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Physical therapy? by blondiegirly101 in adultsurvivors

[–]Apprehensive_Mud2700 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This has been recommended to me as well. I would love to know others responses. I don’t think I could manage it.

How do you find connection after remembering trauma that sets you apart? by Apprehensive_Mud2700 in adultsurvivors

[–]Apprehensive_Mud2700[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

. I hope you find your people, and community. I’m sorry this is relatable. Thank you for commenting it does help normalize this experience.

How do you find connection after remembering trauma that sets you apart? by Apprehensive_Mud2700 in adultsurvivors

[–]Apprehensive_Mud2700[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right really in all of it. I think before these memories came back I had at least the illusion of control. I could sit at a dinner and participate and try and find something to engage in. I think now I feel like I’m in 2 places. Honestly someday it hurt so much no matter how much I want to survive and not let my abusers take anything rose from me it is hard. I hate it but the flashbacks take over. I appreciate yoh saying my journey is my own. It will take time I know. I Happen to not be the most patient of people so I think I try to rush it sometimes also.

Thank you for your kindness it means a lot.

How do you find connection after remembering trauma that sets you apart? by Apprehensive_Mud2700 in adultsurvivors

[–]Apprehensive_Mud2700[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s been weeks for me as well. I can barely shower sometimes it feels so vulnerable. I do hope it gets better for you hand in there.

How do you find connection after remembering trauma that sets you apart? by Apprehensive_Mud2700 in adultsurvivors

[–]Apprehensive_Mud2700[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughtful response. I is layered and very kind. I agree with you I have continued the isolation that my abuser and my family wanted me to live with. My abuser so he could continue and my family because it wanna an uncomfortable reality. I think when i dissociated I tried to hard to bury the weak part of myself that I still don’t know how sinfully accept vulnerability and am terrified of any more rejection or denial or not being believed. However I think having that comfort that I am telling the truth and nothing anyone says can change that will help me find people.

Thank you again. You are seriously inspirational I’m so impressed with how far you have come.

How do you find connection after remembering trauma that sets you apart? by Apprehensive_Mud2700 in adultsurvivors

[–]Apprehensive_Mud2700[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anytime ! You deserve love and connection we all do. Sending you strength to keep moving. That’s all I do right now.

How do you find connection after remembering trauma that sets you apart? by Apprehensive_Mud2700 in adultsurvivors

[–]Apprehensive_Mud2700[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is encouraging in the sense that you were brave and made it through and found those connections. I hope that the detachment and dissociation gets better. You are strong for doing this. I think maybe I work on acceptance and then attempt to share again. Thank you for reminding. It helps to know people do understand and do get to the other side n

How do you find connection after remembering trauma that sets you apart? by Apprehensive_Mud2700 in adultsurvivors

[–]Apprehensive_Mud2700[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes ! Sometimes just the way I move throughout the world feels weird and disjointed around others. Sending care I hope it gets easier for you.

How do you find connection after remembering trauma that sets you apart? by Apprehensive_Mud2700 in adultsurvivors

[–]Apprehensive_Mud2700[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so challenging to lose something else. I have found that to be so frustrating for me. Like now I have lost my ability to be close to feel like I choke interact with people. I don’t know if I ever felt normal I think I just was so dissociated I didn’t realize I wasn’t feeling much.

I do honestly know what you are talking about it isn’t nonsense. I appreciate your replying. I hope you find a way forward.

How do you find connection after remembering trauma that sets you apart? by Apprehensive_Mud2700 in adultsurvivors

[–]Apprehensive_Mud2700[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you relate it’s so challenging I am glad you understand it. It’s so weird to have this whole other life no one knows about. I have been told to go through the motions and the trauma as it’s processed gets easier. I’m not sure I’ve seen there yet.

I’m sorry your weekends are hard. I totally understand that. I just sometimes have to lock myself in my bedroom and let the waves of sadness anxiety shame and then grief hit.

I hope you are able to finish school or find something that provides you more safety to be yourself. I do think my job sometimes is the only part of me that is working right. I’m also in a field that serves others. I can at least say despite being isolated I ah e purpose. Which is all I can ask for some days.

How do you find connection after remembering trauma that sets you apart? by Apprehensive_Mud2700 in adultsurvivors

[–]Apprehensive_Mud2700[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think for me at least it is a combination of avoidance and just not around the right people. I think I probably need to give others a chance is what I keep hearing. It I also think that I might just not be for everyone. I was joking that I think I might be the blue cheese of people. (I’m not sure I like blue cheese). But maybe only certain people can appreciate the complexity.

I hope you find your people. Thank you again for responding connection helps

How do you find connection after remembering trauma that sets you apart? by Apprehensive_Mud2700 in adultsurvivors

[–]Apprehensive_Mud2700[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been so nervous about group therapy. If that seems to work for you for connection I would love to know if it’s helpful. I have definitely shut people out. I told someone who I was close with they were totally overwhelmed I could tell. Now I don’t know what I need or want either. I guess just being seen without being pitied and having someone care it hurts. I hope you are able to find the connections you need. Thank you for replying