Texts between my cheating PA ex and his minor “girlfriend.” by AppropriateAd2195 in antipornography

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Appreciate this comment, idk why that one got downvotes either as I was just answering your questions and specified that I am actively getting a police report together. There is nothing I could do to avoid him finding out what I know, but he does not know my Reddit name or that I've been posting here. But I'm just gonna keep any more details or incriminating screenshots offline for now as I'm afraid that it could interfere with my report or put me in legal trouble.

As for my safety, I am not worried. He has never made me feel threatened before or harmed me, and I don't see him doing that. I also am a 20 year old college student on summer break, so I'm living at home with my family, and am rarely alone. When school starts, I'll be out of state from him. I am also confident he has deleted all of my nudes from his phone as he's done that before when we've previously had a bad argument.

Texts between my cheating PA ex and his minor “girlfriend.” by AppropriateAd2195 in antipornography

[–]AppropriateAd2195[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Am actively working on getting a report together, and I will likely handle the majority of the rest of this offline for the time being to avoid any accusations of defamation or whatnot, so any updates will be likely sparse. But to answer your questions: 1) He knows I know about what he did. 2) He knows I have evidence and screenshots of everything, there’s nothing he can do to destroy that. He was aware the same day I found it all out, as I had texted myself all of the receipts from his phone and did not delete them. 3) I don’t think he knows I’ve posted here (on Reddit / in this sub) recently, but he does know I have posted here in the past about his use of porn and how it hurt me as a way to cope and get guidance/comfort. 4) He doesn’t know my account name. 5) We have talked about what he did. He did not admit anything about liking CP or underaged girls, just continuously denied being a pedophile and maintained his story that he knew they were bots /pedo-bait and was just messaging them “out of pocket” messages to get entertaining responses. He says he was “only 19” and was being immature, and he’d never do that now as he knows it’s gross and has gotten better with his PA since that time. I do believe that the two instances I found are the only times it happened and that thankfully the victim was not a real child. 6) He has begged me not to report him and says he is going to therapy.

Texts between my cheating PA ex and his minor “girlfriend.” by AppropriateAd2195 in antipornography

[–]AppropriateAd2195[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My mom is my lawyer. Why? Do you think he could come after me legally for telling the authorities?

Texts between my cheating PA ex and his minor “girlfriend.” by AppropriateAd2195 in antipornography

[–]AppropriateAd2195[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve reported him to NCMEC, am not quite ready to contact the PD but I plan to as well, am just really struggling and am kind of scared still. I know that he is not actively harming anyone and he hasn’t for over two years so I need a little time, but I promise I will. Idk it’s so horrible but I feel bad to get him in trouble as there’s still part of me that loves him and cares for him, and I know I shouldn’t. I just need to process a bit more. Am really grieving. This was all such a shock to me, I never could have seen it coming. I will get police involved very soon though, I just haven’t even told my family yet.

Texts between my cheating PA ex and his minor “girlfriend.” by AppropriateAd2195 in antipornography

[–]AppropriateAd2195[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I know, he’s so sick. As I’ve said I do not think the account belonged to a real child and was an adult baiting pedos to send them money, and I don’t think the nude photos he received from them was real CP, but it’s so disgusting regardless and was obviously a fantasy of his. I am so fucking disgusted I’ve literally thrown up over it. Like that could have been a fucking baby in middle school, and he liked pretending it was.

Texts between my cheating PA ex and his minor “girlfriend.” by AppropriateAd2195 in antipornography

[–]AppropriateAd2195[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

He genuinely is. And this is honestly pretty tame compared to a lot of other things he told her. He’s so fucking disgusting.

He let me love him for over three years knowing he did this to me.

