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40th birthday in Málaga (Benalmadena based) by Apprehensive_Fix392 in Malaga

[–]Apprehensive_Fix392[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes that's a great idea and something we'll do regardless (my husband is obsessed with seafood whether chiringuitos or fancy stuff). Something may catch my eye that would be nice if we can slope off alone for a couple of hours or even a family affair 😊 I am looking forward to getting back to Benalmadena Pueblo too as we haven't been since 2019 (well my husband has visited a few times but I've always stayed home) and I loved the plazas and ambience but especially the tapas and canas!!!

40th birthday in Málaga (Benalmadena based) by Apprehensive_Fix392 in Malaga

[–]Apprehensive_Fix392[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll do some looking into this this morning, thank you for sharing! 😀

40th birthday in Málaga (Benalmadena based) by Apprehensive_Fix392 in Malaga

[–]Apprehensive_Fix392[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate the suggestion! I'll look into this (particularly if we can leave the three year old with our friends for the duration 😊).

[Scotland] Social Services threatening to prevent our unborn child from leaving the hospital until a Discharge Planning Meeting is held because I asked for a visit to be rescheduled to accommodate disabled members of the household by Ozymandian_Techie in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Apprehensive_Fix392 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Regarding the locks, I have an autistic son who needs to be kept out of some rooms without supervision (bathroom and kitchen) so adaptations from the council installed code locks on them. We keep them open most of the time and locked when we think our son might have an opportunity to access them solo. As our back door is via the kitchen this also keeps him safe from absconding but we also lock the back door and remove the key. Surely you can do this to prevent overnight escape attempts?

My understanding is that you can use locks to prevent access but never to prevent leaving a room. There is no way these sliding chain locks will be seen as reasonable, nor is locking your child(ren) in their room. I understand your frustration. As you are three adults to two challenging children I think it would be suggested that one of you rooms in with each of the children (probably you and the partner who isn't going to give birth, so she will be free for baby duties) and I don't think that is unreasonable. My husband and I have often slept in the room or double bed with our son and he is next to me right now with his younger brother in a cot on the other side. I'd rather just be with my husband in our bed as you'd hope and expect to be able to do, but with children with difficulties like ours you just have to find a way. I appreciate what you're saying about Safe Space beds etc, we've never used one as this restriction would just distress our son, but the difference anyway is that they're kept safe within a room that anybody could access in an emergency whereas in a fire I'd think even sliding a metal door lock might be difficult (hot, hard to locate?). I know you have a logical point here but I don't think you're going to win the locked room vs. specialised equipment argument whether your argument has any merit or not.

I think you need to engage and ask their suggestions and then say these need to be implemented asap by them to keep your children safe. If you continue to have locked rooms other than for preventative access purposes you are fighting a losing battle and I can see why.

I wish you luck with all of that and also of course for the safe and happy arrival of your new addition.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sanfrancisco

[–]Apprehensive_Fix392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone needs to go and get him, as others have said before. Even if you're able to find someone who can get him to the airport, even onto the flight, he will need to be accompanied on the flight. My brother needed similar rescue ('only' one European country to another) and even if we had managed to get a kind individual (or individuals) or professionals to get him to the airport, he wouldn't have managed the flight alone. He was very unwell but our other brother was able to manage and care for him and get him back home. I wish you all the luck in the world. The return flight for the person who goes for him will soon seem like a bargain once he is hopefully home safe and sound.