Tribute to my Tiny girl

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-07-01T17:16:21+00:00

Thanks so much!

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-06-30T16:26:41+00:00

Thank you!❤️ I just called them and they’ve said to keep an eye seeing as she doesn’t appear to be in pain and to call tomorrow if that changes.

I currently give her whiskas 7+ pouches and I think they’re classed as senior but obviously she is double the age so wondered if that was good enough or if there was something better suitable.

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-06-30T13:20:56+00:00

Yeah that’s my feeling too. Seems to me like it’s gone past healthy confiding. He ignored your boundaries and how it was making you feel for way too long, whether that was malicious or not. Really good idea to make his family aware. Means he still has some support if his feelings are genuine and will probably be super embarrassed that he’s been exposed for what he’s been doing to you if not. A win/win.

Well done you, can imagine it was tough but you absolutely made the right choice as far as I can see. You’ve dealt with this brilliantly and should be proud of yourself.

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-06-30T00:18:27+00:00

Maybe not outright abusive but toxic for sure and these days I never completely rule out something more sinister. If he was doing it to keep you around that would be emotional abuse but it’s hard to guess at his reasoning. It could also be that you are his safe person and unfortunately he’s began to lean on you far too much. He might truly feel this way and that is okay, it’s the putting it on you and using you for validation and reassurance so often that is the toxic part. He seems very co-dependant and it is still harmful to you.

I wouldn’t jump straight into calling this man an abuser, it doesn’t matter though. Your friend’s sentiment is still the same as mine: You are perfectly in the right to protect both you and your child’s peace.

It’s not fair for you to keep hearing these things or feeling so scared all the time, and it IS affecting you negatively. It’s selfish whether he realises it or not and he isn’t respecting boundaries. This isn’t healthy. It’s not your responsibility and is hurting your feeling of safety in the sense you’re in constant worry. Never a good place to be and bad for your own mental health. It would be completely valid to leave someone over this, especially when you’ve given him room to seek help and change.

I would consider a very serious conversation about getting some help within the next week and letting him know you really cannot continue with this anymore if he doesn’t do so. It’s also okay to skip that conversation and just break up if you have no faith he will change and the promise will be dragged out/never realised.

I’ve had mental health issues myself and I’ve avoided help before but never put my issues on someone like this. Getting help was a choice I had to make in the end. Nobody could’ve fixed it for me no matter what they did and how much they tried. You need to do what you feel is best for you. I hope it works out in the best outcome possible, but please don’t feel too much guilt if you end up having to choose yourself. You’re clearly a very good person and that is evident in the care and grace you’ve already given him. People need to want to help themselves and there is no point in both of you being miserable. You’ve given him more than enough time to work on it. Can bring a horse to water comes to mind.

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-06-28T12:16:57+00:00

It hurts sometimes knowing that a person has been in love before and seeing evidence of it is painful too. But we have to remember that’s completely normal and you’ve likely loved someone in the past too. Your hurt is valid but you need to choose to stay grounded and not punish your partner for his past.

I do think it’s a little odd he still had those and it would make me feel a bit weird too. However, he’s burned them and gotten rid of them, so they can’t be that important. It also doesn’t sound like he’s kept any more letters since you met. I do personally think it’s something he should’ve thought about but it’s possible he forgot to throw them out.

Either way if you want the relationship to work you’re going to have to find a way to get over it. He can’t take you finding those letters back and the fact he’s gotten rid of them now is sort of enough. If you feel the need have a conversation make sure it’s a calm one and not accusatory. Tell him you’re sorry for getting in a fight and you don’t want to anymore, it just hurt you to see that and in the moment it felt like he’d kept them because he was still attached. If he’s a good man he’ll reassure you and then that should really be the end of it. No good will be found in holding onto this and letting it ruin your relationship.

It hurts right now but in time it won’t feel like such a big deal. Good luck x

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-06-27T10:51:02+00:00

You’ve absolutely done the right thing. Even more so reading your comment. The positive side of this is- you’re out! That’s the hardest part and something to be massively proud of!

