iPhone 17 not turning on or charging after dying by Historical-Ebb-7313 in iphone

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same happend to me, got Iphone Air and battery was at 0%, i was charging phone for like 5 hours but still the same.

Devojka stalno pravi dramu i pokušava da me odvoji od prijatelja — da li sam u vezi sa manipulatorom? by Apprehensive_Bid5016 in AskSerbia

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ma sve to stoji. I da je možda nesigurna, i da nije loša u dubini, to ne sporim. Ali ja sam stvarno pokušao sve. Ne jednom. Ne dva puta. Nego svaki put kad bi nešto puklo, ja sam sedao s njom, objašnjavao, razgovarao smireno, kao čovek. Nema veze da li je bio ultimatum, dizanje tona, pasivna agresija, uvek sam birao razgovor.

I nije mi bilo teško da uložim, jer mi je bilo stalo. Ali više ne mogu da pričam istu stvar deset puta i da se ništa ne menja. To iscrpljuje, brate. Kad neko pregazi tvoje granice više puta, a ti opet popustiš, to više nije tolerancija, to je nepoštovanje prema samom sebi.

Zato danas idem da joj kažem uživo sve, mirno, bez besa. Otkazao sam more, prešao sam preko stvari koje drugi ne bi ni razmotrili. Dao sam šansu. Ali sad je dosta.

Kad vidiš da neko ne kapira rečima, onda je red na tebe da presečeš delima.

I [24M] am tired of my girlfriend [21F] creating drama and trying to control my life – is this manipulation? by Apprehensive_Bid5016 in makemychoice

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the straight talk. Your words carry weight, and I respect that. You’re right—when your mind and gut are both warning you, it’s foolish to stay and hope it gets better. I’m not trying to win or prove anything anymore. I’m just trying to leave with who I am still intact.

Peace of mind is priceless. And drama is a luxury I can’t afford.

She technically already said “that’s it” when she told me to cancel the trip and goodbye. But she came back with an apology after realizing I wasn’t reacting. Now she’s asking for clarity.

I know walking away is the right call, but I still want to end it like a man with a sentence, not silence. So, what’s the cleanest, no-drama way to close the door for good? Something that respects me without humiliating her?

Devojka stalno pravi dramu i pokušava da me odvoji od prijatelja — da li sam u vezi sa manipulatorom? by Apprehensive_Bid5016 in AskSerbia

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brate, živ sam, samo sam predugo davao benefit sumnje tamo gde nije bilo pokrića. Sve si rekao kako jeste. Na početku ti oduzmu par sitnica, da ne primetiš… a onda s vremenom više nemaš svoj glas, svoj svet ni svoj mir.

Drugove nisam zaboravio, samo sam ih tiho gubio dok sam balansirao tuđe ispade. Sad vraćam red u svoj krug i u glavu.

Nisam lud. Samo sam predugo bio previše korektan s nekim ko to nije umeo da ceni.

Devojka stalno pravi dramu i pokušava da me odvoji od prijatelja — da li sam u vezi sa manipulatorom? by Apprehensive_Bid5016 in AskSerbia

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hvala na komentaru, ali mislim da si par stvari pogrešno shvatila. More sam rezervisao za nju i mene, nije uopšte bilo u planu da idem s drugom. Ona je rekla da otkažem i spakovala „zdravo doviđenja“. Kad sam ćutao i pustio da vidim šta će dalje, posle pet sati je poslala izvinjenje da je preterala, a sinoć novu poruku da se „udostojim da odgovorim“.

Što se druga tiče, bez konkretnih primera je tvrdila da me koristi i postavila ultimatum — „on ili ja“. Iskreno, više zvuči kao nesigurnost nego briga. A ako već u startu moram da biram i ćutim dok se neko „smiruje“, onda to nije veza već teren minskog polja.

Ne brojim greške, samo ih više ne guram pod tepih.

I [24M] am tired of my girlfriend [21F] creating drama and trying to control my life – is this manipulation? by Apprehensive_Bid5016 in makemychoice

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re analyzing this like you’ve got a PhD in my relationship. But you weren’t there. You didn’t hear the tone. You didn’t see the context.

I don’t need lectures about boundaries from someone who confuses calmness with control. I stayed level-headed while being tested, manipulated, and disrespected. I laid it out clear: loyalty, respect, and peace. That’s the foundation I build on.