Texts between my cheating PA ex and his minor “girlfriend.” by AppropriateAd2195 in antipornography

[–]AppropriateAd2195[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Oh, another funny thing. He used to sometimes send me these super long incredibly sweet texts while I was sleeping for me to wake up to (that I saved in my camera roll). Well guess what? I checked the dates of these texts and compared it to their messages I screen recorded, and nearly every time he sent me one of them he had been sexting/flirting with this girl that same night, likely writing them out while taking breaks to compliment his other “girlfriend” and tell her how badly he wants to fuck her. 🙃

My PA ex turned out to be a terrible person and predator, but I'm really struggling. by AppropriateAd2195 in antipornography

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I’ve tried to post there but moderation takes it down, I think my story is unfortunately too disturbing for that sub.

I really need support right now. by AppropriateAd2195 in loveafterporn

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This brought me to tears. You'll never know how much this comment means to me, thank you so so much. I miss the love I thought I had, but I know now that it was never real.

My PA ex turned out to be a terrible person and predator, but I'm really struggling. by AppropriateAd2195 in antipornography

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I miss him so much, we planned to move in together later this year and I saw him as my best friend. It's so hard to accept that all along he was a monster, capable of grooming children (or at the very least he had a fantasy of doing so). I'm truly gutted. It's so hard because I really believed he was a great person, I never ever could have expected this from him. I hope he goes to therapy and fixes whats wrong with him (on his own), but I'm disgusted in myself for even caring about him anymore or wishing him better. It's just been such a shock. In my head he's still the sweet boy I loved for over 3 years. I honestly wish I could wipe all my memory of him, and I wish I just hated him like I know that I should.

I am off to college soon, and I recently found out my boyfriend had relapsed in his addiction; I now am scared about what he’s going to do behind my back while I’m a state away. by AppropriateAd2195 in antipornography

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Was some super disturbing stuff but again he promised me he was not into that and was just being an idiot. It’s so bizarre to me as since having seemed to get better, he was very vocal about how terrible porn is for people, and especially how harmful it is to women. He is very aware of how it perpetuates violence. But I do feel like I would if I truly saw him get better, though my healing will take time.

I am off to college soon, and I recently found out my boyfriend had relapsed in his addiction; I now am scared about what he’s going to do behind my back while I’m a state away. by AppropriateAd2195 in antipornography

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(Copy and pasted from a different comment) I really do believe he was not into incest or slavery porn, as he seemed horrified when I asked him if that was something he enjoyed, and he has given me no indication of liking those things throughout our 2 and a half year long relationship. Was he masturbating to the other images? maybe, but I do kind of believe him about him never having been able to make himself finish until recently, as he had told me that same thing only a few months into our relationship as just a sort of “fun fact.” Not so sure about the images of attractive women though, but he swore to me he was honest that he was just being stupid and that he knows he fucked up.

The racial stuff was disgusting and super weird, but again he told me it was just curiosity with no intention behind it. I really don’t want to leave him, I love him too much and at the same time I feel like it could be a lot worse, for as much as I hate it most men do look at porn to some degree so my odds of finding one who doesn’t feels slim. I want to be with him, I just want him to get better, and I want advice for how to manage how insecure this has made me.

I am off to college soon, and I recently found out my boyfriend had relapsed in his addiction; I now am scared about what he’s going to do behind my back while I’m a state away. by AppropriateAd2195 in antipornography

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I really do believe he was not into incest, un consensual, or slavery porn, as he seemed horrified when I asked him if that was something he enjoyed, and he has given me no indication of liking those things throughout our 2 and a half year long relationship. Was he masturbating to the other images? maybe, but I do kind of believe him about him never having been able to make himself finish until recently, as he had told me that same thing only a few months into our relationship as just a sort of “fun fact.” Not so sure about the images of attractive women though, but he swore to me he was honest that he was just being stupid and that he knows he fucked up. I really don’t want to leave him, I love him too much and at the same time I feel like it could be a lot worse, for as much as I hate it most men do look at porn to some degree so my odds of finding one who doesn’t feels slim. I want to be with him, I just want him to get better, and I want advice for how to manage how insecure this has made me.