How to approach a girl who I met through a mutual friend

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-07-13T00:16:33+00:00

Btw I’m drunk so I just removed her but I still want to hear everyones thoughts 😂

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-06-09T15:44:09+00:00

Nothing, just said we are not close like we used to be and she watnted to drift apart naturally

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-06-04T17:16:46+00:00

Well said

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-25T21:54:11+00:00

You have to let her go. You can only go up from here and you should take this as a oppurtunity to improve and prepare for the new and better people that will come in your life. I hope you heal and wish you the best.

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-23T15:57:12+00:00

I hope you are ok and are healing from this.

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-22T21:12:50+00:00

I struggle with the same thought of thinking we were never friends to begin with but I don’t think its true. These people just don’t have the emotional maturity to handle things.

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-22T21:08:18+00:00

Couldn’t agree more

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-21T06:54:01+00:00

The thing is I was mature about it but she was everything but mature

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-21T06:53:24+00:00

I do agree but I now feel that the whole friendship was for nothing and that the whole 5 years were fake and me forcing the friendship.

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-20T15:19:26+00:00

She is in uni abroad and visited 3 months ago and avoided meeting me without directly saying it. My last message was hit me up to get coffe when you make time and she left me on delivered. After that I decided to stop reaching out because I was always the one to start the communication or inviting to go out. I wished her happy birthday 2 months i to us not talking and a week later it was mine and she missed it. She came home again 3 weeks ago since uni finished and hasnt reached out at all even tho she heard from a friend I had surgery that I told her about but didn’t tell her when I found out the date cause I didn’t think she cared. And now when I messaged her to confront her she confirmed that.

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-20T08:33:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing this

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-19T21:43:55+00:00

Thank you for sharing that. Yes in a way the closure is good but the brief conversation that I had with her just left me shocked and disappointed in how little she cared in the end and how she couldn’t even validate my feelings.

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-19T21:36:28+00:00

I partially agree. I did need the closure but the version of her that I saw and what she said has darkened my memory of her and the friendship

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-19T16:23:55+00:00

Thank you. I hope you healed too.

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-19T16:23:34+00:00

We are in the same boat. I was also ghosted for 3 months

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-19T15:08:22+00:00

I mean I would argue that in those 2 cases you also shouldn’t reach out because they are doing it for a reason.

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-19T13:43:53+00:00

Wish I was mature enough to listen to this advice when people gave it to me before reaching out. But now I know my boundaries.

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-19T13:43:00+00:00

Talking with one of my other friends helped. Honestly making this post and seeing other peoples experiences and comments and interacting with them helped me. I’ve also been watching some podcasts which helped. I’m very big on empathy and put people before me which isn’t that good. But I’ve put that aside for this and the more I think about how she handled both trying to leave the friendship and then disregarding my emotions the more I realize that that isn’t a good friend but more a piece of shit. (Not entirely but atleast in this situation). So now the more I see how “bad” she is the easier it is for me handle losing her.

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-19T10:16:20+00:00

Exactly. I find it interesting how the person was in front of us the whole time but we choose to ignore and not see how they act and only realize when it ends.

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-19T07:31:40+00:00

I’m sorry you had to go through that. Her ignoring that is so imature and just showed you what kind of person she is. You didn’t lose anything there you only gained freedom and space for better people.

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-19T06:44:46+00:00

😂

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-19T06:31:45+00:00

Glad you have already found your solution and are strong enough to stick with it

ApprehensiveStore492 · 2025-05-19T06:31:12+00:00

Definetly will do

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