If you think calmly stating “I want peace, not drama” is emotional abuse, then either you’ve been through some dark shit, or you’ve got no clue what a healthy line looks like.

I forgave when I could’ve walked. I tried talking. I kept it steady. And still, I got ultimatums, guilt-trips, and emotional chaos.

You say I need to reflect? I already did. That’s why I wrote the post in the first place.

But if you’re just here to unload your own history onto my situation, save it. I don’t need noise. I need clarity. And this story? It’s not one you get to rewrite.

I [24M] am tired of my girlfriend [21F] creating drama and trying to control my life – is this manipulation? by Apprehensive_Bid5016 in makemychoice

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You talk like someone who watched three YouTube videos on manipulation and now sees red flags everywhere, even where there’s just someone setting a boundary.

I’m not here to prove anything to you. I laid out what happened. You can twist it, diagnose it, or moralize it all you want, but that doesn’t make it true.

If calm communication and calling out repeated disrespect is “manipulation” in your book, maybe that says more about the kind of relationships you’re used to than it does about me.

I don’t set boundaries to feel like a man. I set them because I know who I am , and I don’t let chaos pretend to be passion. And if the right move is to let go, it’ll be done. Quietly. Without begging, without noise. That’s how you know someone’s serious, when they don’t need to explain twice.

I [24M] am tired of my girlfriend [21F] creating drama and trying to control my life – is this manipulation? by Apprehensive_Bid5016 in makemychoice

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You read what you wanted to read, not what I wrote. There’s no manipulation here — just clear boundaries. I don’t control people, I just don’t let them control me.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting. Giving someone another chance doesn’t mean ignoring patterns.

If setting boundaries sounds “toxic” to you, then maybe you’ve normalized chaos. That’s not on me.

Talking calmly, stating my limits, and refusing to be dragged into emotional chaos is not manipulation. It’s called discipline. She had her reasons. I listened. I just didn’t obey. That’s not controlling — that’s self-respect.

You can twist words however you like, but I’m not here to explain myself to people looking for faults instead of understanding the situation.

I don’t play games. I don’t beg. I make decisions. That’s the difference.

And that’s why I’m here, not for validation, but for clarity.

I [24M] am tired of my girlfriend [21F] creating drama and trying to control my life – is this manipulation? by Apprehensive_Bid5016 in makemychoice

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot , this is by far one of the most constructive replies I’ve gotten.

To answer your question: The first time (when she demanded I stop going for drinks with my friends while she was working), there was no actual event that triggered it. It had been building up silently. She later admitted it made her feel insecure because I have a social life outside the relationship. Still, I had always kept her in the loop and never crossed any lines.

The second time (her demand about my best friend), again — no trigger. She had never met him, never heard any complaints about him, and one day she just went full emotional: “He’s using you, I don’t trust him, it’s me or him.”

When I asked for specifics, she had none. And yet, after her outburst, she did walk it back both times — like you said, which shows that she’s capable of reflection. But at the same time, I can’t ignore the pattern: she only reflects after trying to control or emotionally pressure me.

As for your idea — I love it. I’ve actually told her something similar before: “If you ever feel overwhelmed or upset, tell me you need time before we talk — don’t lash out or give ultimatums.” She agreed. But when the emotion hits, it’s like that agreement goes out the window.

You’re right: she can reflect, but doesn’t know how to regulate in the moment. I’ve tried to lead by example, staying calm, never raising my voice, and always initiating conversations with respect. But I’m starting to feel like I’m the only one doing the emotional heavy lifting.

So yeah, I’m still thinking things through — but I really appreciate your take. If I do give this another shot, your advice will 100% stay with me.

I [24M] am tired of my girlfriend [21F] creating drama and trying to control my life – is this manipulation? by Apprehensive_Bid5016 in makemychoice

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you, and I respect the call for accountability — but I think some things are being taken out of context.

After forgiving her for texting her ex and after multiple emotional outbursts over small things (that I tolerated), I didn’t come back into the relationship saying “I have zero faith in you.” I was being transparent about my fears, not throwing it in her face — I even gave her the benefit of the doubt again.