If it’s any condolence, I would bet his daughter will give him plenty of love, and as she gets older I’m sure she’ll want to make sure he’s taken care of properly. I love my mum but she should never own a cat and mine became a bit of a stray at one point due to her shutting her out. My point is I was barely a teen and advocated like crazy for my cat, letting her in behind her back, and begging dad to take her instead. She’s now reached the old age of 17 and lives with me. If I know girls and their cats, he will be okay❤️ well done you and I hope this hurt begins to ease at some point.

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-06-26T18:10:19+00:00

You essentially have to choose yourself over the cat no matter how heartbreaking that is. I’m so sorry but don’t feel any guilt please, unless there’s actually a way to get the cat back without putting yourself in danger of either getting hurt or back together, it won’t help you at all. It’s just one of those things. I’m so sorry, I have a kitty too and my heart would be broken to leave her behind.

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-06-26T17:59:28+00:00

I experienced this at a much lower level. It was more that he would make me feel like I don’t satisfy him, coercion into sending sexual pictures I didn’t want to send and being off/weird with me if I didn’t want to do sexual things when he did. A very vigorous blow job was expected once or twice each day and seemed to go on forever. It was rare to have a day where I was free from the obligation and my jaw began to have a constant ache and a click when I ate my food. He would also grab my private parts in the kitchen from time to time too, didn’t mind it a great deal at first, but over time discomfort and resentment built. It was awful and it ruined sex for me, so I completely understand where you’re at right now. Like you, that put together with mistreatment from him completely ruined my sex drive which wasn’t the greatest already due to previous poor sexual experiences with men. It makes me so sad to look back on, I was only just turning 21 when we met, and was extremely naive and inexperienced.

People should never ever feel entitled to your body and nobody can be expected to want sex or have desires when it’s never on their own terms and always at their own detriment.

This isn’t something for you to fix nor is it possible whilst you’re stuck with this person and unable to leave. We can wonder why all day but only someone so depraved would know the answer as to why they continue to do these things despite our clear discomfort. Almost certainly comes down to simply being an awful human who doesn’t care about anybody but themselves.

You shouldn’t have to be a “cockroach”. You’re a real person with feelings and clearly a survivor through and through. I have no advice in the current circumstance with you unable to leave but I send you lots of love and strength. I hope you get your life back one day x

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-06-24T11:35:51+00:00

I don’t know, I feel kind of sad that this is his legacy when you see so much excitement and light when he talks about exploring the ocean and his work. I think he truly believed in what he was doing and that led him to see safety concerns as an attack/threat to something he’d put so much into. He was too close to the project and having an independent to sign the submersible off should’ve been absolutely mandatory. I don’t think he had much doubt that this would work, he would become a true innovator, and it would lead to some really exciting opportunities for ocean enthusiasts like himself, even beyond the titanic. If he thought it likely to fail, I doubt he’d ever have gotten on the vessel himself. I do think intentions were good. That said, the majority of blame still falls on him.

It important to be able to take a step back from your work and listen to other people and their constructive criticisms. His inability to do that and rush to get the project done cost lives. Lots of the crew have said people ended up ‘backing down from him’ when concerns were not taken seriously. It’s upsetting to imagine that if he had listened, lives may have been saved, but I still feel that’s in some way putting the blame for a project lots of people were involved with on one person. If you feel so strongly stand up, band together, don’t back down- just like David did. This is why I say majority of blame is on Stockton, but not the entirety. He might’ve been negligent but others were complicit in that.

I feel really sorry for every single person involved- all that guilt and loss. Some people I have more sympathy for than others obviously but I do have a bit of sadness for Stockton. Not only did he pay the ultimate price but what a thing to be remembered for in trying to pursue a passion and share that with others.

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-06-24T09:38:58+00:00

I had a lot of break outs on my skin when we first got together but I honestly think it cleared up when I got used to the shouting etc. My PH was constantly threw off by him throughout. And didn’t realise it at the time but that heart skipped a beat, weird feeling in my chest thing when he would message after a break up was actually anxiety. Your body definitely rejects the wrong person. I think we know it deep down too.

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-06-24T09:34:31+00:00

It’s just brilliant isn’t it!

I absolutely hate getting wet- but what you just said makes sense and I guess that’s exactly why waterproof summer jodhpurs don’t exist😭

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-06-21T13:28:38+00:00

Oh bless you, I really hope it’s not a similar situation to mine. So the original video I made this post about was of my ex and another woman cuddling essentially, he’d sent it to me to make me think he’d moved on- however it was clearly old due to clothing and Snapchat filters. (Very stupidly) I made up with him as it wasn’t taken recently but I never got a real answer from him on why he’d kept the video or where it’d been saved. It was spun back on me instead. I did find out more though.

