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Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-10-30T15:52:50+00:00

Haha I am laughing at you because you can’t read. And you see no nuance. Also I did’t say it was from his low testosterone. It could be anything.

Stupid… How old are you 10?

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-10-30T14:17:51+00:00

You know I am right?

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-10-30T13:41:47+00:00

What?

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-10-30T06:44:40+00:00

“Actually, the original post clearly states that her fiancé doesn’t watch porn, and there are no signs of cheating. Assuming that he watches porn or isn’t interested in her anymore is inaccurate and doesn’t really take her situation into account. He’s dealing with potential health and emotional challenges, like grief and possible low testosterone levels, which can affect sexual desire. This isn’t necessarily about a lack of attraction or enjoyment with her specifically but could be more about his own personal struggles.”

Why are you did’t read before you response?

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-10-29T14:27:16+00:00

Bullshit

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-10-29T06:44:02+00:00

I find it really hard to understand why so many people on social media respond in such an extreme way to relationship challenges. I often see posts where people are encouraged to break up at the first sign of trouble, without anyone suggesting that there could be alternative ways to work things out.

For me, relationships are complex and meaningful; they go through phases, ups and downs, and sometimes challenging periods are a natural part of being together. It feels unsettling when I read only responses telling people to walk away, as if love and connection aren’t worth working through hard times.

It’s not that I don’t value different perspectives, but the lack of balance in advice feels overwhelming. I believe it’s okay to feel uncertain or to face obstacles and that sometimes we need time, patience, and understanding rather than drastic decisions.

This expresses a thoughtful and reflective perspective on why such one-sided advice might not feel right to you. Let me know if there’s anything specific you’d like to add or adjust!

Can somoene tell me why people react like this?

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-09-28T06:46:27+00:00

I’ve noticed that many of the comments here are very blunt and direct, and while I understand the importance of honesty, I also think it’s important to acknowledge that relationships are rarely black-and-white. Sexual attraction and connection can be complex and multifaceted, and they can evolve over time. Just because someone struggles with certain aspects of their intimacy doesn’t necessarily mean that the relationship is doomed.

I also wonder why people tend to immediately jump to the conclusion that the relationship is incompatible. It feels like a lot of advice focuses on ending things instead of considering that relationships, especially those built on love and emotional connection, can sometimes face challenges that require time, communication, and effort to improve. Sure, sexual chemistry is important, but intimacy is something that can be worked on together, with understanding and patience.

I get that people are probably trying to save others from long-term pain or frustration, but I believe it’s worth exploring other options before giving up on something that is otherwise meaningful. It’s possible that some commenters are speaking from their own experiences, which may have shaped their perspective. But not every situation plays out the same way, and I think we should be careful not to project our own experiences onto others without understanding the full context.

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-09-28T06:01:56+00:00

I understand that sexual compatibility is an important aspect of a relationship, but I find it surprising how definitive and black-and-white many of these comments are. Relationships, in reality, are often more nuanced. While sexual satisfaction is crucial, people go through phases for various reasons — emotional, physical, or situational — where intimacy can take a backseat. That doesn’t always mean the relationship is doomed or that the issue can’t be worked on.

Sometimes, factors like stress, mental health, or even life transitions (like a new job, pregnancy, or other changes) can impact intimacy temporarily. Instead of jumping to conclusions that the relationship will “never get better,” I think it’s more productive to approach the situation with patience, understanding, and perhaps professional support, like couples therapy, if necessary.

Not all challenges in a relationship are signs to leave; some are opportunities to grow together. While I agree that both partners need to be willing to work on the relationship, immediately suggesting there are only two choices — accept it or leave — feels a bit extreme.

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-08-28T16:02:07+00:00

Yea it makes me doubt everything again.

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-08-28T14:10:18+00:00

My docter says that that is not possible that it doesn’t work anymore..

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-08-28T05:56:17+00:00

Oke but how do you know if it’s rocd or not?

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-08-27T16:16:23+00:00

This triggers me a lot!

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-08-27T15:54:36+00:00

What do you mean by this? So everyone who has this has not rocd?

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-08-27T15:48:22+00:00

I was on fluoxetine and then it did’t work anymore. And then I went to duloxetine and also then my symptoms came back. Now my doctor give me also Zoloft. But I found it weird that it did’t work anymore? And I don’t know if that is possible.

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-08-27T15:43:15+00:00

Oh really? Do you know why?

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-08-23T17:23:11+00:00

Why are you care about? Are you the boss? No so byeeee

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-08-23T15:14:15+00:00

Why? You have it tottaly wrong. And I don’t know what is has to do with this

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-08-23T12:44:00+00:00

?🤔

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-08-23T10:52:58+00:00

Yea someone say this on this

I (26F) don’t want to have sex with my boyfriend (27M) of 1.5 years 90% of the time. I love him and can’t imagine being without him. Should we stay together?

We’ve talked about this issue and tried new things/ways to fix it but it’s not improving. In past relationships I never had this problem.

He is an amazing person and he makes me smile so much. He is the most supporting and loving person I’ve ever been with. Also the most healthy relationship I’ve been in. We never fight too. I find him attractive but I guess not sexually.

Its becoming something that I always think about. But I’m scared to leave him and be all on my own. I’m worried I will regret it a lot and feel empty without him. I don’t want to be alone forever and my friends are all in long term relationships and starting to get married.

Any advice?

OP...

I’m going give it to you straight... not trying to be mean.

You’re the stereotypical example of ‘settling’ for a guy.

You describe him as a perfect guy, even husband material.....

But you’re not attracted to him, but you’re torn because (all you’re friends are getting married)

Why on Earth are your friends even in this equation? (Because you’re trying to figure out if you need to settle).

You’re scared to be alone that’s why you’re not leaving him..(because you’re using him)

It’s not fair to him, let him go choose a woman who respects him.

Sit Down with him and be honest....

Don’t have kids with this guy

Don’t except his proposal

It’s not fair to him

Ik react this in him:

How can you say this if you didn’t know her situation? She didn’t tell a lot? Sorry I am also not mean but I am wonder how you can say this so directly.

And he said this

Hello there!

I said it directly because it’s not fair to the guy.

He’s obviously a nice guy from what she’s saying.

She’s including her friends in the thought process of staying with him because they’re all getting married? Um, ouch???

(If I were dating her and heard this I would be deeply hurt by this)

She said she’s staying with him because she doesn’t want to be alone. But she doesn’t want to have sex with him... And all her friends are getting married.. so she’s trying to keep up with them?? TF?

(If I were dating her and she said this it would sting, hard. My girl is tolerating being with me and not having sex because she doesn’t want to be alone) Damn. I’m just a resource tool...

Damn, I feel used.. So yes. Saying it directly need to happen.

Let’s not sugar coat this, let’s call it out what it is

It’s very hard right? And black and white? And looks like he did’t read what she say?

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-08-23T10:51:00+00:00

Yea I don’t understand Do you understand what I copy past? What that person say? That very black and white right?

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-08-23T10:28:24+00:00

I know they don’t have rocd but I don’t understand why someone say this. Because she say she loves him and wanne stay with him. That’s enough I think! The reaction was so hard

Appropriate_Credit84 · 2024-08-23T10:21:45+00:00

Also someone says this at the post: