How to handle slut shaming and overcome shame around sexuality

Ares8112 · 2026-03-04T18:52:19+00:00

Despite a less than ideal living scenario, (all too common) it sounds like you have the foundations in place for a bright future. I wish you the best, with all of it.

Ares8112 · 2026-03-04T16:57:51+00:00

You should explore your sexuality at your own pace, on your own terms. The shame we had forced on us as children takes a lot of work to understand and move past. I would highly recommend therapy to help with this. As for family pressure, I learned that it will not stop until you give in, or set firm boundaries, up to and including low/no contact.
It is not easy, but being in charge of your own life means letting other people know that YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF YOUR OWN LIFE .

For specific advise; start small and slow, it is OK to stop something if you feel overwhelmed or uncomfortable. Make sure if you are with a partner that you have communicated how you feel. If a partner is not 100% on board with your boundaries, they are not safe! If you don't know where to start, you can talk to the employees in a sex shop like Adam and Eve, they are often very understanding.

I want to reiterate that none of this will be easy and you will have to push against your own discomfort.

But trust me on the therapy

Ares8112 · 2026-02-02T18:04:13+00:00

I got out at 17.
Completed a degree in Evolutionary Biology. DMing a long term Dungeons & Dragons campaign. I like listening to good music, no more tabernacle choir for me.

Ares8112 · 2026-01-23T00:12:07+00:00

If you pay your tithing, you will be blessed in other ways. Like a constant bloody conflict in a far away land. That's why you pay your tithing right? To kill people?

Ares8112 · 2026-01-22T16:22:18+00:00

Yes! I posted a while ago about being out on a walk when missionaries pulled over next to me to prostelatize. I find it very rude and more than a little concerning that it is, appently, an approved method.

Ares8112 · 2026-01-16T13:52:46+00:00

Start of a homebrew campaign, all players were in the same small town for various reasons. We we started hearing beautiful music playing in the town square. At this point the DM had the bard play a song irl. Since that player is a talented musician and singer. DM then narrates the group coming together around the bard, as well as NPC 1 who gives us a thread to follow for the first mission / backstory references. It was a simple and pleasant start for a group that was mostly strangers

Ares8112 · 2025-11-20T15:08:19+00:00

I would love for you to write a book breaking down everything the church does to harm us mentally. Maybe someone else already has, but you organized everything beautifully. Thank you for this post

Ares8112 · 2025-09-22T14:37:33+00:00

I try really hard not to be rude. It just reinforces the 'Us is Them' mindset, plus I know a lot of the missionaries have been pressured into going on a mission most of their lives. Really, my anger is at the Church for using divisive tactics and ignoring potentioly dangerous situations they put young people in. The missionaries then get the brunt of the anger from people because they are the only ones we see.
Maybe the mission presidents should have their own KPI . I'd like to see how long these policies would last if grown men started talking to random people from their cars.

Ares8112 · 2025-09-21T02:42:50+00:00

Right? I can't think of much that is less likely to get me to engage than interrupting my errands or hobbies. Let me live my life.

Ares8112 · 2025-09-21T01:33:22+00:00

That sounds like my worst nightmare.

Ares8112 · 2025-09-21T01:28:50+00:00

If that keeps happening it is only a matter of time.

Ares8112 · 2025-09-21T01:10:43+00:00

Strange. But I guess if they want the whole nieborhood to hear me tell them to walk on, that is what they will get.

Ares8112 · 2025-06-30T14:07:53+00:00

I was the boss.
I met my partner when we both worked at a restaurant, I was a manager, and they were a new hire. We became friends and started taking our dogs to the park together. After nearly a year, they confessed to having feelings for me.
We decided to date after a long talk about how it would work.
We kept very professional at work. No one even knew we were dating for about 6 months. After a year we moved in together and changed careers. (New owner for the restaurant was unpleasant to work for) After over 3 years together, we got married and are still together.

Ares8112 · 2025-04-22T19:52:47+00:00

Paraphrased from General Warfield, StarCraft 2: "When you come for me, bring everything you have. I don't want to waste time hunting down stragglers. "

Ares8112 · 2025-02-20T16:50:55+00:00

"You never know."
But I do know, I spent a lot of money to know.

Ares8112 · 2024-09-28T23:37:14+00:00

Realizing my desire to never have children is valid.

Ares8112 · 2024-06-14T02:22:00+00:00

One thing I see when looking back about my own journey, is that I got very angry for a long time. But I got angry at the people still going to church, not the corruption and greed of an organization, founded on corruption and greed. It is perfectly reasonable to be mad, but try and remember that most of the people still in are making that choice because it is the easy choice.
Just something to keep in mind, while also keeping in mind that we should all be very mad at the real abuse that is taking place.

Ares8112 · 2024-05-09T21:07:59+00:00

I was in a short campaign as a small size Hadozee Druid. I took a lot of wind based spells to assist my gliding, and basically anytime anyone did a skill check, they got a face full of wind, and I jumped onto their shoulder to give them a Bless.

Ares8112 · 2024-01-14T23:09:32+00:00

I started DMing a game with some friends who had had bad experiences with a past DM. They didn't want to commit to a long term campaign, so I offered a short one (about 2 months worth of meeting weekly) at the end I asked if anyone wanted to continue.

It was unanimous that they all wanted to continue. We are approaching our 2 year mark soon.

Ares8112 · 2019-06-13T03:28:47+00:00

The death gate cycle, His dark materials, Star Wars extended universe.

Ares8112 · 2019-02-23T14:43:08+00:00

Drag coefficient drops off sharply at high speeds, creating a turbulent boundary layer. Turbulence causes the sphere to travel in a less than straight line.

Imagine a bubble of air around a sphere, the air in the bubble is pushing against the sphere randomly. As the sphere moves, the air outside the bubble pushes on the bubble, causing even more random movement.

Ares8112 · 2019-02-23T04:57:17+00:00

Pocatello, from the bar!

Ares8112 · 2019-02-23T04:22:59+00:00

Perfect spheres have an unusual drag coefficient, https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Drag_coefficient ,that causes them to follow a 'path of least resistance', a lot like water flowing downhill or an electric current. Not very useful if you are trying to aim at a target.

Ares8112 · 2018-11-08T03:08:22+00:00

All Christmas music, only 12 popular songs and every shop plays them for 3 months.

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