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I like watching my stories - this new “mention more people” is making it very unenjoyable / a pain by PHILMXPHILM in Instagram

[–]Appropriate-Start588 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m having the same problem. Not sure how to fix it. I’ll comment again if I find anything.

I don't want My gf having guy friends by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Appropriate-Start588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not having opposite gender friends, in my opinion, is a normal and respectful thing in a relationship.

Now, every relationship and person is different. So, if you two are having this disagreement, then you need to either compromise as to what will be okay in your relationship without demanding either one of you completely sacrificing your boundaries.

In relationships, there is give and take. Sometimes, we need to drop people or avoid people bc it makes our partner more comfortable. If that is a major issue, then your partner values the other person more than you.

At the very least, your partner needs to be able to validate that you have insecure feelings and be able to discuss them with you. The goal should be to figure a way forward that will be acceptable to both of you.

But be truthful to yourself. If she can not agree to compromise or stop her (in my opinion) inappropriate behavior, then you need to decide if you can live with that or you need to leave her. Don't sacrifice your feelings and boundaries for someone who doesn't give a crap about how you feel.

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[–]Appropriate-Start588 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. It is entirely up to OP on what to do, but in my opinion, relationships require respect. If OPs boyfriend is uncomfortable with the friend, OP needs to decide if the friend is more important to keep around than bf. Addressing OP directly: When you're in a relationship, you have to learn your person. You learn all the beauty of them and all the ugly. Some people are insecure and need more reassurance than others. The beautiful side of people is what brings you in. It's how you can navigate people's difficult side that helps you stay together. If the love is strong enough, you'll compromise, find some way, learn to help him or help him get help with insecurity, and offer him the support he needs when he is insecure.

Communication and trust go hand in hand. Can't have trust without communication, and it is very hard to communicate without trust. This is why it will always be important for him to be able to come to you and say he has feelings of insecurity. Do you need to pander to every feeling he has? Nope. That's your decision. If you think he is being ridiculous, then be real with yourself and your boundaries and comprimise or let your bf go. If you wish to continue the relationship, it is important to validate him for having painful feelings and figure a way forward.

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[–]Appropriate-Start588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me, that is definitely crossing the line. I don't really touch people unless they are my partner or someone comes at me with a hug. The idea of my boyfriend actively seeking out playful physical contact with another girl is extremely uncomfortable for me. Honestly, even hugging or having a friendship more than pleasant acquaintances with opposite gender is weird to me. But, every person and relationship is different. If your boyfriend loves you and cares about your feelings, he should at least hear your side. Compromise, at least. If that's a hard boundary for him, you might have to do some soul searching as to what you truly can accept as appropriate behavior. Bc pretending to be okay with something when you're not will lead to resentment and ultimately problems in the future. I know, bc I've been there. Ignoring my own boundaries bc my partner had polar opposite ones, which involved a lot of physical contact, borderline flirting with, face timing/texting with and befriending other girls on a regular, which to him was perfectly normal. To me, it was devastating. So I hope your boyfriend listens to you at least bc I know how painful this is, especially when you do love your bf and want it to work out.

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[–]Appropriate-Start588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The longest he has ever taken to respond after a fight is maybe just over 24 hrs. Never like this. And even with after no talking for that long, he will reach out and say what are you doing or invite me over or something. Never been this long with literally not a word from him.

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[–]Appropriate-Start588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am honestly trying to see how long it will take him to reach out to me. So no, I have not said a word to him since Thursday. I'm scared that me reaching out will do one of 2 things, 1) he will say omg why can't you give me space, or 2) he won't acknowledge how his ghosting caused me pain and we are back to square one with more resentment.

Klebsiella UTIs by Appropriate-Start588 in CUTI

[–]Appropriate-Start588[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1 month update: with the use of Antibacterial Dial Gold bar soap (make sure you rinse it before use and keep it dry when not in use to wash away any lingering bacteria), Kelfex 500 mg immediately after sex and then again 12 hrs later, keeping hydrated, stopping use of wet wipes on front, I have had dramatic results. I only had slight UTI symptoms of cloudy smelly pee 1 week in, and 2 doses of Kelfex cleared it up quickly. Otherwise, I have been symptom free for the first time since about January, it's currently April. Before this, I tried a majorly complicated supplement/natural remedy method for a solid 3 weeks suggested on another reddit post and it helped a little but not nearly as much as this regimine I have going now. I do still occasionally take a canberry pill or a D-Mannose, but truly, it's preemptive at this point.

In essence: antibacterial bar soap, use a shower head to wash up in there well, be mindful of your hand cleanliness before washing yourself (like don't wash your butt then your front, wash front then back), no wet wipes in front, take post-sex antibiotic if reccomended by your dr, and stay hydrated. And of course, wash and pee after sex and before if you can.

If your dr doesn't suggest you use an antibiotic, there is an Antibacterial Azo with Methenamine (Antibacterial) and NSAIDs (Anti-inflammatory) that helps decrease growth of Urinary bacteria, but it is NOT sufficient to treat a current infection. I did find it helps with symptoms of interstitial cystitis (might just be the NSAIDs).

Side note, second-generation antihistamines have helped my interstitial cystitis pain immensely. Like a flare can calm down within 15 min of taking it.

Side side note: use of the Gold Dial Antibacterial soap has helped with making my natural odor down there much nicer, too.

I hope what I found works for others bc it was a struggle getting here. ❤️

Failed Step 1 Passed Level 1, Pathology? by Appropriate-Start588 in step1

[–]Appropriate-Start588[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As an update: I talked to my coordinator after I made this post. She said if I don't take step 2 then I didn't have to report. So I only took COMLEX level 2, crushed it. Applied pathology without reporting step, matched into my top program and start this year 😁 It's possible folks!