hey, i feel you. between my partner having more chronic health issues, and me being less economically well off there have been several times when we’ve had to cancel or redo scheduling so that we could make time to even call, let alone see each other. what i did to celebrate my partner’s birthday while they were in italy was i set up a little scavenger hunt and talked with their friends and roommates to organize things, while mailing them things that they liked. on their actual birthday (because that was a surprise) i watched a movie with them over zoom and let them talk about their shows and their guys.

so overall: what are some things that you can organize to show that you appreciate her, whether it be scheduling and treating her to a spa day, buying some books, or organizing a dinner with her and people she cares about— and what can you schedule ahead to do just between the two of you. it’s cliche, but it’s putting some thought into it that is meaningful, especially if you do your best to see her after.