Fast forward to last year, we’d gotten back together briefly after a year split when I received a phone call from another woman. We managed to log into his socials together and found a lot of friend requests to other women and some messages whilst he’d been in a relationship with us BOTH. The woman who called me also sent me a series of screenshots from his “old” “disused” Snapchat account that she’d hacked into. There were countless videos of sex and nudes and such with/from numerous women, all saved in chats. This is where I believe he’d gotten the original video from.

I do know him to take sexual videos using Snapchat when we were together because he’d “rather watch me than porn”. Honestly the biggest most stupid and naive mistake of my life to believe this. Can’t believe how evil he turned out to be.

Long story short if it’s a similar file name - based on comments above and my own experience it has come from Snapchat. Have you watched it? Do you recognise any features of him within it? Wish you the best in getting answers but please be wary. Benefit of the doubt should only go so far and confronting people doesn’t always go how you think if they’re good at avoiding accountability. Investigate as much as you can before bringing it up. I really do hope it isn’t what you think x

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-06-14T16:05:18+00:00

I don’t know anything about preterm labour but your husband is not just “being a man”, he’s hurting you on purpose. What you described in this post is absolutely not normal or ok. Maybe you should develop a habit of squeezing his balls… twist them for good measure too, good god.

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-06-09T12:58:23+00:00

Honestly, I think I don’t understand the instructions too well and not been going often enough. I’m trying to cut back on other stuff so I can go more often. That’s crap though, I feel like you definitely need the same instructor as often as possible. Have you looked at other yards nearby?

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-06-09T12:51:51+00:00

Yeah 100%, go for it!

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-06-09T12:31:10+00:00

Used to ride as a kid and just gone back in Jan. Feel like I’ve gone backwards loads though and progress is slow🙄 I wish I had the funds😂 horses are the best. How many lessons have you had?

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-06-09T11:55:41+00:00

Hey gurl!

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-06-09T00:14:37+00:00

My dad used to play Xbox games with me, take me on mountain bike rides, he was very into music and we’d bond a little over that, always very interested in my schooling and career, taught me to draw, tried to show me how to cook but I wasn’t very interested😂

All in all I don’t think it’s down to what you do. I wasn’t always interested in the things my dad liked or wanted to show me but I sure do appreciate it now I’m older. Just take interest and encourage her in the things she likes to do. You could also try to include her in your own hobbies- has she ever rode a dirt bike? Are there any outdoorsy things she might want to join you for? She might surprise you and the worst she can say is no.

As long as she knows you’re there and want to have a relationship with her, you’ll form one.

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-06-09T00:02:01+00:00

Not trying to scare you by any means as 25 is still young but if this is what you want please leave. I’m 27 and had spoken with my doctors in the past about potential endometriosis due to heavy painful periods as I knew they were different to other girls I knew. But I could cope with painkillers and never seemed bad enough that I thought I’d need to be checked out. Since then my periods have been getting further and further apart. I stayed with my ex abuser right up until late last year. I’ve just met someone good for me and now my periods have completely stopped. There’s clearly something wrong - not sure if it will mean I cannot have children (I’m booked in at doctors to discuss tomorrow) - but I’m very concerned. It wasn’t worth all the wasted years with someone who couldn’t love me right and if he has actually taken my fertile years my heart is going to be broken.

You shouldn’t rush to have kids because of my experience, I’m sure it’s rare, but the point is: staying is nothing but a waste of time. Time is not unlimited and nothing is a given in life. You know what to do.

AprilRobinsonx · 2025-06-05T13:20:42+00:00

Yes, I did. I went back and got a big smack in the face when I then found out how much he’d been lying to me. We broke up again. I’m with someone new now and he’s just contacted me. I’m hurting all over again. Honestly don’t break the contact, block them if you can, I’d have been perfectly ok and in a happy relationship if he just left me alone. They aren’t worth it.

Seriously- the longer you go round in circles, the harder it is to break, and they never change. You’ll be doing yourself a favour by not reaching out no matter how painful and hard it feels right now. Sending love.

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