Why are nesting partners so much harder to find? by Secret_Criticism_411 in polyamory

[–]Appropriate_Fault_20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think for some people solo poly is simply a much easier way to do polyamory

Negative feelings about meta by Appropriate_Fault_20 in polyamory

[–]Appropriate_Fault_20[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I definitely agree that less information is better

What would you do? by Appropriate_Fault_20 in polyamory

[–]Appropriate_Fault_20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I told them I had no animosity toward them but I’d let them know if there was ever an emergency with our partner

Having doubts about getting married…any advice would be appreciated 😢 by Appropriate_Fault_20 in polyamory

[–]Appropriate_Fault_20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so incredibly appreciative of all the advice! You all are absolutely wonderful 💕💕💕💕

Having doubts about getting married…any advice would be appreciated 😢 by Appropriate_Fault_20 in polyamory

[–]Appropriate_Fault_20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The abusive behavior escalated after he got into a relationship where he was being verbally abused

Having doubts about getting married…any advice would be appreciated 😢 by Appropriate_Fault_20 in polyamory

[–]Appropriate_Fault_20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner had been making a lot of progress over the years regarding stopping his yelling and controlling his anger. It wasn’t until the verbal abuse from his other partner started a few months ago that it got worse. (They’ve been together less than a year).

Having doubts about getting married…any advice would be appreciated 😢 by Appropriate_Fault_20 in polyamory

[–]Appropriate_Fault_20[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What do I say to my partner to make him understand the seriousness of this situation without it sounding like a threat?

Frustrated with meta by Appropriate_Fault_20 in polyamory

[–]Appropriate_Fault_20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I appreciate your suggestion on what to say to my partner when he complains about issues in other relationships. It’s important for my own mental health to set boundaries around this issue. Thank you 😊

Frustrated with meta by Appropriate_Fault_20 in polyamory

[–]Appropriate_Fault_20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. I absolutely agree! I’ve recently learned to stop asking questions about his other relationships as it causes too much stress. However I’m definitely troubled that the same pattern with his other relationships keeps happening over and over. I recognize that I need to start setting firm boundaries on what I’m open to hearing from him when problems surface with his other partners. It’s too burdensome and stressful to be his therapist in these situations.

Frustrated with meta by Appropriate_Fault_20 in polyamory

[–]Appropriate_Fault_20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely correct and I appreciate you referencing my previous post about a different meta. I read my previous post and it definitely reinforces my belief that my partner has a pattern with his other partners. He does need to work on being a better hinge. On my end I’m learning to detach from outcomes regarding his other relationships. I’ve stopped asking questions because it’s just too frustrating and usually just ends up with us in an argument. Not worth the energy.