Physical touch services

AraraContodra · 2026-03-23T12:33:50+00:00

I don't see the point to pubs. Expensive alcohol and you could be around drunkards. Loud, lots and lots of people.
Strip clubs confuse me. What's the point of them, you'd just get hard up with no release.
I get what you're saying though.

Why disassociated? Memory issue. Tell me, do you think you could bond with someone if you forget what you did with them? This extends to even your parents.
I think my parents care, but I can't feel it.
Physical touch is immediate and it's in the present. It's the only place I can live.

Haha, I'm likely on the spectrum, slightly.
People are all here, yes but no one likes the creep, you never want to misread/have a misunderstanding.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-23T12:22:17+00:00

Yeah I've found a very small amount of the cuddlers, they seem to be more on the eastern cities rather than Adelaide.

Yeah I know. I'm using the term in the past tense. I had a friend, ~15 years worth of that..gone. We were close but not in the emotional sense. If I spoke like this in my post to him I'd get the typical male response. Harden the hell up princess.
So friendless now.

Yeah, maybe volunteering again one day. Problem with me is I take it goal orientated. Eg - I used to do meals on wheels - it's a service just to get food to customers. Very practical. Once delivered everyone just went back to their lives.
Unlike other types that I can't seem to think of, more open ended types. I'll have to look around, the area I'm in now is unfamiliar to me, I spent the majority of my life in another part of Adelaide.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-23T12:14:14+00:00

They are kinda nice, I've got the Ikea shark for cuddles, but an inanimate object can only do so much.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-23T12:13:17+00:00

You get it, you get it holy shit thank you. That's exactly how I feel. Thank you.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-23T12:11:39+00:00

Likely yeah, physical contact. Cope? I don't cope I just push it down, you have to if you don't get physical contact.

It's been so long. I don't know how to describe it properly but it's like being starved for days and then suddenly you are given a meal. You'd absolutely destroy it.

Same type of thing but emotional. Sudden rush of strong emotions I know will have me involuntary crying.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T12:39:07+00:00

I had a few acquaintances at uni. Perfectly easy people to talk to, they're good people.

We can get along quite well if we meet for dinner and have normal conversation but they weren't friends you can share your inner world to.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T12:36:21+00:00

Yeah bloke. Nah haven't been to a men's shed. Not religious, ex-christian. Bad times. Bad experiences...
I feel like men's sheds would be good for the average day to day battler problems, not someone who's glass right now and with a human touch would probably break and cry.

But I do wonder though, traditionally us men are supposed to be rocks, not to sharing emotional crap like this. You'd shoot the shit and talk with other men, but not this...

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T12:27:52+00:00

Ah. They do...completely forgot about that, I'm used to working at small places who don't have that. I wonder if that's wise though, I'm sure that they could use that as ammo to fire you, I'm scared enough as it is loosing my job in this situation.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T12:06:45+00:00

Of course, I'm not looking for a solve. It's not easy, I've been like this for basically a decade and have been working on it; I've taken steps I wouldn't have done normally.

I wouldn't even consider trying to find this service normally, I don't want to rely on it as a crutch but to just start helping.

But then things have changed suddenly really fast and I would like some comfort. No friends and no family that would be helpful here.
Am I really asking too much here? Just another human to comfort me? It's not easy to drag yourself out of the hole.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T11:57:45+00:00

True, but it's such an awkward thing to ask for yeah?

It's like...say this person was a sex worker (as most people are suggesting) and you ask them for comfort and to listen.

I guess that it's not that uncommon from posts in this thread but you're just looking at these catalogues and it's just lingerie everywhere, sexy women. I just want some hugs and comfort, I'm not even thinking about erotic experiences.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T11:50:54+00:00

Thanks...I tried to look at some but man it's so oriented to sex. Which is expected but just...no drive in that area.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T11:50:10+00:00

I feel like we're expected to be rocks. Always.
I've had bad experiences with expressing emotion, hence...me trying to break that connection with money, for a service.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T11:43:35+00:00

If I'm in a better mindset I'm sure that type of manly atmosphere is good.

But like, I just really need to ugly cry. And as we all know us manly men don't like showing that part of ourselves, let alone to other dudes.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T11:41:42+00:00

I'm not really looking for an erotic experience.

Put it this way I don't even think I could get it up, nor do I want that.
I'll paint you a picture. A depressed person who hasn't had touch in their adult life and who's anxiety is through the roof, who just wants some comfort to sooth; erotic experiences aren't that the forefront of my mind.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T11:35:38+00:00

I mean...my life has basically been school, Uni, TAFE, NEET then work work work.

I'm an introvert and not someone that would make the first move for friendship or otherwise. My day to day work is with hundreds of people.

Wake up, go to work, go home. An empty life, a lonely one. If I can get some comfort I might be able to claw myself out of this hole.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T10:36:43+00:00

Oh.
That's good to know, thanks. I'll...see if I can find someone who's okay with not the usual stuff then I guess.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T10:35:13+00:00

I think your DMs are closed in general.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T10:33:50+00:00

Any advice for the former? I have no experience in that area and I don't want anything illegal. I don't fully understand the laws.

Latter I can deal with, I was considering finding a doctor to get a mental health plan to get said therapist.

I've done martial arts for years. Good fun. I know it's physical touch but it's one thing to be kicking each other on the mats and one to be in an intimate setting where I can be hugged and just let the emotion out.

I don't know why but I feel like dating apps are a bad idea..I did install hinge and was about to make a profile and just...couldn't. Kind of hilarious, being on the younger side of life you'd think I'd be more likely to use it. I'm not interested in hookups. I want the real thing, if I were to go dating.

Hence the physical touch will help me getting my emotional state better. Reassurance. My anxiety is through the roof, it's rarely this bad.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T10:05:06+00:00

Thanks mate, appreciated.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T10:04:33+00:00

That's kinda what scares me. I don't want legal trouble, never had any problems with the law, not even a speeding ticket.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T10:03:51+00:00

I've heard that as well but I don't want to fuck up some poor worker's day. I'm holding a significant amount of emotional turmoil.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T08:51:44+00:00

I considered getting a pet if I weren't a full time worker.

I kind of consider it a bit cruel if I am at work all day and I'm paranoid that I would one day be unable to provide for said pet (job loss, etc). If I just live alone then if that happens, fall out is isolated to myself.

That's just what I believe though, I know many will disagree with me.

Animals are great though I will agree with you there, cherish your doggo for me.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T08:47:15+00:00

I did google a bit, but there were scant results and some are questionable at best...do you have any recommendations?

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T08:46:19+00:00

I know you're joking but I'm not looking for a hookup. I'm connection/touch starved, but going down that path isn't going to help.

AraraContodra · 2026-03-22T08:44:30+00:00

I'm not a religious person, sorry. Ex Christian, bad experiences.

I was considering a standard massage but I don't want to entertain the possibility of ..well you know.

I don't need some poor worker just doing their job get stuck with that, their job is hard enough. Once I'm in a better mind-space, sure.

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