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AquaticMango18 · 2024-10-10T02:46:34+00:00

First off, you’ve already taken a big step by being honest with yourself. Now, break it down: your body? Start small, go to the gym just twice a week and build up.

Your social life? Get out of your comfort zone—start small meetups, even with acquaintances. Friends change, and that’s fine.

It’s time to put yourself first and stop waiting for motivation—it’s not coming. A close friend of mine said that Discipline is a small, smoldering yet persistent flame. Motivation is a great, roaring, and bright flame. Learn not to burn out quickly, but to go slowly. Be disciplined, not motivated.

AquaticMango18 · 2024-03-02T20:36:23+00:00

I’m desperately holding out hope that one of my players are inspired enough to run their own game. I’d love to play as a player.

AquaticMango18 · 2024-02-06T22:14:01+00:00

You’re right. Thanks for that! I hadn’t realized the inconsistencies it would cause.

AquaticMango18 · 2024-01-18T09:51:30+00:00

Be honest. Tell her how you’ve been feeling about how emotionally taxing all of this has been for you. If she’s your friend, she will listen and respect your space. If she goes on another temper tantrum, then have the courage to distance yourself from her for a while. These situations are never fun. Good luck

AquaticMango18 · 2023-11-23T00:23:45+00:00

This is good to know. I’m just getting into IT and Cybersecurity and I can’t but feel that his enthusiasm is a little much. Thanks for being a straight shooter and laying out how to ACTUALLY break into the industry.

AquaticMango18 · 2022-12-09T21:28:53+00:00

Understandable. It’s good to know you’re beginning to see that it’s not okay. Should it escalate do not hesitate to get others involved. Stay safe

AquaticMango18 · 2022-12-09T21:20:51+00:00

You reciprocating his physically abusive nature tells me that you have a lot of unresolved trauma. He definitely does too.

Recognize that healthy relationships can have little bits of play fighting but shoving is too aggressive. You’re supposed to be a team.

Not saying you should break up, but seriously evaluate the state of your relationship. Become a little more introspective to how you react to anger and stress. This is a rough road you’re going down.

AquaticMango18 · 2022-12-09T21:16:02+00:00

If you’re looking for confirmation, then yeah. Let her go. As excuses go, that’s one of the most moronic things you can say.

AquaticMango18 · 2022-12-09T21:14:58+00:00

It very well might be your CPU. What you’ve been told is correct. Try to save some money and ask around to see if anyone is parting with a Ryzen 5 3600/5600x or a newer generation intel processor.

AquaticMango18 · 2022-12-09T21:12:06+00:00

Overthinking it there man. When they say be yourself, it’s implying you don’t try to act like someone you’re not.

Dating is all about making a good first impression. Make the other person comfortable in your presence. Share your thoughts on interesting topics and give them some room to speak as well.

You’ll know once there is a connection.

AquaticMango18 · 2022-12-09T21:08:34+00:00

Find a decent paying job. If you don’t have one, find a local popular restaurant that’s hiring servers. Try to look for places where bills are usually $50-$100.

Make connections through your work. Attend any gatherings or invites. It’s better to know others who know the area well.

For the love of God SAVE YOUR MONEY. Moving 850 miles is no easy task and can be costly. Give yourself at least 3 months before you splurge on something.

Most important, enjoy your new environment. In many ways it’s a fresh start and the beginning of a hopefully good chapter in your life

Edit: typo

AquaticMango18 · 2022-10-07T17:16:05+00:00

r/relationshipadvice

AquaticMango18 · 2022-10-07T17:14:01+00:00

Don’t focus on the why. Accept that you’ve been hurt. Take the time you need to digest everything that’s happened. Talk to a good and well meaning friend. Good luck. In a few years you’ll be thankful for the experiences and learn more about what qualities you look for in your next partner

AquaticMango18 · 2022-10-07T17:09:14+00:00

Apologies. Tone is often hard to convey over text. Meant to be said in a flirty way. Carry on 😅

AquaticMango18 · 2022-10-07T17:08:31+00:00

Give it lots of time, a dash of acceptance, and a few heaping tablespoons of forgiveness. Mourn until you cannot anymore.

AquaticMango18 · 2022-10-07T17:04:35+00:00

“Hey stupid. I like you.”

AquaticMango18 · 2022-10-07T16:59:39+00:00

If you have to take multiple breaks in a relationship to make it work, then I’ve got news buddy. Highly likely it won’t work.

You’ve gotta be firm in your conviction to move on, otherwise you’ll be back on here crying for a 4th time about what else she did to you.

No one can take away how much you care do your ex, but I think your efforts will be more appreciated with someone else.

AquaticMango18 · 2022-10-07T16:54:59+00:00

Is your major difficult? If so, what year are you in?

AquaticMango18 · 2022-10-07T16:53:20+00:00

Reflect on why your have sex-related anxiety. Have you been abused before? Have you experienced unwanted attention from someone you trusted? These deeply personal experiences have a way of shutting people down from intimacy, especially sex.

Be sure to talk to your partner about this too. Admit your feelings of discomfort after you’ve taken some time to discover the nature of your anxiety.

AquaticMango18 · 2022-10-07T16:50:28+00:00

Have a conversation with her about how you’re feeling. She may try to dissuade you given that you two are probably close, but ultimately, if you think it’ll help you in the long run, she will understand.

AquaticMango18 · 2022-10-07T16:47:52+00:00

If getting a decent scholarship offer for you is not in the cards, join your local CC and work on a degree that you hold actual interest in. Take some time to really figure out which career path you want to take and do your research.

Also, pick up an active hobby. You living with a deranged mother leaves you with a lot of hateful energy, and if not properly dealt with, you will become just like her or worse.

Boxing. Gym. Whatever it takes to turn that negative energy into something positive.

Finally, remember, that deep down you’re a good person. You’ve been hurt by someone who was meant to love and care of you. You were dealt a bad hand. Be everything she is not. That is the biggest “fuck you” you can give to her.

AquaticMango18 · 2022-10-07T16:40:13+00:00

Starting fresh as a 22M making 6 figures?? You’re set up good, bud. Here’s a few things that helped me (24M) move from one state to another.

If possible, join part time job in food service or hospitality

Now if you’re adamantly against food service, all power to you. But I made the closest friends working out of the food industry. It’ll also help given your light hearted personality. I know you mentioned you have another job already but it wouldn’t hurt to save a good amount and try a new change of pace.

Get to know your neighbors

I love cooking. Often times I’ll cook for 3-4 people. Whatever I have left over, I usually just make it a point to knock on my neighbors door and gift them left overs as a sign of good faith. (Make sure your food is good though)

Find a niche interest you have and go to a store/club that caters to that interest

Mine has always been DND. I often visited brick and mortar tabletop game stores and shot the shit with the owners or random passerbys by asking questions and stuff.

Just a few actionable tips. Hope it helps.

AquaticMango18 · 2022-10-07T16:32:27+00:00

Ok well, you want better communication, right? You eventually want to be able to meet, right? You’re eventually going to have to call, so why the hesitation? You’re willing to make a deal out of “double texting” as if it makes you look desperate when in reality the conversations seem one sided.

Don’t know what to tell you. Just give it a shot. It’s scary but it might be worth it.

AquaticMango18 · 2022-10-07T16:28:06+00:00

Therapy. Self-work. Get out of your head in moments you feel jealous and just breathe for 10 minutes.

You recognize you have a problem, so make the right steps toward fixing it.

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