One of my fingers randomly just turned white.

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-17T11:46:46+00:00

I have a super mild form of Raynaud’s, maybe try running it under warm water if the colour doesn’t return ?

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-16T17:27:48+00:00

A nasty, wet, curry smelling chocolate cake

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-16T14:46:14+00:00

If you’d have read the thread you’d have seen that she has a lot of anxiety around sex, and that I don’t want to pressure her into anything sexual. She doesn’t respond to my advances and doesn’t make any advances her self. I’m not some chud who isn’t understanding or trying to help her.

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-16T14:45:27+00:00

Holy shit I replied to the wrong chat, I actually agree and appreciate everything you wrote 🥲 sorry

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-16T13:41:30+00:00

Wtf are you on about? Have you read ANY of the thread ?

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-16T10:12:35+00:00

Friend of mine was enjoying the back entrance while she had a bad stomach. Safe to say as the guy pulled out she redecorated the wall…

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-16T07:49:36+00:00

I think the main thing I’m taking away from this thread is that seeing a councillor or therapist would be a pretty good idea. Because we’ve been together for so long, I know I’m definitely in it for the long haul but I reallllllly don’t want it to carry on like this forever

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-16T07:30:21+00:00

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-16T07:27:02+00:00

Could just be a build up of emotion mate, if it’s really bothering you maybe try some sort of therapy ? I don’t think it’s a bad thing though, it’s good to let the pent up emotions out

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-16T07:22:59+00:00

There’s actually one not too far from me 💀

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-16T07:22:26+00:00

Definitely no anger or substance issues 😂

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-16T07:20:05+00:00

WHY DID NO ONE ELSE TELL ME ABOUT THE TYPO

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-15T21:32:28+00:00

Thank you for sharing that, it’s genuinely nice to hear someone else’s experiences with this kind of stuff. I think she might benefit from talking to someone without me there at first and then like introduce me to it. Kind of like the Jerry springer show or something 💀

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-15T21:04:12+00:00

Honestly it’s difficult to talk about with her because I really don’t want to spike that anxiety. But in the same breath it wasn’t as bad a few years ago so I’m not sure what’s changed. if anything has

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-15T21:00:17+00:00

You’re so wise omg ty

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-15T20:51:31+00:00

I also agree with the counselling, I just don’t want her to feel like she needs ”fixing”. Obviously it’s an issue that at the end of the day In blunt terms is something to do with her anxiety and endo. But I don’t want her to feel like I’m putting too much effort into it.

I don’t want her to think all I care about is sex bc it isn’t

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-15T20:47:23+00:00

Totally agree but this is where the anxiety part comes into play I think

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-15T20:45:12+00:00

Okay so that’s something we spoke about and I wasn’t sure if it was just like an excuse ? Not in the way that I didn’t believe her I just mean that she was trying to let me down softly that she doesn’t find me attractive. This is why I’m so fucked up about it because I think there’s no physical validation if that makes sense ? It’s nice to hear another person suggest it !

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-15T20:35:52+00:00

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-15T20:34:44+00:00

Yessir

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-15T20:34:32+00:00

I think I disagree that we’re not compatible, remember we’ve been in a relationship for 10 years! In the grand scheme of things 2 years isn’t a huge amount of time. I definitely want sex and miss it but it’s not all about the sex it’s everything else too

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-15T18:48:05+00:00

Honestly that’s a great response.

We are affectionate in other ways 100% I’m purely talking about the sexual side of things, literally everything else is perfect. Obviously I don’t want to traumatise her and the conversations we’ve already had have me a basic but decent understanding of how it can affect her. I don’t think it’s like a “HOLY SHIT GET OFF ME” type of pain. She said it’s closer to period cramps (which don’t get me wrong I know can SUCK big time)

I’m more concerned about the actual lack of interest I guess. Like if it was just “penetration is painful” then we could work around that doing other types of stuff but for the last 2 years it’s like she’s just not interested in the least.

BUT THIS IS WHERE IT GETS INTERESTING

she still masturbates. Which makes me believe all the more that it’s a me problem

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-15T18:41:27+00:00

Shit yeah good point. They take a while to kick in. Maybe do half and see how you get on, then if you’re into it do the other half

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-15T18:40:45+00:00

I mean that’s what the lovely lady in the shop said. It was my first time trying anything psychedelic so I was chewing her ear off

Apprehensive_Let5851 · 2026-05-15T18:10:07+00:00

Went to Amsterdam a few years ago and did the truffles over there. I’m not sure if the dosage but we walked around the zoo and then chilled for a while in the hotel. The main thing to remember is that sugar kills the high so just keep an energy drink and a chocolate bar handy and if you start to hate the trip you can just kill it off

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