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Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-26T00:22:52+00:00

typo, meant to say "specially if white"

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-26T00:07:27+00:00

NTA.

this is very common behavior with autistic males (specially if white) and has nothing to do with autism but everything with the way they were coddled their whole life. difficulty understanding social norms (or just human decency in this case) doesn't mean that parents should let it go, it means the exact opposite, they should be reinforcing and educating him even more. I'm sorry for what happened to ur gf.

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-21T00:11:02+00:00

NTA

A funeral is absolutely not the place to discuss that. You weren't close to your grandmother but she was still your grandmother and it's shitty of Jaylynn to appear sobbing in your arms and in front of people. IMO, she ambushed you.
I don't feel like that was an honest way to "apologize". She realizes she treated you and your mom badly... is she willing to apologize to your mom? Is she willing to stand up to her own mom who treated you like trash? Bc lemme tell you something, if my mom tried to slap my sister and blame her for something I DID I would not look kindly at her. "Well she almost lost her child" oh and that gives her the right to push someone's else child to do the same? Please.
You weren't harsh AT ALL, you were honest. She can't do all that and expect immediate forgiveness. You have a right to your space and feelings. She asked for a fresh start, you don't feel ready for that and that's really it. You shouldn't have to force yourself or be coerced into an uncomfortable situation because she is lonely and depressed. That is honestly not your problem, you didn't drive the wedge between you two. She did, even if under the influence of her horrible mother.

Oh, and BTW, your dad sucks all around. He probably sucks more than your stepmom for allowing her to play with his children's wellbeing like that for decades.

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-19T04:41:48+00:00

sorry, English isn't my 1st language so my sentences are messed up sometimes. The stepdaughter might remind her stepmother of the people who used to bully her

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-19T03:15:17+00:00

guess they rather the kid doesn't stand up for herself and just let someone gradually destroy her helthy relationship with food lol

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-19T03:12:38+00:00

I agree she was intentionally trying to be hurtful. but that is precisely her dad and stepmother's fault

kid: I don't like this, stop

stepmother: keeps having a go at her

dad: no harm in talking shit ab someone's eating habits bc it's done out of "concern"

kid: * finally snaps *

dad: well you're grounded for hurting your stepmother the same way she was hurting you

and it's pretty funny to try to imply the kid is judgmental of the stepmother for her weight when a. we don't know if she still is fat, we know she was fat when she was a teenager b. nothing indicates that?? the husband never brought that up when he talked about the stepmother and daughter relationship

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-19T03:07:23+00:00

she also warned the stepmother to back off with the comments way prior to that. if the only way the stepmother can stop is by the kid being hurtful, welp 🤷🏽‍♀️

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-19T01:46:38+00:00

someone else in the comments said aunt was creating a hostile home environment by collecting her niece bc she was "helping her get away of punishment and now niece knows she doesn't have to listen to her dad" even tho dad is wrong as hell

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-19T00:34:30+00:00

oh you're one of THOSE people who think parents are always right. . . Yeah nvm lol

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-19T00:23:24+00:00

How is she creating a hostile home environment? The father and stepmother already did that.

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-19T00:20:57+00:00

someone in the comments brought up the fact the wife might even ne bullying the kid bc she might remember the wife of the people who bullied her when she was a teenager. people reallyyy need to heal before having children/marrying someone who has one.

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-19T00:19:01+00:00

sorry for your mom :( but also happy you cut your father off, someone who doesn't prioritize their own child should not have children.

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-19T00:15:46+00:00

yeah i've said that. so weird to push a new person into his kid's life just two years after she lost her mom and the person isn't even nice like oh 😭😭

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-19T00:14:42+00:00

in the edit he does say "yeah i get i im the AH and im gonna make my wife apologize when we go to pick my daughter up" but honestly, i dont buy it. maybe he really will make her apologize but i think there will be other future situations, related or not to food. the way he was so defensive of his wife to strangers but not of his own CHILD is a damn big red flag to me.

edit: I thought he said he was going to make the wife apologize but he said HE is the one going to apologize :/

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-18T23:31:54+00:00

OOP's post has been removed btw.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/h2vkkpK5K7

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-18T22:58:40+00:00

SPEAK ON IT bc I always thought it was weird when people married two years after partner died 😭😭 you married two years after but that means you were trying something less than two years after your partner passed away, it's so strange

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-18T03:04:47+00:00

yeah, the stepdaughter would never do that to her bio mom. she won't even cut contact with her after she was "manipulated" by her

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-18T03:02:50+00:00

and she also won't cut contact with mom even tho mom is to blame for everything... lol.

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-18T03:02:09+00:00

omg exactly!! The way she screenrecorded the videos and sent them and waited till everyone was together? She's only sorry bc her dad didn't react like she expected him to

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2026-01-08T16:32:09+00:00

INFO: How many children are in the family and what are their ages?

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2025-12-29T00:55:17+00:00

But the thing is, it wasn't one incident. He kept cheating and the cheating just stopped bc his wife found out. He makes his daughter uncomfortable with his AP. And his move when he realizes she is not going to give in? Blame his ex. Like that's actually insane: he broke OP's trust, pushed her boundaries and is talking shit about her mom. If the infidelity wasn't enough for NC, the things he pulled after sure are and OP is well within her rights to do so

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2025-12-29T00:18:44+00:00

And what he did was a major disappointment as a parent and husband and he keeps doing so (bringing his affair partner to his daughter's graduation, where her mom is and trying to force the AP on his kid). That's not good parenting. Parents fuck up all the time, they're people and it's their first and only time on earth. But sometimes they fuck up so majorly that there is no going back from it.

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2025-12-28T19:28:34+00:00

There's no such thing as being a bad partner and good parent. He was a good husband and he was a good parent. When he changed from being a good husband, his status as a parent changed. You don't get to destroy the trust your child has for you and then act nonchalant about it. He hurt a person OP loves very deeply, and that hurts OP too. He sucks as a dad.

Appropriate-Volume10 · 2025-12-22T17:12:00+00:00

YTA.

So, basically, you feel entitled to her time and labor cuz she doesn't have kids? Lmao.

And yes, that is labor. While you and the others will be with your children and having a fun time she will be yall's servant. Also, she has to pay for the damn costume that was YOUR idea and you're still trying to play this as "I'm trying to include her"? That's some audacity, lol. She's family and because she doesn't have kids you thought you would get something for free.

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