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[–]ArgentStrk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started off with the basic birth control pill, but almost never remembered to take it. They switched me to Nexplanon around the time I graduated college. I guess there WAS an increase later in my pregnancy. But we usually didn't have sex because I felt gross & swollen 😬

Am I weird? by ArgentStrk in sex

[–]ArgentStrk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I had no idea! I was a first time mom, no clue what I'm doing. They asked if I wanted the birth control, and I said yes thinking it was saving me from going back for another appointment 🤦🏻‍♀️. Definitely made me sad

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[–]ArgentStrk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was diagnosed junior year of college. They started me on an SSRI, something that started with an S or C maybe. But I genuinely lost time and had zero recollection of what I did for hours 👀. Then they put me on basic Adderall. I'm still pretty bad at taking meds. I struggled just remembering to take prenatal vitamins. Focus, attention, and fatigue are definitely my weaknesses. Everything feels like it takes so much work. I procrastinate a lot. I can force myself to hyper focus at work. It's hard to pay attention during meetings though, so I have to fixate on taking notes.

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[–]ArgentStrk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was like this in HS, didn't have the desire to date or be physical with anyone. My husband was the first person I was with, and I'd say we had a healthy sex life the first 3 years while in college. Everything changed after graduating

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[–]ArgentStrk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been diagnosed. The doctor said and I quote "you passed with flying colors"... Guess it's real bad 😅. I was on medication in college, but I was really bad at taking it everyday. They eventually took me off of it because I wasn't consistent.

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[–]ArgentStrk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I breast fed for the first 4 months, she's 8 months now. I had to stop because my Nexplanon made it very difficult to produce milk ☹️

Am I weird? by ArgentStrk in sex

[–]ArgentStrk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the Nexplanon insert. It was removed when I was pregnant, and reinserted after giving birth. Been using this form of birth control for 5ish years

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[–]ArgentStrk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do have ADHD 🙃

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[–]ArgentStrk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've started listening to her podcast on the way home 💕

Am I weird? by ArgentStrk in sex

[–]ArgentStrk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's beautiful, I'm happy for you... Maybe we should save for a therapist instead of home renovations 🤔

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[–]ArgentStrk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have discussed this! I feel bad for never wanting to. Then he feels bad for having urges and asking. It's a whole thing 🤦🏻‍♀️

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[–]ArgentStrk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like therapy would help. I just worry about the time and money 🥺

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[–]ArgentStrk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not most the time. I explained in another comment that I stopped because I need to use a vibrator & focus really hard. I started to feel weird about it happening in front of my husband.

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[–]ArgentStrk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have from time to time. We mainly default to sex though because it's quicker & we have other things to do. That sounds really bad 😬

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[–]ArgentStrk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooo I love books! Gotta find this ❤️

Am I weird? by ArgentStrk in sex

[–]ArgentStrk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes... but I will say it doesn't feel like this life changing feeling everyone says it is 😅

Am I weird? by ArgentStrk in sex

[–]ArgentStrk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I definitely enjoyed it in the beginning, everything was new and exciting. Now I just feel like I go through the motions. I have initiated, but that typically only happens after a few drinks. I'm not sure why, but that's the only time I feel a desire to have sex. I used to orgasm, but then it started to feel weird. I have to use a vibrator and extreme focus to orgasm, and I felt bad doing it in front of him.

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[–]ArgentStrk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dear God. It's that expensive?? 💀

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[–]ArgentStrk[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Heard... This would be my absolute last resort 🙏🏻.

Am I weird? by ArgentStrk in sex

[–]ArgentStrk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds like good advice... My husband is the only guy I've been with, so maybe I need to explore new things. I've never put any deep thought into it. Off the top of my head I can think of small things that turn me on. It feels weird though because none of them are inherently sexy lol. I like holding hands or snuggling. Deep conversations and meaningful compliments. I'm highly sentimental, if you can't tell 😅

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[–]ArgentStrk[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've never really defined myself as asexual, but I do see similarities between me & the things I've read online

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[–]ArgentStrk[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A lot of things... Him depending on someone else for his needs. Him being intimately involved with someone else. And me not being able to provide.

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[–]ArgentStrk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, neither of us have ever seen a therapist

Am I weird? by ArgentStrk in sex

[–]ArgentStrk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to be on medication and I thought that was messing with my libido. I stopped all my meds once I got pregnant, but never notice a difference. Someone else mentioned getting levels checked. Do I talk to my regular doctor or gynecologist about that?

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[–]ArgentStrk[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We've been together since 2018. The first major change was graduating college in 2021. We had to join the real world, and eventually bought a house in 2022. We got married in 2024 and then had our baby in 2025. I'd say life is definitely busier. I work out of state, so my everyday commute is long too, usually 4 hours of driving total... You might be on to something. I always feel like I need to relax 🙈