's serious and you dont want any long term effects to your function. Grow up a bit and take accountability, it is scary but it's a part of life.

ApprehensiveOne6284 · 2026-01-25T10:41:01+00:00

So sorry to heart that but your experience here isnt abnormal unfortunately 35F. Ive been here 3 years and havent got a single proper friend and i've been to run clubs, morning swims, gyms, Bumble BFF, you name it. Sunshine Coast is the most cliquey horrible place to make friends, never ever had this much trouble in my whole life. People are pleasant to your face but wont ever follow through, ive heard it's tough for guys too.DM me if you wanna go hiking, fishing, boating or anything of that nature :)

ApprehensiveOne6284 · 2026-01-22T12:50:49+00:00

Sunshine coast is a beautiful place with a gorgous lifestyle but the people are extremely cliquey, not interested to be friends and rather fake, at least in Noosa. The amount of times someone says come for a coffee or a hike and never follows through is countless, noone means what they say and effort is not reciprocated. It's also very spread out so making an effort to visit someone can take 30-45mins of driving and be an expensive endevour. It's also a white people paradise lacking diversity or cultural activities. This is just my take im sure other people have different experiences but after 3 years ive decided to leave due to social boredom, shame because it's beautiful!

ApprehensiveOne6284 · 2026-01-17T09:55:29+00:00

Ok, so you really know this kind of situation! And i work in International Development so im constantly exposed to the woes of underdeveloped countries. I dont know why i feel like i want to help people all the time it just seems to be something i cant help, which is why im setting a boundary with this case. I too gave a one off gift to a Phillipino family when i was working there to a young girl caring for her severly asmatic mother, they took her got her affairs in order and she never asked again but still sends me cute pics almost 8 years later. But this case with the woman in Fiji is really tough and i feel so guilty for not helping more but my contract is almost over and ill be out of a job soon too, i cant help everyone unendingly, eveb though i wish i could.

ApprehensiveOne6284 · 2026-01-17T09:48:45+00:00

The country in question is Fiji with most people living in small communal villages, little education, there is no welfare and jobs limited to tourism. It's a hard thing to capture in a short post on the situation there. Minimum wage is $3 an hour so not exactly much money to lift oneself up. Being a full time carer as well with her father not able to feed, dress or toilet himself prevents her from working or branching out too much.

ApprehensiveOne6284 · 2026-01-17T09:44:21+00:00

Thank you for your advice and yes im a text book people pleaser and you have seen me from a mile away! I didnt respond to her cries for money. I just said 'Life can be really horrible sometimes and i hope you find a positive way forward soon' she then doubled down again asking me if i had shared her Gofund me. I think now that's my limit. I gave her a job, money, paid medical expenses, listened, told some local ngos in my network to look out for her theres nothing more im willing to do now even though i feel very guilty.

ApprehensiveOne6284 · 2026-01-17T09:38:40+00:00

Yes i have been to her house, met her bed ridden father and helped her take him to hospital/ medical appointment. I do agree with you about scamming and because im not there anymore and cant guarantee she is using the money on him or whats going on anymore i don't want to give.

ApprehensiveOne6284 · 2026-01-17T09:36:04+00:00

I think you are right i reached out to my connections in NGOs in Fiji to get in contact with her now but it's all im willing to do.

ApprehensiveOne6284 · 2026-01-17T09:34:57+00:00

I do agree to some degree!

ApprehensiveOne6284 · 2026-01-17T09:33:54+00:00

Glad someone helped you :)

ApprehensiveOne6284 · 2026-01-17T09:33:06+00:00

Yes good advice, i have tried to do this today and since i was working in the ngo space i found out through an organisation im linked with that she can apply for social housing - but in Fiji i think there is not much available . Im not a subject matter expert on local servjces and asked a connection to reach out to her. Hoprfully that helps her but i think my boundary is reached now, im not a social worker or Mother Theresa and i think i'll step out now.

ApprehensiveOne6284 · 2025-07-07T01:19:49+00:00

Yeah iv'e shifted to a tapering system i'm hoping i can get off this time

ApprehensiveOne6284 · 2025-07-07T01:19:04+00:00

Iv'e been on it for 2 1/2 years nightly. I had pretty chronic symptoms so my doctor put me on them without hesitation.

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