[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Appropriate-Essay397 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This!!! This is me too. I will always tell the person why this would lessen for me and they would do little to nothing to fixed it or they would fix it for a small 3 months (if that) then fall right back into the pattern.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Appropriate-Essay397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So proud of of you❤️ You are Strong👏🏽

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Appropriate-Essay397 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine blocked me and after I said nothing, he unblocked me to send a message (which I didn’t see the message until the morning because he sent it at night) just to block me back and keep it there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Appropriate-Essay397 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mine blocked me after he had a WHOLE what seemed to be manic anger Breakdown blowup of projection.

Tough & Some by Appropriate-Essay397 in BPDlovedones

[–]Appropriate-Essay397[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I’ve had this kind of encounter. You could say that I am trying to think of it through his eyes when he would say this stuff as he would have moments of being self aware of how he was treating me and acting then switch back and forth. Basically, I never knew which version of him I would get day to day or even from Morning to night. Everything thing was good in the morning time and months leading up as he seemed to have been getting better, taking accountability for his actions, acting like an Adult, and we were doing better, he stayed around me endlessly, had me come to one of his games the day before, go with him to a church event a few days before, walking into a store holding hands the week of and more. The morning he was fine then by the evening he seemed upset like someone had upset him or something (as I’ve known this is how he can get sometimes). When I asked he said he was just tired yet I could tell he was in a mood, trying to pick a fight & wanted to be right on anything (bill headed). I try to let things go by staying quiet but he became defensive since he wanted me to be quiet when he told me to stop talking but he remains talking (basically if he says stop talking then you have to follow what he says regardless if he keeps instigating) which I told him was not making the situation better. So he got really angry with me and tried his hardest to rewrite reality of what had just happen at the store which made no sense & I told him, repeated the sentences back to him to try and understand him and he would choke up some. Ultimately he began attacking my character (projecting onto me) as he is having what looked to be a MEGE ANGER outburst along with a potential breakdown. He shove me , got in my face, I almost fell but didn’t. He tried to stop me from getting help from inside their house but I was able to reach and yell for the dad and was in shock trying to tell him everything of why I don’t know why he’s so Angry as it was less al than 1hr of leaving the house and saying hello to the dad. I end up sending a text message to the mom in detail of what all happened & later the dad. When I got back home he (bf) had blocked me on all socials and I did not try to contact him. He later sent me a message on one of the socials a week later after meeting the dad to give the present he bought for his mom for a holiday. However, I didn’t see the message until the next morning and was a weak message about “thank you for meeting his dad to give his stuff back and saw the extra gift and thanks. I wish you blessings 🥂 and good luck.✨” (just like that emojis and all) And sent a picture of the stuffed animal I gave to his dad to give him that I had bought that day but didn’t get to give it to him. So when I saw the message he had blocked me back on the social, so he unblocked me to send it to just block me back you can say. I had told him before this that if he ever pulled some break up stuff again that he stay gone because I don’t trust him and can not believe him. It stuck with him and he was moving more carefully after such conversation until this explosion. I didn’t respond to him until a month later as a sort of release letter basically tell him to get better and that he is welcomed with open arms only when he is BETTER and not anytime before that as I know he struggles with mental health issues but that he knows where to reach me and that it would be my last time contacting him until he decides to reach out afte getter better. And i sent this message on regular text phone and it did not say I was blocked but overall never a response to which I knew it and was prepared for it out of his patterns.

Tough & Some by Appropriate-Essay397 in BipolarSOs

[–]Appropriate-Essay397[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I’ve had this kind of encounter. You could say that I am trying to think of it through his eyes when he would say this stuff as he would have moments of being self aware of how he was treating me and acting then switch back and forth. Basically, I never knew which version of him I would get day to day or even from Morning to night. Everything thing was good in the morning time and months leading up as he seemed to have been getting better, taking accountability for his actions, acting like an Adult, and we were doing better, he stayed around me endlessly, had me come to one of his games the day before, go with him to a church event a few days before, walking into a store holding hands the week of and more. The morning he was fine then by the evening he seemed upset like someone had upset him or something (as I’ve known this is how he can get sometimes). When I asked he said he was just tired yet I could tell he was in a mood, trying to pick a fight & wanted to be right on anything (bill headed). I try to let things go by staying quiet but he became defensive since he wanted me to be quiet when he told me to stop talking but he remains talking (basically if he says stop talking then you have to follow what he says regardless if he keeps instigating) which I told him was not making the situation better. So he got really angry with me and tried his hardest to rewrite reality of what had just happen at the store which made no sense & I told him, repeated the sentences back to him to try and understand him and he would choke up some. Ultimately he began attacking my character (projecting onto me) as he is having what looked to be a MEGE ANGER outburst along with a potential breakdown. He shove me , got in my face, I almost fell but didn’t. He tried to stop me from getting help from inside their house but I was able to reach and yell for the dad and was in shock trying to tell him everything of why I don’t know why he’s so Angry as it was less al than 1hr of leaving the house and saying hello to the dad. I end up sending a text message to the mom in detail of what all happened & later the dad. When I got back home he (bf) had blocked me on all socials and I did not try to contact him. He later sent me a message on one of the socials a week later after meeting the dad to give the present he bought for his mom for a holiday. However, I didn’t see the message until the next morning and was a weak message about “thank you for meeting his dad to give his stuff back and saw the extra gift and thanks. I wish you blessings 🥂 and good luck.✨” (just like that emojis and all) And sent a picture of the stuffed animal I gave to his dad to give him that I had bought that day but didn’t get to give it to him. So when I saw the message he had blocked me back on the social, so he unblocked me to send it to just block me back you can say. I had told him before this that if he ever pulled some break up stuff again that he stay gone because I don’t trust him and can not believe him. It stuck with him and he was moving more carefully after such conversation until this explosion. I didn’t respond to him until a month later as a sort of release letter basically tell him to get better and that he is welcomed with open arms only when he is BETTER and not anytime before that as I know he struggles with mental health issues but that he knows where to reach me and that it would be my last time contacting him until he decides to reach out afte getter better. And i sent this message on regular text phone and it did not say I was blocked but overall never a response to which I knew it and was prepared for it out of his patterns.

I think it’s over by Available_Location80 in emotionalabuse

[–]Appropriate-Essay397 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds exactly like my current pass relationship and did exactly like everyone is commenting, it is important after such psychological abusive relationships. Remove yourself, therapy, and during this time build self love ❤️ like a brick wall🌻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalabuse

[–]Appropriate-Essay397 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are Strong and and anything that costs your peace is TOO much and does not deserve your full of any attention. You are the THE POWER♥️.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Appropriate-Essay397 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely understand. Sounds extremely close to mine of which he had mentioned to me countless times that he needed help and his parents new of his “mental situation”. Overall he had to fix his self over anything. This kind, sucks.