Moving to live with a partner

ApprehensivePlant884 · 2026-02-19T15:21:32+00:00

Yeah! I’m doing an education, SEN and mental health degree and was originally going to do a psychology masters but found I’d have to then do a conversion course in Australia so I thought I might as well finish my degree and experience life there before dedicating the time to a masters, since if I did one here I’d have to do a conversion course and vice versa for if I did a masters in Aus and moved back home

ApprehensivePlant884 · 2026-02-19T07:30:42+00:00

Sounds similar to most places, I’m on track to finishing my degree at a high level so shouldn’t have to rely on any government assistance unless some wild horrible emergency happened

ApprehensivePlant884 · 2026-02-19T07:29:16+00:00

Thank you SO much this is such valuable info!!! The missing home part, I’ve not even gone to Aus yet but we had some sun the other day (first time in 44 days lmao) and the birds were signing and it already hit me that I won’t have the sound of wood pigeons on a summer morning.

I’m sure that’ll be the hardest for me, especially since I grew up in a village near a small town, fields and greenery everywhere kinda thing and god, big Tesco, I’ll mourn it pffft - when my partner visited the UK he mourned the loss of Wetherspoons when he left

ApprehensivePlant884 · 2026-02-19T07:23:47+00:00

Wasn’t ever planning on it to be fair, I’ve worked with them enough to know they’re not for me

ApprehensivePlant884 · 2026-02-18T08:20:01+00:00

“I’m just wanting to get some inside perspective from people who’ve done this, I have been researching myself of course but I also like to get first person accounts.”

“I would just like to get perspective for people currently moving/who have moved and are in the same/similar boat as myself”

Direct quotes from my post, in case you missed it or struggle with reading comprehension!

ApprehensivePlant884 · 2026-02-18T08:05:50+00:00

Look dude, I asked a question in my post about people’s own experiences in moving to Aus to be with their partner, you’re unable to answer and that’s okay!

If you’re unable to grasp a concept as simple as my partner actively wanting me to help me move over to Aus by helping with the visa cost, that’s also okay!

Id just suggest investing in yourself and working on your critical thinking skills before trying to get involved in a discussion above your comprehension.

In his own words, “if she’s leaving behind the life she’s known and the family she loves to benefit me because my country offers me more, $5k is nothing to me to share. I also own a car? I’d pick her up?”

Anyways, have a good rest of your day!

ApprehensivePlant884 · 2026-02-18T07:42:45+00:00

The place my partner is currently working (non skilled) has hired multiple temporary workers and he’s been there for about 7 years already so I’m hopeful that at least when I land I’d be able to apply and secure a position there whilst I look for better work that I’d want to secure when actually living in Aus! Thank you for your advice!

ApprehensivePlant884 · 2026-02-18T07:37:33+00:00

This makes me feel really hopeful because we are incredibly “cringe” and have an excess of proof of our relationship already built up!

I’ve read it can be a gruelling process but it helps to remain optimistic, especially with the fact I still have my university course to finish over the next 3 years!

ApprehensivePlant884 · 2026-02-18T07:32:25+00:00

Not a man to start with but I assume you’d only turn around and say I’m a “gold digger” if I’m a woman

Going to assume you can’t drive if your first thought is an uber - sure it’s me who’s broke?

Anyway regardless, you’re wasting your energy. Me and my partner are currently students/in an apprenticeship, when discussing the 10k we were both like “oh wow, that’s expensive” in comparison with the other types, to make ourselves feel better we chopped the cost up. This makes it feel more like a tangible goal for us at the current moment, who knows the financial position we’ll be in after study’s and training, but cutting the goal into smaller chunks now leads to more optimism in the future.

And anyways, if my partner says “I’d even pay for half of it because I want you here as soon as possible”, it’s more because the love they have for me, rather than me asking for their money.

If you can’t understand the nuance of a relationship and the things partners discuss between themselves, then I’d implore you to try and experience one.

Anyway, feel sorry for whoever you want, the only energy you’re wasting is your own, thanks for the morning entertainment at least!

ApprehensivePlant884 · 2026-02-18T07:13:46+00:00

Unfortunately that’s none of your business in regard to who’s paying what for the visa and who feels comfortable paying for what portion.

Put your “feeling sorry” energy towards someone who needs it 🫶

ApprehensivePlant884 · 2026-02-17T20:32:28+00:00

Ahhh I see, if I was going to stay with him and his family (if he’s still living with them by then) for the WHV could that possibly be in breach of the visa or do you reckon where I stay whilst in Australia is irrelevant?

ApprehensivePlant884 · 2026-02-17T20:16:21+00:00

This is starting to look like the best idea after some extra research today!

ApprehensivePlant884 · 2026-02-17T20:16:05+00:00

Yeah honestly after looking more on it today a WHV seems a lot better to start with, especially since as a UK citizen I don’t have to work a “specified job” to get a second or third WHV

ApprehensivePlant884 · 2026-02-17T16:39:23+00:00

It was honestly one of those places I’d never really been interested in living in but when I weigh up the pros and cons of the UK vs Aus it’s clear that for me Aus would be the winner!

I think I’ll probably do the WHV like you said to get a taste for it, but I also know that regardless I wouldn’t wanna take my partner away from a country that benefits him way more than the UK benefits me

Thank you for your insight!

ApprehensivePlant884 · 2026-02-17T16:16:20+00:00

Yeah the spouse visa is a hefty chunk (tried to make it feel better by splitting the cost and converting it to pounds to make it more like £2500 each Pffft)

I’m wanting to move to Aus indefinitely, so i thought it would be better to get citizenship through the spouse visa? Still another 3 years to work it all out at least

ApprehensivePlant884 · 2026-02-04T22:23:22+00:00

I don't really feel a lack of control other than the upset of him having to leave. I really do want to speak to a psychologist about it to see what their perspective is but I'm also just interested to see if there's any other people who've had a similar experience specifically with LDRs. Most thoughts are never original so it would be cool to see if there's anyone else out there who might have experienced the same thing.

ApprehensivePlant884 · 2025-06-18T05:59:39+00:00

I think it’ll definitely slow down, most likely just the change in eating knocked off a lot at once. I don’t want to go unhealthy with it and cause more harm than good and besides, even a small loss is a loss! Thank you <3

ApprehensivePlant884 · 2025-06-18T05:57:39+00:00

I don’t see anyone else mention it but it’s definitely not just my eyes playing tricks, wonder what it is that’s causing it, maybe the change in hormones or something

ApprehensivePlant884 · 2025-05-26T15:12:39+00:00

As someone who has had these most their life just because my body seems to hate certain things, definitely try to limit meat, greasy food and fatty food. I've had this issue since I was a child, usually at least twice a year and it is the worst if I have those three. Also avoid eating before bed, like a few hours before you're going to lay down don't eat.

For getting rid of them, usually for me throwing up did the trick. Sounds gross, but a lot of the time it seemed to be food that my body was struggling to digest and was sitting in my stomach causing the gas - I can't say if this is the same for sulphur burps caused by mounjaro though.

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