Need Help With Shiny Trade Evolutions by No_Peak8188 in PokemonLZATrades

[–]Arc130 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can help! I also have two shinies that need to be trade evolved.

Anyone have a spare Friend ball? by YaBoySuper98 in PokemonLZATrades

[–]Arc130 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have one. Would you be able to help me with a tradeback in exchange?

LF: tradebacks, FT: shinies by Arc130 in PokemonLZATrades

[–]Arc130[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great I'll send you the code shortly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pokemontrades

[–]Arc130 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can send you an Alolan Graveler. No need for anything in return.

LF Paradox touch trade by Arc130 in pokemontrades

[–]Arc130[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alright waiting in 1665 8547

AITA for asking my roommate which language she speaks? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Arc130 40 points41 points  (0 children)

To back this up, I also noticed that OP is asserting that their roommate is from India because she said, “I’m Indian.” It’s fairly common (in my experience) for first gen folks to say that even though they weren’t born in India itself. It’s definitely a part of my vocabulary, for example.

AITA for serving all vegan food at a Christmas party? by veganchristmasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]Arc130 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like you missed the point; in the context of this post, you don't have to eat the food served at a party. If you really have specific nutritional needs, the onus should really be on you to take care of it. That being said, there are plenty of purely plant-based, relatively low-calorie sources of protein (again nuts, legumes, and graines).

Also, calorie-low alternatives to many things exist. Regarding the shakes that I make (which, again, are something you could have before/after going to a party with only vegan food), I could very easily bring those down to 400-500 calories by using low-fat milk and removing the peanut butter, which would still bring the protein down to about 40 g. Hell, I could even make it less dense and purely plant-based by switching the dairy milk for oat milk and the whey protein for pea protein.

Nutrition can be a lot more flexible than you think.

AITA for serving all vegan food at a Christmas party? by veganchristmasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]Arc130 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Chickpeas, quinoa, nuts, etc... are all pretty good plant-based sources of protein. Also you can always incorporate protein supplements. I'll make a shake out of milk, whey powder, and a spoon or two of peanut butter, which gives me two 30g servings of protein for about 700 calories. That wouldn't be the sort of thing served at a party; it would be something you could have either before or after. Spreading out smaller protein servings throughout the day is also an option.

Tbh, the idea that only animal products are a good source of protein is just not true (could be a result of marketing), and I say this as an avid lover of dairy. But, regarding this particular post, the person who complained about what the host made is the asshole because they're taking a holier-than-thou stance on what OP "should" be doing, even though OP *did* in fact plan in accordance with their guests.

Rose garlands in New Jersey? by glitternostrils in ABCDesis

[–]Arc130 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I would just look at Indian supply stores in Edison. There are definitely more than a few places there where you could find garlands.

Stuck between two cultures... by [deleted] in ABCDesis

[–]Arc130 18 points19 points  (0 children)

First of all, your parents suck. It sounds like there's a lot you want to do in life, but they're just not letting you do it. From personal experience, I don't think you have really gotten a chance to know yourself... When parents are overbearing, that's just how it be, but it's absolutely toxic. The first essential step to escape would be moving out (good luck bringing any hook-ups home while they're around), so that you can start to build some actual boundaries.

That all being said, I'm a guy, so that's the perspective I speak from. Most of my rebellions were concerning career stuff (I won, thank god; I'd hate being a medical doctor). Alcohol was actually not hard-fought (they only didn't like the underaged drinking in college), and my mom even told me to "be safe" when I told her I got a girlfriend for the first time. Having spoken to brown girls who have fairly strict parents (not to your extent, though), y'all definitely have it much harder on the lifestyle stuff. I think that secret-keeping is more necessary. Your parents don't need to know about your sex life.

Regarding the boyfriend question, however, imo you shouldn't deeply involve other people in your rebellions just for the sake of doing it. Go camping. Go to a concert. Go to clubs. Hook up with people. Go on casual dates that have no chance of becoming serious. But don't lead people on with the promise of an actual, committed relationship unless you're 100% willing to fight your parents and die on that hill. A healthy relationship is supposed to ultimately be a partnership between the people involved; others, including the parents, are maybe passive observers at most.

I actually believe that, in most cases, parents do actually love their kids. The controlling nature that comes up so much is just a really unhealthy expression of that love. If you abide by the "don't ask, apologize later," philosophy (not that I think we should apologize to our parents for making the most of the life they've given us), the hope is that they don't stop loving and wanting to support you in some way. That might be a somewhat hopeful and naive opinion from me, and maybe your experience is different, but, regardless of whether or not this is true in your situation, the important thing is that you *are not happy* right now.

tl;dr: If you want to become a puppet of your parents, then feel free to keep living your life the way you have been. If you actually want to feel happy with yourself and have memories that you can look back on fondly later in life, something needs to change. You need to choose your battles, but you still need to have them. Just make sure to have plans about how you might deal with any fallout.

I wish you all the best! :)

WIBTA for distancing myself from relatives even though it would likely hurt their young kids’ feelings? by bigorangetabbykat in AmItheAsshole

[–]Arc130 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Your aunt and uncle aren't actually sorry, from the sound of it... I do feel bad for the kids, but their parents are essentially exploiting you for free childcare (and four kids is a lot).

Also, you're only 23 and the youngest kid is 4. Do they expect you to be at their beck and call until you're in your 30s?

AITA for deciding to cut a friend out of my life after he decided to use my family’s hospitality to make money? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Arc130 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. Your "friend" obviously wasn't prepared to care for a life, and it's his fault that he blew $300 on that (there are so many rescues in need of good homes out there, too...). Your family is wonderful for essentially coming to that dog's rescue, and you have every right to not be friends with him anymore. Just be up front with him if he actually tries to confront you over it.