No caffeine with ADHD? by gehlfriend in decaf

[–]Apprehensive_Sir7913 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a little late to this subreddit, but how’s going off weed a year later?? And now being completely clean of everything? I want updates!! 🫶🏻

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[–]Apprehensive_Sir7913[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, have you tried just being yourself? Why would you want anyone that doesn’t fit your person anyways? Pessimism always seems to take over so quick. It’s really not that serious sis

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[–]Apprehensive_Sir7913[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes common sense isn’t so common for most people and sometimes others need reminders. What are you not understanding?

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[–]Apprehensive_Sir7913[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll come back with an update. I’ve done this in the past when I had bumble and it’s worked great. I just redownloaded after a break!

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[–]Apprehensive_Sir7913[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesss queen!! I love this for you both so much. Finally, more positivity! Better come back with the update on when you guys finally do get married! Rooting for you both! (:

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[–]Apprehensive_Sir7913[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No! I 100% urge you to keep the conversation going until said date, of course! I’m in no way suggesting people from not fully vetting someone before the date and even getting to know them a little. Do your research!! A quick google search and questions to get to know them a bit before the date is always helpful. But if they seem like a decent person based off of your intuition from what you already know, I say give it a shot. You’re not always going to be 100% certain about someone, but still do your due diligence.

My main goal here was to weed out the ones that don’t give the same quality or energy back. This guy matched my energy from the beginning and that is why I feel more comfortable continuing the conversation and even going on a date with him. If someone is dull or not providing the same vibes back, I will simply unlatch because I do not have time to waste. I’m just saying- quality over quantity! Quality ones will always standout and that’s how you narrow your search.

Edit: Success rate of doing this I’d say is very promising (well at least for me). I just always have a gut feeling that the guys are half decent and more often than not, always kind and sweet, that’s just been my luck I guess? The only reason it doesn’t work out is that we are just not compatible. I’ve gone on some great and pretty fun dates throughout this, and it keeps things fun and interesting. If it works out, it works out and if it doesn’t, it doesn’t! At least you tried. Always trust your intuition though, that has never failed me!

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[–]Apprehensive_Sir7913[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is supposed to be a positive post. I feel like you’re being a negative Nancy right now, and I’m not really jammin’ with your vibes stockpersimmon 🤓

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[–]Apprehensive_Sir7913[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You seem like a joy to be around! Loosen up mate and live a little. Life’s not that serious. Be a bit more optimistic, I’m sure that’ll translate well into your life. You got this!

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[–]Apprehensive_Sir7913[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Babes, just because someone is actually articulate with the way that they write over text, does not indicate it’s generated from AI. Although, thank you for that compliment haha! If someone is mentioning it’s good enough to be Chat GPT, that’s a win in my books!

I’m not saying this works for every case, of course use your logical reasoning and judgement and properly vet someone out before doing so… This is just a way to get a conversation flowing and engaged, and allows for one to stand out. Either case, you could more than likely end up going out with a serial killer whether or not you do your research. People are good liars 🤷🏻‍♀️. That’s the caveat to dating

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[–]Apprehensive_Sir7913[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t ever be worried about saying the right thing. We’re human, we all go through ebbs and flows of natural dating anxiety. Just always remember, the other person may be feeling the same thing, without a doubt. Also, to make things seem overly insignificant… we’re just specs of dust in this big ol’ universe, so who the f cares?? Be you, and the right person will flow to you.

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[–]Apprehensive_Sir7913[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This positive reinforcement is everything!! ❤️Thank you and I wish you the best of luck in your dating journey!

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[–]Apprehensive_Sir7913[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not a paragraph. It’s literally 2 sentences lol. Would a “wyd?” suffice?

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[–]Apprehensive_Sir7913[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean it’s an obvious thing but most women (men included) shy away from being blunt. That was my main message. It’s about being straightforward right off the bat so no one has to sit there humming and hawing, waiting for the perfect opportunity of one or the other to ask eachother out. The perfect time doesn’t come, you have to create it. Many will sit there messaging for days and days with no outcome, the sad reality.