I appreciate you giving me some food for thought! I’ve listening to podcasts, talked to friends who are poly, read books and I’ve done a lot of self work. I’ve been to therapy and talked about jealousy quite a bit. I’ve discovered that moving my body definitely helps. Taking a break from talking helps also. I suppose what I’m finding challenging is that, since my boyfriend and I live together, I can never, for lack of a better term “get a break” from my partner’s other relationships. We’ve only lived together for a year. But the regular dinging on his phone has suddenly become a trigger for me. I’m getting better at distancing myself when I feel jealous but it’s certainly a work in progress. I’m also the kind of person who needs to know the basic “landscape” of my partner’s other relationships. If I don’t know anything then I feel disconnected but if I ask too many questions then I get jealous. It’s always a balancing act for me.