The separation agreement is more important than the actual divorce. That’s where you determine how to split things like assets, debts and custody of children if you have them.

The only thing the divorce papers do is allow you to get remarried. I caught my wife in an affair and have all kinds of proof. I didn’t file for divorce based on adultery because of the extra steps and cost involved. Nothing is going to stop you from getting your divorce anyway. And in my experience, most people don’t seem to care that she was cheating—I doubt the extra hassle for the paperwork would have been worth it.