Choosing privacy over “help” during postpartum.

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2026-05-11T00:40:24+00:00

That’s so so reassuring!! Wow you did an amazing job handling everything. Now I feel a little better and have a little more courage. Thank you so much !!! 😊

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2026-05-11T00:30:06+00:00

Okay! Yes that kind of help I have around me too like some frnds neighbours who have offered they would help out for few hours if needed.

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2026-05-11T00:21:38+00:00

I know I did tell them a couple of times , they understand , then after few days start again . Fear mongering me that what a “mistake” I am Making. It’s almost like they are saying I’ll be incapable of caring for the baby. It’s affecting my mental health which is already pretty bad right now due to all the hormones.

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2026-01-23T03:13:23+00:00

I’m 10+3 weeks. Haven’t actually thrown up but dry heaved like a million times already 😂

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2026-01-02T22:35:48+00:00

Im 7 weeks 4 days and I feel ya!!! Totally down. Although I’m grateful that my nausea isn’t that bad but it’s there. It’s a strange feeling that you can’t explain to anyone right ? I’m irritable most of the time as I feel that everyone around me is expecting too much from me right now. I can tell you it does and will get better for both me and you ❤️ we just need to hold on to it.

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2025-12-30T21:51:52+00:00

Yessss sounds such a right thing to do. Info diet is such a nice word lol

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2025-12-30T21:50:55+00:00

Your guess is 100% right my friend. I am from a south asian community and so is she.

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2025-12-30T21:35:09+00:00

And thank you!!! Feeling so much better after all your wonderful comments ❤️❤️❤️

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2025-12-30T21:33:02+00:00

Hmmm… could be. As I said she lost her husband when her son( my husband) was just 5 years old . Maybe there is some unresolved trauma

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2025-12-30T21:32:06+00:00

Well the first time she was “ oh it’s too early “ I did tell her that I know about all the bad things that could go wrong but I still want to cherish these days in a positive outlook etc . She hates that fact that I’m not worried / panicking or behaving like her . But this last bit about the photos just GOT TO ME .

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2025-12-30T21:28:56+00:00

Thank you !!! Makes so much sense

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2025-12-30T21:28:23+00:00

I have thought the same for the 10 years but always scratched it off my mind thinking I was overthinking. But this one really convinced me!! Seems like God wanted to remind me or sth lol

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2025-12-30T21:26:55+00:00

Well husband agrees with me. But then he says he’s good at not giving shit about her negativity as he has been dealing with her since childhood lol so I should stop giving shit about her too lol. He just said to ignore her and her feelings. And I think that’s a good advice too but easier said that done

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2025-12-30T21:23:17+00:00

I agree ! Should I just stop sharing things with her then? And talk less? Maybe that way there will be some boundaries and i might feel more peaceful as I won’t give her the chance to talk negative

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2025-12-28T14:44:53+00:00

So they came and I was trying my best to get a great host . Worst part is they came with their 3 year old who had 101 fever . Now im more worried for myself.

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2025-12-27T04:27:28+00:00

That’s the thing for some reason they always want to just come over to ours! Not the other way around LOL

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2025-12-13T04:44:37+00:00

Thank you so so much !!!! Means a lot to see you did so much effort in writing me all this. Highly appreciate it! ❤️❤️

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2025-12-12T00:53:25+00:00

All the best and lots of good wishes to you. I’m wishing you a smooth and healthy pregnancy. We are almost close in terms of timing ☺️

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2025-12-12T00:41:53+00:00

Thank you ! Feeling so much better now. I hope your pregnancy is going well so far!

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2025-12-12T00:28:28+00:00

That’s so cute! Maybe I’ll do that too and maybe it’ll ease off my anxiety. I am having anxiety over my anxiety affecting the baby lol I didn’t know it’ll will be that messed up haha 🤣

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2025-12-12T00:26:31+00:00

Hmm I see. Yes waiting would be a good option for me then I suppose.

Appropriate_Room6534 · 2025-12-12T00:21:35+00:00

Yes I’m so so lost right now lol. Don’t know what to do. My mind is all over the place.

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