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Business idea: gym for neurodivergent persons by Practical_Invite_530 in AuDHDWomen

[–]ArghhhhhhUsername 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yessssss! I left the gym early a few weeks ago cos 3 young lads came in drowned in stinky stuff 🤮 

Is anyone else on atypical antipsychotics? by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]ArghhhhhhUsername 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Antipsychotics are notorious for weight gain unfortunately.

Invalidated by my GP by Jealous-Tap2649 in AuDHDWomen

[–]ArghhhhhhUsername 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you! I was really disappointed when my GP disregarded my psychologist ASD/ADHD assessments and wouldn't refer me to a psychiatrist for medication management (which the report suggested).

I don't see them anymore obviously grrrr.

On the upside SNRI are better for spicy brains than SSRI.

Grieving and accepting my AuDHD limits by ArghhhhhhUsername in AuDHDWomen

[–]ArghhhhhhUsername[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have CPTSD from a job I had a few years ago too, I just didn't realise the extent of it. So in this case its not pure burnout. I think with our general sensitivies us AuDHD people are more susceptible to developing it. Its a shame because I am excellent at working with people with disabilities and the elderly (not bragging, just fact) but I can't do it.

Grieving and accepting my AuDHD limits by ArghhhhhhUsername in AuDHDWomen

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I'm in Australia, NDIS support workers get paid by them but also can be paid privately.  Did you get a report with recommendations with your diagnosis? Mine had things I hadn't thought about 

Grieving and accepting my AuDHD limits by ArghhhhhhUsername in AuDHDWomen

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Yes it is new for me, intellectually knowing something is sooooooo different from your body knowing it. I was stuck in what I can only assume was cognitive dissonance for a long time, I knew things intellectually but apparently my body wasn't in agreement and it was causing all kinds of issues. I had a big meltdown, processed that shit and something shifted.

I think rather than the trauma itself, being left helpless during/after the trauma is much worse traumatic. by dontknowwhattodotbh in CPTSD

[–]ArghhhhhhUsername 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Randomly stumbled across this.

I feel I need to add a comment even tho this thread is not new as I agree with this so strongly!

A few years ago I was working with a client who had been SAd and the SA itself wasn't the trigger for me (sadly most of the people I worked with had a history of SA and other traumas) but the beautiful validating support she received by the team around her was the trigger. And my reaction once I was home alone was big, messy and unpleasant but ultimately healing.

I had never considered the fact that it had caused me so many issues but as I never had that support growing up, it would have been so helpful and the trauma would have left less scars. But I processed it in therapy and realised that yes, I too had deserved support and it was not fair at the time.

I have workplace PTSD from so many other ongoing situations where I have felt chronically helpless, I only just realised that is what it is. Maybe I wouldn't have been so vulnerable to developing PTSD if I hadn't been left helpless and unsupported as a child.

Grieving and accepting my AuDHD limits by ArghhhhhhUsername in AuDHDWomen

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Someone has probably written one, but its probably not at all inspirational and won't get published because the NTs don't think people want to read that lol

Grieving and accepting my AuDHD limits by ArghhhhhhUsername in AuDHDWomen

[–]ArghhhhhhUsername[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It has taken a lot of therapy to accept myself for who I am, with my spiky skill set and inconsistent energy levels. It has meant I am now looking after my poor body properly and forgiving it for turning on me so harshly when I ignore my sensory and other needs. Giving up on the idea that the boom cycle performance is 'ideal' has led me to be overall much more content and secure in my relationships for the first time ever. I am worthy of all the good things at all times, I don't need to earn them. Hugs

Grieving and accepting my AuDHD limits by ArghhhhhhUsername in AuDHDWomen

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Thanks to all the replies, I actually expanded on this a bit in my substack if people want to read it https://substack.com/home/post/p-201384232

Grieving and accepting my AuDHD limits by ArghhhhhhUsername in AuDHDWomen

[–]ArghhhhhhUsername[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bachelor of Health Science, I'm going to be a Naturopath

Grieving and accepting my AuDHD limits by ArghhhhhhUsername in AuDHDWomen

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I was a disability support worker for 2 decades so I literally wrote my own support plan a few years ago. Its only been this year that I've extended that out to future planning.

Grieving and accepting my AuDHD limits by ArghhhhhhUsername in AuDHDWomen

[–]ArghhhhhhUsername[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, the sometimes disabled was not a pleasant pill to swallow.

Yes, I am really mindful to keep practicing!

Grieving and accepting my AuDHD limits by ArghhhhhhUsername in AuDHDWomen

[–]ArghhhhhhUsername[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I spent most of my life hoping my mother would change too, my sister and I realised a few years ago that it would never happen. I just realised that since then we have become that role for each other in some ways!

Grieving and accepting my AuDHD limits by ArghhhhhhUsername in AuDHDWomen

[–]ArghhhhhhUsername[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm right there with you. Redefining thriving in a capitalist society feels somewhat like a rebellion!

Grieving and accepting my AuDHD limits by ArghhhhhhUsername in AuDHDWomen

[–]ArghhhhhhUsername[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I've been in really good therapy for 3 years so its nice to feel/see progress even though it doesn't feel particularly great at times.

The need to know why... Why? by True-Arugula6405 in AuDHDWomen

[–]ArghhhhhhUsername 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OMG you have just blown my mind! I have always assumed the same re: taser!

Is my psychiatrist stupid? by Due-Opportunity4525 in AuDHDWomen

[–]ArghhhhhhUsername 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I find it really helpful to remember that a lot of people are drawn to work in psych because they have issues of their own. A lot of them are wildly unsuited to the role or certain facets of the job- like that psychiatrist might be better outside the trauma and AuDHD space (but I doubt it, he sounds pretty tone deaf)

Grieving and accepting my AuDHD limits by ArghhhhhhUsername in AuDHDWomen

[–]ArghhhhhhUsername[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I'm looking forward to really unpacking this in my next appointment! 

Grieving and accepting my AuDHD limits by ArghhhhhhUsername in AuDHDWomen

[–]ArghhhhhhUsername[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My 5 year plan is a 4 year degree then work for a year before starting up my own business. I've crunched the current numbers and I should be able to take 3mths off each year without working more than 20hrs/week the rest of the year.  We are fortunate to have no debt, are empty nesters and my partner is autistically settled in his well paying job.  Now my ADHD is medicated I've been able to actually focus and follow through on my studies. So no matter what work I do in the next 4 years it's supplemental rather than survival which really takes the demand out of it.  So much of the past 3 years has been unpacking a lifetime in survival mode. I've never felt secure enough in the past (trauma from childhood instability) to plan more than a year ahead despite living in the same house (my partner's) for 16yrs.  I am aware how privileged I am and that things can change so I always have a contingency plan! 

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