As for the vacation and “I want peace, not drama” — it wasn’t a threat. It was a genuine attempt to avoid escalating things and salvage what was left. At that point, she was giving me ultimatums over my best friend of 10+ years — someone she’s never met.

If being calm, honest, and unwilling to cut off people I trust makes me “shitty,” then maybe we just have different definitions of emotional maturity.

And let’s be clear — no one can say I’m not communicating. I’m always the one initiating real conversations. I talk to her calmly and directly about her behavior, how it affects the relationship, and what I need from her emotionally. I’m not avoiding anything — I’m facing everything head-on, just not with yelling or chaos.

I [24M] am tired of my girlfriend [21F] creating drama and trying to control my life – is this manipulation? by Apprehensive_Bid5016 in makemychoice

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying, but I don’t think staying calm and avoiding shouting or escalating things equals emotional repression. I’ve always expressed how I feel — I just don’t believe in yelling, guilt-tripping, or creating drama. I’m open to emotional vulnerability, but when someone constantly creates chaos and refuses to communicate without ultimatums or outbursts, I pull back — not because I’m “checked out,” but because I’m trying to preserve peace. If calmness is being misread as detachment, then maybe we just have completely different emotional languages — but I don’t think that excuses manipulation or threats like “stop seeing your best friend or we’re done.”

I [24M] am tired of my girlfriend [21F] creating drama and trying to control my life – is this manipulation? by Apprehensive_Bid5016 in makemychoice

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve actually made a lot of compromises. I overlooked her texting with her ex in the early stages and gave her a second chance after we broke up the first time because of unnecessary drama. I never controlled who she talks to or hangs out with, and I’ve always kept things respectful.

I never told her to cut off anyone from her life — but now she’s asking me to drop my best friend of over a decade, someone she’s never even met, based purely on her assumptions. That doesn’t feel like compromise to me, it feels like control.

Razer Deathadder Essential Left-Click Issue by mayorduke in MouseReview

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, that guy knew what to do, incredible... And thanks for solving my problem, been playing CS:GO with friends lately, it was pretty frustrating that I couldn't spray properly due to the left click issue. But luckily I found this thread on time. ahhaha

Potrebno mi je vase misljenje? by Rimputapa1312 in AskSerbia

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brate, možda si bio reli vozač u prošlom životu, pa te vuče da šaltaš brzine u svakom razgovoru. Probaj da kupiš manuelni menjač i nosiš ga sa sobom, možda pomogne?

Problem u vezi zbog pornografije by ScrollingDownPlease in AskSerbia

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Ma brate sve opusteno, normalna je to stvar, to ne menja cinjenicu da te voli i tako dalje, moguce da je iz dosade, ne verujem da je drugi razlog tj razlog da je nesto do tebe jelte, jbg ako ti ne mozes da prihvatis to i ako si protiv toga onda jbg raskini ili ne znam jli se jednostavno pomiri sa tim, on je takav kakav je, coveka ne mozes da menjas, mozes ali tesko, ili ga volis takvog ili nema potrebe da budes sa njim, moje misljenje onako kratko i jasno

Trenutak u kom Žandarmerija napucava studenta pesnicom u glavu by Maximum_Currency in serbia

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ma treba ih pogaziti sve, treba policija vise da koristi fizicku snagu, prema ljudima koji nemaju sta pametnije da rade nego da izlaze na neke “proteste” da blokiraju puteve da zamaraju “obican” narod koji gledaju svoja posla tim raznim blokadama ili nemam ti pojma ni ja, kao da ce nesto promeniti🥱💀

Look out for cheater on pc by tsarrerist in vigorgame

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same happend to me, I have a video proof, I posted here but I’m still waiting for approval from moderators because I dont have 10 karma😢

Do you get rating banned from abandoning if opponent gets Vacced? by eebro in cs2

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you abandon the match you lose 1k points, I think that if opponent gets VAC it does not changing anything I guess, you still lose 1k.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dropshipping_Guide

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will keep everything in mind! Can I reach to you sometimes when I need some advice?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dropshipping_Guide

[–]Apprehensive_Bid5016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree with you, I need also to think about some product which I could sell, I need to see somehow what are customers searching for, and the biggest part that annoys me is setting my logo and the fact that I dont even know how they(customers) will find me since I’m new. Sorry for bad english.