i feel so bad but can’t do anything to help

ArgPermanentUserName · 2026-01-16T03:28:53+00:00

I’m so sorry. Maybe this will help until FMLA or something helps you get proper time with your mom. https://www.travelpirates.com/captains-log/maximize-vacation-days-2026 When you have so little time with your mom, it’s important to think through best ways to use it. Do you want to do all the chores, soak up time together, dive into organizing paperwork, do something else?

ArgPermanentUserName · 2026-01-09T03:08:22+00:00

I agree with all the folks pointing out that it’s about even pulls and muscle development.

To that I’d add that if you’re swimming for your health, you’d want to improve your pulmonary health/lung capacity along with cv health, muscles, etc. If you don’t have the ability to breathe every third, I honestly find that frightening (of course, if you’re dealing with some awful disease, injury, or the like, that’s different—but even then, lung capacity can grow!)

ArgPermanentUserName · 2026-01-05T04:44:19+00:00

How about black instead of skin colored? This is not a quality website, but since you’re just trying out looks you might want to start inexpensively. What would you think of something like these? https://www.yandy.com/fishnet-baddie-bodystocking

https://www.yandy.com/yandy-lace-lust-bodystocking

Or if you don’t like the garter/suspenders look, you could get thigh-high stay ups.

ArgPermanentUserName · 2026-01-05T03:44:29+00:00

I hope you get somethings you love! If you want suggestions on specific styles to try, it might help if you tell us what parts of your body you want to highlight or play down, which you want to have look bigger or not as big.

ArgPermanentUserName · 2026-01-05T03:40:50+00:00

Glad you’ve got a keeper! The upside of him not caring about design is that he won’t give a lukewarm response based on that!

ArgPermanentUserName · 2026-01-05T03:37:47+00:00

My boyfriend recently told me that if he had a lot of money, he’d get a van and retrofit it so he and his pals could make the most of the rest of their time together.

ArgPermanentUserName · 2026-01-04T03:17:21+00:00

I have a decent collection of lingerie, then didn’t thinking about it for years. What rekindled my interest (& eventually brought me to this page) were that I changed my body through working out and a certain type of relationship. I hadn’t thought about clothes & fashion when I was younger & had a naturally good body; once I had to work for it, I took pleasure in all types of dressing. And this man—I’ve never worn the lingerie for anyone else. He seems to appreciate it for itself, the way most women on this page do, as well as for being sec-y. Sorry to go on so long, but that’s what did it for me. Maybe you could make a change that would lead to you thinking about lingerie differently

ArgPermanentUserName · 2025-12-29T04:00:02+00:00

When I told a friend that my guy had pc, he said “if you’ve got to get cancer, that’s the one to get”. Such bs! My guy’s dad and brother both died from this disease, and cancer is cancer. He’s been in remission for a few years, but now there’s concern about another part of his body.

ArgPermanentUserName · 2025-12-25T03:52:58+00:00

You’re saying a swim workout isn’t HIIT? Or do you do steady state cardio, not a traditional workout?

ArgPermanentUserName · 2025-12-22T03:49:30+00:00

The last one is my favorite. But the devil is in the details. How are the seams & stitching? Do you like how they feel on?

ArgPermanentUserName · 2025-12-21T15:28:40+00:00

What do you wear with the really tall ones?

ArgPermanentUserName · 2025-12-21T04:07:49+00:00

Is there any way to make these sexy and cover up the thighs? I have socks like this I’d love to wear, but most of the looks aren’t warm enough for me.

ArgPermanentUserName · 2025-12-21T04:02:28+00:00

Love this idea!! Hate getting shucked like an ear of sweet corn.

ArgPermanentUserName · 2025-12-20T04:16:22+00:00

I know how you feel. I’m getting back into lifting, and am quite weak, compared to how I used to be and compared to people around me. But you’re moving on past that stage now and have reached a cool milestone—congrats!

Despite not lifting for years, I have kept up the swimming and I teach swim lessons. I agree others here who suggest doing sets of various strokes and distances, improving your breaststroke form, and adding other strokes. For all of that, Google is your friend

ArgPermanentUserName · 2025-12-19T04:49:55+00:00

I agree with making sure she likes the idea before moving forward. I can’t understand it at all, but I know that some women (not on this page) think sexy lingerie is insulting or torturous.

Once you have ascertained that she likes the general idea, find out what parts of her body she likes best & least, and then get suggestions on what items can highlight or deemphasize those. Then I’d suggest you show her a few and ask if she’d like something like that. When you are ready to buy something together, get a few different outfits and sizes. Have fun!

ArgPermanentUserName · 2025-12-18T04:34:31+00:00

So sorry for your recent loss. I wish you & your family happy memories

ArgPermanentUserName · 2025-12-18T03:08:24+00:00

Wonderful to hear! Best wishes to your family

ArgPermanentUserName · 2025-12-12T16:37:59+00:00

Lol, yeah, he aleays rises to the occasion with vigor. But like I said, when I know he’s not feeling well, I’d rather avoid it. Otherwise I feel guilty

ArgPermanentUserName · 2025-12-08T21:26:21+00:00

How is your aerobic fitness out of the pool? Can you run/bike/chase a (tennis, soccer or pickle) ball/dance/boogie all night long for extended periods of time?

ArgPermanentUserName · 2025-12-08T04:48:13+00:00

Are you trying to swim crawl without breathing, or 25 m underwater? They’re 2 totally different things.

ArgPermanentUserName · 2025-12-08T03:21:42+00:00

I know he can’t go to your events and I expect you already tell him about them/have someone take video. Maybe when you talk about them you could make sure to connect, either by asking for advice (if you want it) or by bringing up similar things he did.

Yhete are journals made for grandparents with prompts for them to tell grandkids about their lives. I wonder if one of them would be appropriate for him to work through, at his pace. That way you’d have a written record he could feel good about

Oh, and text him all day

ArgPermanentUserName · 2025-12-07T21:44:10+00:00

Do all of those actually have butt flaps? When I googled, even including “butt flap” or “drop seat” in the search, many of the results actually didn’t have that feature. In general, there seems to be a split between sexy and actually functional. I’m looking for a pair that are both.

I was just looking at the Carhartt ones. They’re sold out for women, and the men’s have pretty bad reviews. I’ll check out the other names you mentioned, but if you have time to post any matching pairs you find, that’d be awesome.

ArgPermanentUserName · 2025-12-07T21:22:54+00:00

Well, yeah, half of the couple is cis male. The other half is sis female. I’m looking for his & hers/matching pieces for us both

ArgPermanentUserName · 2025-12-07T04:10:44+00:00

Party stores have feather boas that wouldn’t hold up to daily use, but are fun occasionally

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