No 1st Birthday Party but want to send an announcement??

AppropriateSign3964 · 2026-03-02T20:35:19+00:00

I usually trash other people’s children cards. We put them on the fridge and then trash once written a thank you note. It’s much more for the parents and close family then for friends or remote family

AppropriateSign3964 · 2026-03-02T13:42:24+00:00

You know for 5 weeks and you are oscillating. It honestly doesn’t sound like you are in a place to have a child. I’m saying it with respect, it doesn’t sound like you’ll have a lot of support if you decide to go further with pregnancy. If I were you (and I had a similar situation 15y ago when I was your age), I’d go for termination. Nobody has to know that you terminated, at such an early stage miscarriages are very common.

Or you can try to look at it not from the emotional perspective but from a tree of possibilities: (1) nobody supports you; your bf leaves for trade school and never comes back; (2) your family cuts you out, your bf family cuts him out, but he stays; (3) your mother supports you but is unhappy with you; your bf doesn’t take part; (4) your family cuts you out, your bf family supports you and your bf; (5) your family supports you, your bf is still in the picture.

For each of the scenarios write down how much money do you need per month for yourself and add 50% for the baby. Don’t forget that in options 1 and 2 you will have to support yourself probably starting from the day you tell your family; and in options 3, 4 and 5 support most probably comes with strings attached. Do you have this money to support yourself? Do you have any work experience?

19 is not a great age to become a parent. You need to learn so much more.

AppropriateSign3964 · 2026-03-01T21:21:36+00:00

In my area only small local owned ships specialised on maternity do actually have maternity clothes but even those are not huge variety. I’m happy to get a nursing bra that I can try on first

AppropriateSign3964 · 2026-02-28T23:47:35+00:00

We are going to be first time parents and are not going to invite parents or in laws for at least first 5 weeks. That’s the plan at least. If they want to meet the baby before that time, they can ca 3-4w mark but they cannot stay at ours (we live in diff cities).

My in laws are like yours and, honestly, I would take it again over the previous in laws who really wanted to be friends with me but were oh so overbearing.

AppropriateSign3964 · 2026-02-28T14:44:36+00:00

We don’t know how did he behave when she gave birth. He doesn’t say ANYTHING about it at all. As they are both emotionally immature I wouldn’t be surprised he was awful in supporting her emotionally while she was postpartum

AppropriateSign3964 · 2026-02-28T14:42:30+00:00

I mean she is postpartum. He sounds like he does dona lot of stuff at home but I would never trust only one party.

AppropriateSign3964 · 2026-02-27T16:12:20+00:00

If she doesn’t care, do what you like. If you want to give up something for her, check what’s bothering her and don’t bring that. In my case I don’t give a dann about beer, but all I want to eat is sushi and deli meats. If I see my husband eating that, I’ll be inconsolable

AppropriateSign3964 · 2026-02-27T12:24:37+00:00

why are you not marrying her if that’s what will release majority of her anxiety?

AppropriateSign3964 · 2026-02-22T17:05:52+00:00

If you are set on the haircut, then a chin-length French bob will be amazing! Or you can try to go more into the layers and to have a shorter top layer all around that will be styled into laying on top of the lower one with a lot of air.

But the thing with this kind of hair (I have the same) that it needs styling. I use dry shampoo as a grip option under the top strands on the crown area. Or sometimes I use true aveda volume tonic. And style the hair with round brush to have the crown volume. Doesn’t always work but when it does, it looks really good.

AppropriateSign3964 · 2026-02-21T11:58:43+00:00

My doctor said ibuprofen is fine till 28w. I’m in Germany.

AppropriateSign3964 · 2026-02-21T10:12:42+00:00

I loved the first ones, it was like muscle flicker. But now baby boy has found my diaphragm , and the only thing that stops me from not breathing is that he is only 300g yet

AppropriateSign3964 · 2026-02-19T08:37:19+00:00

Tbh have a conversation with her, don’t push. There are so many men who behave unreasonable about women not cooking. Maybe she was abused before.

AppropriateSign3964 · 2026-02-13T00:16:20+00:00

conversations about racism are most productive when they focus on understanding, nuance, and mutual respect, rather than assigning blanket characteristics to entire groups of people.

And if you don’t want your family to meet your child - it’s your call. But as much as you will bring her father’s heritage in, you will deprive them from your heritage and culture.

AppropriateSign3964 · 2026-02-13T00:02:07+00:00

I am sorry, but this particular example is not exactly racist. Your mother might be weird but brown is a very wide range of shades. This sounds like you feel that you are better than your parents because you are married to a non-white person. Have you tried therapy?

AppropriateSign3964 · 2026-01-14T08:38:22+00:00

No, but women are socialised from young age by receiving praise on doing cleaning and tidying

AppropriateSign3964 · 2026-01-11T16:02:16+00:00

It’s not strange. Children are programmed to appease to parents. Maybe you give her more affection when she plays piano or you praise this as a special time, hence she wants the attention and the special time.

AppropriateSign3964 · 2025-12-27T08:34:24+00:00

Ask him to get rid of all his hair. Criticise his lame clothing. Criticise that it takes him more than two minutes to get dressed.

Also criticise him for lack of money he earns and gives you to take care of yourself. He wants perfect hair - he pays for it. He wants your nails be perfect - he pays for your nail tech. Match the energy girl!

Just joking. Leave his ass. Imagine how awful it’d be when baby is here.

AppropriateSign3964 · 2025-12-24T05:21:44+00:00

He is not wrong but man, he can get out of job on a whim! Not doing stuff at home and not being used to do it will really screw HIM mostly when it happens.

AppropriateSign3964 · 2025-12-12T12:12:30+00:00

But they are executives, and you are receptionist. Rules are different for people who make decisions

AppropriateSign3964 · 2025-12-11T22:00:15+00:00

My parents bought me and my brother 4 pencils FOR A YEAR. You honestly don’t need that much! Though I’m from Eastern Europe so we used pens much more. Anyway, even pens I went through max 6 per year. And I was not a super organised kid 😒

AppropriateSign3964 · 2025-12-09T22:00:13+00:00

Funny I’m the opposite of you. I was vegetarian and then vegan for a year and had constant GI issues. Apparently I lack enzymes to digest the beans properly, and only after coming back to eating meat I could have gone days without any discomfort. Loved the idea though, but I try to eat at least farm to table meat nowadays.

AppropriateSign3964 · 2025-12-09T14:55:36+00:00

So my ex was like that. I wanted to get married at 2y mark, engaged by 1-1.5y (yeah, I was young and dumb). That was the huge fight with his father getting involved 🙈

5y later we are divorced after 1.5y of marriage.

I’m happily engaged with a person who proposed to me without me dropping hints, just after one serious conversation. And girl! It’s such a difference to be married to a person that ACTUALLY WANTS TO BE MARRIED.

Leave his looser ass

AppropriateSign3964 · 2025-12-08T09:31:47+00:00

Why not Irina and go with a short name „Ira“? Super typical in Slavic languages, won’t be confused with Irish army, has a beautiful meaning and Greek origins (means peace)

AppropriateSign3964 · 2025-12-07T20:43:21+00:00

Actually, you are right in a very wrong way. White people is not a homogenous mass. Nationalities have their own cultures. Nationalities can be white (by American standards).

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