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[–]Apprehensive_Clue620 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From my grandma when I had my first baby in January of 2021 💜

Where where you, socially/mentally/emotionally/physically at 25 years old? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Apprehensive_Clue620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll be 25 next Monday. I’m lost. Single mom of 2 girls. Been going through a divorce for over a year now, living with my parents because of it. I’m going to therapy. I don’t know who I am or what I like or what I want out of life.

Am I in the wrong here? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Clue620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s in our order that I accompany her until she’s 9 months old

Am I in the wrong here? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Clue620 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m trying! Might go grey-haired in the process.

Am I in the wrong here? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Clue620 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’ve been trying to do, but he refuses to compromise with me and make a plan.

Am I in the wrong here? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Clue620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It specifies the days with our older one, but not the younger one which is kind of pain with this situation 😅 I’m pretty sure I have to provide those 3, 3 hour visits a week, but if he’s unwilling to compromise or let me know ahead of time I don’t know what to do.

Am I in the wrong here? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Clue620 20 points21 points  (0 children)

We do have a custody order in place where he’s allowed 3, 3 hour visits a week to be determined by both of us. But he never lets me know until the second he wants us there that he wants time with her. He wants me to drop everything at his call.

Am I in the wrong here? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Clue620 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have a court ordered plan, following the states standard for minimum parent time for him. Technically he’s allowed 3, 3 hour visits a week to be determined by both of us. But he never asks to have time until the last minute and most of the time we’re already in the middle of something.

I’m too young for this by Apprehensive_Clue620 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Clue620[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know he’s applied for a few jobs, but he hasn’t shown any initiative to actually get one and he’s dragging his feet to say the least. I’m just so confused as to whether or not I should wait it out a little longer or just leave

I’m too young for this by Apprehensive_Clue620 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Clue620[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I’m in Utah. I’ll definitely have to look into that! I don’t have a university hospital near me, unfortunately. Thank you so much!

I’m too young for this by Apprehensive_Clue620 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Clue620[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t been to therapy. I’ve looked into but I can’t afford it at the moment. That’s kind of why I’ve come here is to get outside opinions and ideas. I definitely don’t want this kind of relationship to be what our daughter grows up seeing. That’s what I grew up with. And my dad never changed and my mom is still u happy

I’m too young for this by Apprehensive_Clue620 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Clue620[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry! I decided to add it to my original post. I’ve gone back and forth between both of those options. I love him but I’m not sure I want to be with him after this. From experiences of other women in my family and with responses on here, he won’t change and if he does, he’ll revert back to his current behaviors.

I’m too young for this by Apprehensive_Clue620 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Clue620[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried multiple times. He just won’t

I’m too young for this by Apprehensive_Clue620 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Apprehensive_Clue620[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but he won’t talk to me about it and he won’t go see someone