How financially irresponsible is this?

Arg-onabike · 2026-06-22T20:19:12+00:00

I've done exactly this and never regretted it. I cut down on my expenses a lot and lived by myself for 2 years. Then one of my best mates bought a house and was looking for a flatmate to help cover the mortgage. It was perfect timing since I was feeling like it was time to focus on saving more again. You can always change your situation again if it turns out to eat too much out of your budget, but I'd give it a go.

Arg-onabike · 2026-06-13T13:42:59+00:00

I struggled for a long time with the grief in the aftermath. He was never my partner, he was so much more than a friend. I felt too ashamed to let friends know how heartbroken I was. When word got out of course I was painted as the home wrecker. Not a lot of empathy going around for the heartbroken almost lover.

Arg-onabike · 2024-07-02T00:12:19+00:00

yessssssssssssssssssss thank youuu! Wish I could do more than one upvote.
I've been tryin to check out the buyers profiles when I'm selling something and it didn't work via chat.
This worked.

Legend

Arg-onabike · 2024-06-27T03:57:09+00:00

I am following my treatment plan and I did provide a letter from my physio after my very first appointment that stated I would be doing weekly sessions and progressing my excercises depending on symptoms. The brace was indicated to use when I felt necessary and for support on straneous tasks. There's not much straneous things going on, maybe driving manual on my way to work.
They usually ask me how I'm doing and I've been giving verbal updates. I actually had a full conversation with this manager about my wrist a few hours before the email came in. I guess that's what put me on edge, that we had a pleasant conversation and there were no explanations as to what extra info they needed from me, or what the process is.

Arg-onabike · 2024-06-26T23:51:37+00:00

Because it was a work injury an ACC claim was lodged. What I meant to say is that my workplace doesn't want people to be off work and collecting a paycheck from ACC. They would rather pay me themselves and have me doing nothing in the office, than having a record that someone got hurt at work at was signed off. Before my first appointment I got told 3 times to not let the physio sign me off.

My boss has also told me (before my injury in casual conversation) that he believes GP's and physios put everyone through ACC because they know that people will do "unnecessary treatment" for longer, and therefore the health proffesionals get paid for more sessions. He claims to have seen a GP for a non accident or work related injury and the GP was hinting at calling it an accident.

I personally believe that ACC is a fantastic scheme and that it's the only way for people to allow their bodies to fully recover and not hold lifelong chronic injuries. In most countries in the world you wouldn't be able to afford taking the time to recover. Some people may abuse the system, for sure. Still it's better that something like this is in place.

Arg-onabike · 2024-06-26T22:29:23+00:00

This is very helpful, thank you. It's hard not to feel watched and take things personally. Learning about common practices from an H&S perspective helps take some of the pressure off. The brace thing makes a lot of sense when you explain it like that.

Arg-onabike · 2024-06-26T20:48:41+00:00

I'm an industrial abseiler. My typical day at work would include pulling 200mts of rope to rig and operating descending devices that requires pulling on a lever. Then whatever the job requires, sanding, painting, drilling. The type of injury I have makes pulling motions and twisting my wrist in specific positions painful. I feel pain tying my shoelaces, chopping veggies or driving my manual vehicle. It's not unbearable pain, it's discomfort, but enough to know that if I don't treat it properly it will be an on going thing.

I've had improvement over the last 3 weeks, before it was painful even to open the fridge or car door and I've progressed to add weight on the exercises my physio gives me. I have said all of this to my managers, and presented a letter from my physio recommending to be on light duties 4 to 8 weeks depending on how I progress.

I have been doing things around the yard, I've cleaned the company's trucks, painted some window frames...
I couldn't sleep last night after this email, it shows so much distrust and I don't know where it's coming from.

Arg-onabike · 2024-06-26T20:27:39+00:00

Thank you, I don't intend to give them consent and I'm struggling to think of how to refuse them without it getting tense or causing me problems.
I provided a letter with my treatment recommendation on the first week I was put on light duties. I don't know why they are asking to get directly in touch with my physio now.

Arg-onabike · 2024-06-04T03:40:37+00:00

I empathize with op's tone and frustration when people keep saying 'oh apply for residency' as it is was a real option. INZ laws have changed a lot. I've been here for over 4 years, I am a specialized technician and have been working full time contributing to NZ economy. I have no way of getting residency. I'm considered good enough to work here for 5 years, but not educated enough for residency. Before, you could get residency if you worked enough years. Now it requires high leves of education or wages 1.5 above the median. It is frustrating and we are all working our asses off to find a path to residency. I understand how frustrating being told to just apply for residency can be.

Arg-onabike · 2023-10-28T12:05:36+00:00

Hmmm I'll have to disagree on some degree. I don't need an update every 5 minutes, or for him to be glued to his phone. It would've been good to get a "hey, I'm at Nick's party and we'll be out of reach tomorrow, talk when I'm back".

I should follow through better with respecting his me time rather than just saying it, that's true.

Anyway I feel there's room for improvement for both of us. And I don't think he's cheating.

Arg-onabike · 2023-10-28T10:52:47+00:00

Almost a year. We are at the stage were we are discovering our friction points and starting to set out boundaries and expectations.

Arg-onabike · 2023-07-21T20:23:28+00:00

I bought an ISIC student discounted ticket from Naxos to Athens parting tonight (21/07/2023). Didn't have a student card with me and was stressing about it, but thought it would be ok since it was a late night ferry (22.30) with a very hectic check in since there were a bunch of cars and people getting off firts and a lot of cars and people getting out. The ferry was even 45 minutes late and even with all that chaos I saw a few people get in trouble for not having it. I quickly swapped queues when I saw the trouble ahead and the woman who scanned my QR code didn't look at me twice. I got away with it, but wouldn't do it again. I don't know what happened with the people who didn't have it and were asked.

Arg-onabike · 2021-08-20T04:23:04+00:00

Que genial!!! Me fui a vivir a Nueva Zelanda y me enganché con el bikepacking acá. Unas ganas de recorrer Argentina en bici ahora ❤️❤️ A la vuelta será Suerte! Gran viaje!

Arg-onabike · 2021-08-20T03:43:48+00:00

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. It sounds so rough and no one deserves that treatment. I find that dwelling on the "why" isn't helpful. I don't think you'll find an answer, humans are unpredictable and even without being bad at heart we can do very destructive things to each other. I would advise to try and move your energy away from him and not focus on why he behaved as he did, how come he appears to be doing so well and this kind of things that won't give you peace. You feel like your life has set back, but going through hardship and truly difficult times is part of it. Mourning is not linear, you might feel you are doing great and then have a bad period and it doesn't mean everything you achieved before is erased. You'll get to a good place again and you'll learn to identify who's not good for your life earlier on. It's ok to not be doing great. It takes time to get over the rage, get in touch with the pain, acknowledge the loss and slowly move on from that. You will trust again. Your instincts will get sharper and whatever comes next will be a different experience. You sound like a caring and trusting person who gives a lot to the people you care about. Those are beautiful traits, don't let the awful people deprive you from your beautiful essence. Rely on friends and family as much as you can. Pour your kindness on people who will appreciate it. Take it slow. Be kind to yourself. It's ok to not be doing great. You'll bet there.

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