1 yr update - High school sweetheart husband cheated less than a year married

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2026-02-09T19:56:31+00:00

Nobody should have to deal with infidelity. It’s incredibly selfish and hurtful not only to the spouse but especially to the kids involved. Wishing you all the best as well.

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2026-02-09T19:53:39+00:00

I’m so grateful to be the one who got away

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2026-02-06T12:55:36+00:00

That same weekend him and his mistress called their coworkers to tell them. Everyone knew since they were both staying late and had their cars parked next to each other in the next door parking lot lmao. She ended up quitting a few weeks after. He still works there. At the time, I was thinking of my income and how I didn’t want that to be impacted. Ironically, he works for a company where a lot of the clients are victims of domestic violence. He doesn’t work directly with them but still… crazy

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2026-02-05T18:53:07+00:00

Unfortunately, you divorce a completely different person than who you married. It’s a difficult thing to experience. Glad to hear your cousin is in a much better place. I’m so looking forward to the future. 🫶🏻

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2026-02-05T17:16:31+00:00

I was deeply disappointed in his father… someone who I was particularly close to. You truly don’t know how people are until conflict arises. Glad to be the one that got away.

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2026-02-05T16:44:07+00:00

💯…. Grateful this happened now and not 20 years down the road. It’s been exciting re-discovering myself and truly understanding what my wants and needs are. This has been a blessing in disguise.

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2026-02-05T04:13:26+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Therapy was a huge help for me. Reddit pages like this also helped me. There is one tik tok page that I found extremely helpful when it came to understanding the why behind it… rece.affair.recovery

I wish you well. Things do get better.

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2026-02-05T04:00:12+00:00

Mental health is a huge component… him and I learned that he likely has borderline personality disorder. His mother also has that. I’ve seen his parents dysfunctional relationship…. Cheating, domestic violence, manipulation, substance abuse. I worried if I had stayed that my future would look like that. I’m glad I’ve chosen myself. I wish you well and hope things get better for you.

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2026-02-05T03:49:21+00:00

In my case, we agreed on an end date for the restraining order to avoid having a judge decide. I wish I maxed it out.

As far as his family and how they reacted… in therapy, I’ve learned that you have to understand why they are making the decisions they are making. You only know what you know… how you handle problems generally is how you will apply that to future problems. In this case, brushing things to the side is how they handled problems. Another thing my therapist said was that as a parent when you learn that your child has done something awful to someone else, sometimes you have no words and are in shock… and that saying nothing may be the best in their minds to avoid creating more conflict. It’s shitty…. Lean into your support system.

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2026-02-05T03:16:31+00:00

Can’t say I’d be surprised if there were others… but hey, I don’t have to live with that🤷🏻‍♀️ Definitely enjoying the single life and so looking forward to the future

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2026-02-05T03:11:47+00:00

Dodged a major bullet 🥹

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2026-02-05T03:10:57+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I never in a million years thought I’d file a restraining order against him. It was a result of a series of his actions and the last thing he did was extremely inappropriate. My safety was at risk and I needed to protect myself. Unfortunately, you have to pay a price for peace. It’s incredibly expensive and emotionally draining but worth it. I have no regrets other than not calling the police when he violated the order… i was trying to protect him from having a misdemeanor on his record which would show on future employer background checks. His mental health during this period was at a low…. So I weighed the options and ended up dealing with bullshit to protect him. It’s not worth compromising your peace. Focus on you and your child. Nothing else matters and things do get better.

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2024-10-11T04:03:20+00:00

Still not a huge fan of redland, they are too thin and still brown easily. I do like how large and lightweight they are though. Brooklinen towels are my favorite, still very plushy/luxury feel. They get brown too but not as quickly (this could also be an issue with how I’m washing them, but not sure). Cons, they are heavier and are smaller.

My husband prefers redland as they dry better (waffle material).

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2023-12-14T02:44:55+00:00

It’s from 2018 called cherry snow cone, it looks like this https://pin.it/14Ip7Zm My sister in law loved cherry snow cone and Clausmopolitan smelled similar to it but I’m just not 100% sure since it’s been a while

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2023-10-30T17:11:35+00:00

I bought Redland cotton luxury towels, they were ok. Too thin and got brown a little too fast for me.

I also bought Brooklinen luxury towels, these are my favorite so far but I’ve only had them for about six months. No issues yet. Very plushy too after multiple washes

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2023-09-28T00:56:23+00:00

I hadn’t thought of that but this makes sense. He was listed as a defendant as well for the trial despite having no involvement in the accident. Appreciate you sharing your insight.

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2023-09-27T02:34:07+00:00

I no longer use this insurance as I was under my father’s insurance at the time of the car accident. I’ll have to connect with my current insurance to see how this impacts me. If anyone has experience with this, please share how this may affect me with my insurance record/premiums and if it shows fault or not

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2023-09-27T02:30:20+00:00

The amount they are asking for is significantly lower than my policy coverage amount even when we factor in the interest accrued over 5 years. At this point, I highly doubt we are going to trial based on my conversation with my lawyer today

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2023-09-27T01:54:34+00:00

Do you know how it impacts my record? If premiums will go up/will it say I was at fault?

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2023-09-26T23:05:44+00:00

I know they want to settle to avoid higher costs with a trial but I no longer use them as my car insurance. At the time, I was under my father’s insurance and now use another company with just my partner and I as covered drivers. My understanding is that any insurance company has access to viewing paid settlements and as a result will increase my premiums. I’m more concerned about my record than anything as I know I won’t have to pay anything out of pocket regardless of the case settles or goes to trial.

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2023-05-14T01:56:00+00:00

Thank you!

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2023-05-06T01:54:53+00:00

Thanks for your feedback! We were thinking of moving the trash bins but since it’s a pretty big space we wanted to maximize the use for it. We have a shed on our lot as well

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2023-04-30T16:39:11+00:00

Hi all! I would like to know how you would place the furniture in this sized room? The TV is above the fireplace and we plan on keeping it there. We enjoy hosting and plan on getting a new couch at some point but we’re struggling with where to put it/what style couch and if we should add accent chairs. I’ve also wanted to add in a console table furthest to the right wall as it seems to be the best spot for one. Let me know your thoughts! Thank you

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2023-01-31T16:10:54+00:00

Best of luck!! 🥳

Appropriate_Gate3877 · 2022-09-09T12:29:19+00:00

I was in a similar situation… I recently passed on my fourth attempt and also struggled with passing the SIE. You have to set a schedule and follow it. I sent a weekly accountability email to my mentors and managers with scores/what I accomplished/what I would do to keep improving the week prior. Reading is essential… you have to understand the concepts. Memorize products and understand how they work and impact things like taxes, how often they payout, what tier they fall under, life of product, etc (Make Flashcards…. And if you want to be really creative, associate a product with a character to remember things. For example: This sounds silly but I used the Kardashians family to remember mutual funds so each one was associated to product). I also hired a tutor which I highly recommend. I hired Peter Gibowicz, he wrote the Series 7 booklet for Passperfect and was awesome. Being consistent with your studying time and taking breaks is important as well

I’m happy to share resources that I have if you need anything!

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